what a sad day

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hey guys... first off... i have never been to a meeting nor event... second off... i know i said i'm going to try to perfect pu... third off... i haven't met any of u guys but u guys seem like ya'll are cool people.. the sad thing is, i might be leaving... no not to make my life better... i guess i'm going to have to move away from all this excitment lol... the story is, my ex (one itis from earlier posts) is moving in with me... she is still my ex and we aren't sure what we are going to be... so.. i'm hoping this ain't goodbye... good luck every1... i'll be sure to check in once and awhile :)

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hey guys... first off... i have never been to a meeting nor event... second off... i know i said i'm going to try to perfect pu... third off... i haven't met any of u guys but u guys seem like ya'll are cool people.. the sad thing is, i might be leaving... no not to make my life better... i guess i'm going to have to move away from all this excitment lol... the story is, my ex (one itis from earlier posts) is moving in with me... she is still my ex and we aren't sure what we are going to be... so.. i'm hoping this ain't goodbye... good luck every1... i'll be sure to check in once and awhile :)
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are you joking?

bad,bad move

edit: really bad. ;)

[Guest]

I really hope it works out for you, I do but...

You'll be back.

And after your ex rips out your heart and stomps all over it you'll have to start your journey to becoming a PUA again.

If you think it was hard this time, it's going to be infinitely more difficult the next time...

Good luck, you're going to need it.

[Guest]

Well, you do what you want to do man.

Best of luck.

[Guest]

When I first found out about the community I was in a semi ltr myself. Bad move..or maybe not. The seductiveness of the lifestyle is hard to resist especially when you're seeing results immediately, but it did something else for me that I can see as only positive. It made me really dig down and start to think about what I REALLY wanted and how I wanted to be viewed. When i realized the relationship I was in (mind you for over a year) was not apart of the goals i started setting then I let it go. dammit it's never easy but at least i had the confidence to know I was doing this for myself. Man all this boils down to one thing. Realize what makes you happy and then do it. The cool thing is when you start doing this it helps every part of your game and life in general as well. The hard part is looking past your initial fears and realizing what you really want. For your sake man i hope this works out if it's what you really want. From this post it doesn't sound as if you're sure you know what you want. Look there first and you'll eventually find your answer.

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my response comes more from experience, and nothing to do with community.

I had an LTR move into my place before i KNEW she was 'the one' cause it just made sense since we hung out all the time, save rent, etc.

Well she wasn't the one, and i was miserable, and the problem is, it's so much harder to extricate yourself from the situation. It led me to drink alot, mhy stress went through the roof, etc.. And we were actually IN a relationship.

You guys are EX's and not even together and you're moving in together to 'see what happens' and you call ityourself "a sad day"?? I'm not trying to rip you or anything, i hope for a good outcome, but what's the rush, and why do it if you don't WANT to?

[Guest]

see... i love her and it is hard... i don't even think its going to happen because of recent events... damn but i want it to work out so we'll c... thanks ya'll

[Guest]

i don't blame you for wanting her back but living together as friends????? I mean is she going to be bringing dudes back to your place and sleeping with them?
That's going to drive you fucking crazy.

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no she's not... we are planning to get back together... we're already talkin about it... i just can't trust her with everything i know about her... just now... she lied saying she's walking around with my sister when i knew she was in the car because i can hear the radio in the background... i'm not going to ask her back out until i can trust her... and its going to be awhile

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Hey man I wish you the best of luck but as your fellow man i have to say DON'T DO IT!!!!!!

Your relationship with her already sounds weird and you have to realize this that whatever rules or plans you guys are going to be talking about right now might get thrown out the window the second she moves in. I mean I agree with Rembrandt and Bull Run: its gonna be harder emotionally to get back to the game if something goes wrong and secondly if something does go wrong what ever rules and plans you had with each other will get trashed. Don't look at this as what you WANT but look at this as what you NEED. You obviously want to hang out with her but you need to take CARE of YOU!!!

Well that all I have to say again dude I wish you luck in dealing with this situation,keep us posted.