HELP PLEASE!

[lobo]

I havent been on this site for quite a while. I ended up meeting a girl through some friends and we hit it off pretty good and its been good up until the past month or so. She got out of a pretty lengthy relationship about a month before we met and made it very clear that she was not ready for a relationship as of yet. I too was not ready for any commitment as well. Over time it seems that I was starting to fall prey to the friend zone. After trying a few different things to figure out what her mind set was i approached a friend of mine who is the person who introduced me to PUA.

Normally I would not have made such a big deal about this but i found myself really liking this girl, more than any I have met before. He suggested to me that I take a break from her. Try to pull a short term three month rule. Leave her alone for two or three weeks and then come back in and blow her mind after some heavy homework and tuning of my game.

This seemed like a great idea. for the first week and a half or so she was blowing up my phone and constanly chasing me. I did not completely ignore her... just didnt show a lot of interest. Then a turning point (at least i my mind) came about when we all met up one night for drinks. we started off at the bar and i did a great job of showing her just enough attention to keep her interested but still not chasing her. We then proceeded to a club after the bar. not five minutes after we arrived she and her friend left without so much as a goodbye. The next day she sent me a message saying i acted like a real ass. I called her up and called her out on it asking her what i did that was such an asshole move. When she couldnt come up with anything i turned the tables saying i should be the one thats upset after she walked out without so much as a glance.

My friend and a couple of other people including a couple of wing-girls said it was probably just the fact i did not show her as much attention as i used to.

Any advice or thoughts on the situation would be awesome. Sorry it was such a long post. there's a lot there and it could have been lengthier.

Thanks,
Lobo

[EL CHUPACABRA]

She is not worth your time... Just go out and pick up some ladies and if she comes back then....wahoo! Meanwhile GET LAID! She obviously see you as a chump...don't let let get you down.

[Bull Run]

There are MILLIONS of other women out there that WANT YOU! Find 'em and forget her. You're better than this, don't worry about some chick that can't make up her mind.

[Rhody]

I don't know, man. If she was blowing up your phone and chasing you, then that's the time to let her catch you.

In every sarge, there is a time when you have to show interest. The point is not to avoid showing any interest at all. The point is to show interest at a time and in a way that she knows it's genuine and not just about her looks. I would say showing active disinterest for two weeks or more is a perfect way to land yourself in the friend zone or in her rear view mirror.

Based purely on your account of things, it looks like she showed a lot of interest in you, but is mad that you didn't take the ball and run with it.

[Smirks]

My friend and a couple of other people including a couple of wing-girls said it was probably just the fact i did not show her as much attention as i used to.

This seems pretty head-on. The reel and release can be done to a point, but once you pass that point, doing it again will probably end you up...well where you are now.

Rhody's statement is spot on as well.


You might have a chance to resurrect this, but the advice you'll get from 99% of this forum is to cut your loses and move on.

[Finesse]

Take it sexual. Like really sexual.

Like, "I like your ass." Sexual. Or my favorite, "I want to motorboat you."

What do you have to lose?

[Tribulus1000]

I havent been on this site for quite a while. I ended up meeting a girl through some friends and we hit it off pretty good and its been good up until the past month or so. She got out of a pretty lengthy relationship about a month before we met and made it very clear that she was not ready for a relationship as of yet. I too was not ready for any commitment as well. Over time it seems that I was starting to fall prey to the friend zone. After trying a few different things to figure out what her mind set was i approached a friend of mine who is the person who introduced me to PUA.

Normally I would not have made such a big deal about this but i found myself really liking this girl, more than any I have met before. He suggested to me that I take a break from her. Try to pull a short term three month rule. Leave her alone for two or three weeks and then come back in and blow her mind after some heavy homework and tuning of my game.

That was good advice.

This seemed like a great idea. for the first week and a half or so she was blowing up my phone and constanly chasing me. I did not completely ignore her... just didnt show a lot of interest.

Sounds good.

Then a turning point (at least i my mind) came about when we all met up one night for drinks. we started off at the bar and i did a great job of showing her just enough attention to keep her interested but still not chasing her. We then proceeded to a club after the bar. not five minutes after we arrived she and her friend left without so much as a goodbye.

Something weird is up at this point. I would ask her to explain her strange behavior.
Tell her you find her attractive but the leaving thing isn't really cool. Tell her she needs to make it up to you.
Or tell her you met some really, fun cool chick at the bar and how you really enjoy people who are fun, laid back and can carry on a conversation.

The next day she sent me a message saying i acted like a real ass.

She's trying to turn the frame around on you.

I called her up and called her out on it asking her what i did that was such an asshole move. When she couldnt come up with anything i turned the tables saying i should be the one thats upset after she walked out without so much as a glance.

You're not the one with the issue. She got you with the frame turnaround. You need to have a strong frame.
Explaining yourself means qualifying yourself.

What you want is a normal, loving relationship not a "Can I chase you" situation.

My friend and a couple of other people including a couple of wing-girls said it was probably just the fact i did not show her as much attention as i used to.

You also need attention. She needs to give you kisses and hugs and kino and ya know...sex.

Any advice or thoughts on the situation would be awesome. Sorry it was such a long post. there's a lot there and it could have been lengthier.

Thanks,
Lobo

Dude, this is just my opioion. I'm no expert. But you should stop falling into her frame.
You want this girl. Keep going. But don't buy into her drama which is what you did when you asked her what YOU did wrong.
You aren't the one acting like a spoiled brat. She is. So don't qualify yourself.

Reframe it.

She needs to make it up to you. Tell her that you think she's losing you and mean it.
Tell her she needs to be more affectionate...which she does.

This girl may be psycho. Some guys can put up with more drama than others.
Personally, I like very low drama.

[Finesse]

Take it sexual. Like really sexual.

Like, "I like your ass." Sexual. Or my favorite, "I want to motorboat you."

What do you have to lose?

Btw I'm playing...

But seriously..... think sexual...

[Rhody]

Take it sexual. Like really sexual.

Like, "I like your ass." Sexual. Or my favorite, "I want to motorboat you."

What do you have to lose?

Btw I'm playing...

But seriously..... think sexual...

No, I thought that was good advice. He seems like he's acting aloof and she's looking for someone else to chase. If he gets sexual, she might get interested again.

I had a woman I number closed a long time ago. We talked on the phone a couple of times and texted a lot. But it didn't seem like it was going anywhere. Just last night I made a comment in a text about her being a naughty girlscout. She responded back, "and it gets interesting." I got her buying temperature back up after it was fizzling out by getting sexual.

Sometimes when a PUA shows too much active disinterest, the HB gives her interest to someone who will return it.

[Finesse]

But seriously..... think sexual...