another drunk post for your amusement... (said very cynically)

[Guest]

Grimm, that was a great read. I respect how you can put it all out there like that.

[Guest]

I think that if you're here because of one woman, then you need to re-evaluate the logic. One experience may have triggered that, but if you think "I'm here because of xyz," then you need to take steps to stop the hang-up.

Maybe I'm fucked up though. I have so many different things going on in my life that are exponentially more important than woman that I don't really sweat the shit anymore...not that I pull that much either.


BTW, thanks for the invite on going out tonight, but I had to sit in my apartment for the first time in 3 months and watch TV.

[Guest]

One thing i've learned in retrospect after recovering from the devastation of losing 'the one' over 10 years ago, is at that time i was uber AFC at that point in my life. Even if i ended up with her, I look back now at how radically different of a man i am now, and all the personal growth and experiences i've gone through in the past 10 years that I NEVER would have if I had ended up with her.

Also if i had ended up with her at that point, i now realize I didn't have the toolbox/skillset to have navigated a successful marriage, i probably would have been the divorced AFC eating mac and cheese because thats all i could afford after alimony and child payments and/or the mildly depressed AFC married guy plodding along life... Getting the girl is really just the beginning of a long journey. That's why i would always emphasize to newbies to learn the true self improvement parts of the community that are applicable on that entire journey, not BS routines and crap like that.

It's cliche but things happen for a reason and props to you for doing something about it. You'll look back stronger and better off at some point from it.

Side note: screen her calls. after that shit, there's absolutely NO reason to take her calls anymore. If that phone rings at 1 AM and you've been drinking and you THINK it's her calling to profess that it's you she now wants, she now realizes what a stupid mistake she's made, and she's been all wrong. it's not.

[Guest]

I want to thank you all for contributing to this thread.

I believe 100% that sticking together this way is making us all stronger and better people as many have already said. You should feel good about yourselves. Your characters make you awesome and I believe in each one of you.

Clearly there are many of us who have been through the same thing with a girl who was important to us, and I am encouraged that together we can and will transform and evolve into something much greater than we ever were before.

Thank you for the kindness and respect. Mostly, thanks for just letting me be myself even if i'm a little off the wall. I am humbled by you all.

That's the last thing that I'll post on this thread because that's all that's left to say.


-Peter

[Guest]

too bad that's your last post. I really owe you man. I'm on a different tip right now with pick-up...but my defining moment was when to told me to open that girl with your canned shit...and you already opened her that night. OMFG, that changed my life. since that moment I've been in control.
[this is not a joke]