The next day

[Atlas]

Okay I'm kind of stuck so I'll give you an outline of what's going on. I go to a college by the way. Anyways:

I game a HB10, get her to like me, sleep with her! Everything is awesome. However, the next day I wouldn't mind seeing her again, because she's a cool girl and who couldn't use a little more ass. I waited a day, then the next day I asked if she wanted to hang out later that night. She was really excited and said that she had to do some things but would call me when I'm done. I wanted to hang out because now Thanksgiving is coming up and everyone goes home, and I don't want to lose whatever spark that is left from the previous night. However, she didn't call, and I wasn't going to sound desperate enough to call her and make sure she was coming.

I plan on doing some Deangelo next time I see her a call her out on her rudeness for not calling me, but is there any thing else I should do or are there any tactics I can do to revive any of the connection now that we'll be away for a week. This isn't a oneist situation. Just a HB that had a LTR until I finally gamed her enough to break it off with him and go for me.

[EL CHUPACABRA]

Sounds like she had a bad case of "bad sex" just joking! She wants you to stress...wait a day, two if little frank can wait that long! He who cares the least gets the most!!!

[Atlas]

okay good point. I'm confident she that the sex wasn't an issue but I'll see what time does for me

[antivisual]

Chicks get busy etc etc, I wouldn't call her back personally, chicks don't like needy. I'd wait for her to contact you and if she doesn't maybe try one more time in a week or so, but otherwise I wouldn't bother.

[hooks]

yeah dude wait a week, shes probably waiting for you to break 1st, especially if shes a "10"

[Finesse]

If shes a true "10" then she doesnt care. The social value level is completely dependant on how her frame is. If she's blowing you off AFTER you had sex, she probably perceives the situation to be that she conquered you and something you could have done to prevent it was more push pull after sex.

The other misconception is that you must always wait or should wait for her to call you. That is wrong in the sense that your "putting the ball in her court".

Be a man and take the lead.

Remember what Tony Montana said, "First you get the Money, then you get the power, and then you get the women."

Now the money part is irrelevant, but the power part BEFORE the women part is true. You lost the power my friend, and since every situation is different you have to find a way to do it, all we can do here is offer suggestions. Check out some frame control stuff and work on that next time you see her, is my recommendation.

[Atlas]

How could I prevent it? What is push pull? And how do I take the lead by "putting the ball in her court"? I think I'm understanding what your saying but if you could elaborate so I'm sure I'm understanding

[Finesse]

You dont put the ball in her court is what I am saying, you want to maintain control of the interaction, but like they said you dont want to come across as needy. I usually tell them about the midget I saw chasing a dog that they lost the leash to, that reminded me of them. They 90% of the time ask why that reminds me of them and I tell them well she was (insert ethnicity here).

To me it starts the convo back up again, in a non-sexual needy way. It may or may not have other ramifications that I am un-aware of.

Push/pull is the method of pulling her close, whether physically or mentally, and then pushing her away. So for instance, as ya'll are sitting there basking in the glorious glows of aftersex I normally start pushing them off the bed (I will start sprawling out and edging them closer to the edge of the bed) or something else thats playfully teasing. Its even better if they are a aftersex talker type because then you can poke fun at things she says instead. You are conveying to her with push/pull that you arent the needy clingy type after sex, which, in my experiences makes them come back around sooner, and/or makes them want to text or call you the next day.

Dont ever be afraid to talk to a girl. Just be consious about how often you call her and have an agenda about what YOU want to talk about prior to the call. Dont make the call all about your agenda, and always try and end the call before she does. Those are the tips I try and go by when on the phone with a girl.

BTW I wouldnt call her out. Act like it didnt phase you. You are the catch, if you want to get her back just do a take-away, after you re-initiate of course.

[Smirks]

While reading through MM, I found this...and it kind of reminded me of your thread here...

If she flakes on you, don't confront her about it next time you
see her. Are you the guy who sat around and got upset? Or are
you the guy who called over another girl and then forgot all
about it?

Just thought I'd throw that out there.

[Westfall]

Leave her a voicemail that you just got back from the doctor, and you need to tell her something.

When she calls, tell her your Cholesterol is 160.

WF