Do I have to resort to Cheesy pickup lines?

[Guest]

OK I have approach anxiety, bad, do I have to resort to cheesy pickup lines? What ways have you guys overcome approach anxiety? I have done the intentional blowout, the $200 to the wing thing and, well just about everything else that is even half worth trying but I still get it. I'm ready to try hypnosis. What do you guys have to say about it? How have you overcome approach anxiety? What is a long term fix? Does Ross Jeffries REALLY have a permanent solution? I need to get this worked out guys. Lets see what you've got!

[Guest]

a couple things really helped me with this, to the point it's non existant:

1. sarging sober. I often used alcohol as a crutch, and it messed with my energy levels. So, I gave it the boot when i sarge.

2. Momentum. I HAVE to get outta my head, soon when I get there, and get a few approaches outta the way. After I do that, the rest of the night usually goes well.

3. Kava. 'Nuff said :)

[Guest]

I'm still new to practicing the "game", but I remember I made my first few approaches (AFC-style) was a few years ago using David D's opener "who lies more". The first time I walked up to these two girls for the first time in my life, I was petrified... it was ridiculous. I'd never felt so damn scared in my life. But as soon as I started talking I actually started enjoying the interaction. I didn't give myself a time constraint or root the opener but it still worked more than 50% of the time, which was great for my self-esteem.

So, anyways, I still have some approach anxiety. But it becomes a lot more manageable after you have approached many times before, and know you can do it again. I find that most women are actually very, very nice people, and even if you approach them and totally bore them to tears they'll still be very nice. Although it's obviously better if you have something interesting to say.

So I'd advise you to, rather than drinking or using supplements or reading books by Ross Jeffries or trying hypnosis, go out and approach a bunch of women just using one canned line. That way when you see a woman instead of thinking "omg what should I say" you can just walk up and use a tried and true line. Of course you don't *have* to use a "cheesy pick up line" but I'll admit it does make things a lot easier. And it's not a magic bullet by far, either. Just think of it as practice.

[Guest]

Its all about inner game man. Thats what it all boils down too.
I would read up and work on your inner game issues.

Of course there may be other underlying issues, but regardless, AA and approach issues are all inner game issues.

The funny feeling inside, queesyness, etc...

David DeAngelo has some great stuff available for inner game. Or at least, thats what I have used. Seemed to work great.

Aside from just believing that you are the baddest muthafucka alive man, theres not much you can do for AA, or other inner game issues other than take a long hard look at yourself.

Think of a time when you really wanted something that you couldn't have and then you aquired it.

How'd it make you feel?
How'd you get it?
What steps did you have to take in order to obtain it?
Was it worth the effort?
Would you do it again?
How long did you keep it?

Ask yourself questions like that, and talk to EVERYONE about it. A couple of people can vouch on here that I have talked with them about alot of things, and what happened was the new beliefs I was trying to form, started to solidify in my head.

I hope this helps man.

[Guest]

You should try hypnosis. I imagine for the people who are able to go under into a hypnotic state, it can be a strong experience.

However, I'm not susceptible. All the time, I take several moments a day to assess how I'm feeling. Just a moment. I get a sense if I'm feeling upbeat and have momentum in my stride, or if I'm in a bad mood or fuzzy headed. I do this because it's so much easier for me to accept that there are only certain times that I want to game people. I get all sorts of approach anxiety when I try to make myself game when I'm not feeling it.

Truth is, there are a lot of things I need to have going well for me to feel in the mood to game, and I try my best to manage my life well. When all of my responsibilities and priorities are handled, I don't have distractions in my mind, conscious or sub-conscious. So I play a patient game.

I hope that gives you some insight.