Recognize "The Key Friend" in the Group
Posted: Sun Jul 22, 2007 12:00 pmWhen you're out at night and meet girls, they're often in groups.
I'm going to stir up some trouble here, - you don't need
the whole group to like you. Just one girl. "The Key Friend" - if
you win her over, and suggest your plans to her, then she'll sell
the rest of her friends on the idea.
Here's how to figure out who the Key Friend is... some of these may
seem weird, but after talking with tons of groups, I find these
guidelines hold up surprisingly well.
1. If the girls are close to each other in cuteness, the cuter girl
is usually the Key Friend.
2. If the girls are far apart from each other in cuteness, the less
cute girl is usually the Key Friend.
Other factors that determine it (don't need to memorize these, just
be familiar):
Birthdays: If it's her birthday, she's Key.
Bad times: If one girl is having a bad night, she's Key and if you
turn it around you're in great shape.
Visitors and tourists: If one girl is a tourist and the other is a
local, the local is Key.
Working early: If one woman is working early in the morning, and the
other is not, the early worker is Key.
So some of these should ring familiar, right...? They're just
examples. Here's the social science behind it:
When a girl sees another girl sacrificing to spend time with you,
she rationalizes that it's no big deal for her to spend time with
you. In absence of sacrifice, higher status is looked to for the
answer.
So -
If the friend is much less pretty, and decides to spend time with
you, she's sacrificing knowing it's likely that she'll be alone
while you woo her friend. The commitment from the prettier girl
seems small in comparison.
If one girl's got work early in the morning and decides to come
along, then it's not really a big deal at all for the other girl.
It's not like she's got to get up early, so it's no sacrifice or
anything...
In absence of considerations of sacrifice, status comes into play.
So with two pretty girls, the slightly prettier one often makes the
call. Locals always make the call over tourists. And so on.
If you understand this concept, you can get right into building VAC
with the Key Friend, and the group falls into line. Enjoy.
[size=9:a67e99b3b6][i]by Sebastian from theApproach[/i][/size]
I'm going to stir up some trouble here, - you don't need
the whole group to like you. Just one girl. "The Key Friend" - if
you win her over, and suggest your plans to her, then she'll sell
the rest of her friends on the idea.
Here's how to figure out who the Key Friend is... some of these may
seem weird, but after talking with tons of groups, I find these
guidelines hold up surprisingly well.
1. If the girls are close to each other in cuteness, the cuter girl
is usually the Key Friend.
2. If the girls are far apart from each other in cuteness, the less
cute girl is usually the Key Friend.
Other factors that determine it (don't need to memorize these, just
be familiar):
Birthdays: If it's her birthday, she's Key.
Bad times: If one girl is having a bad night, she's Key and if you
turn it around you're in great shape.
Visitors and tourists: If one girl is a tourist and the other is a
local, the local is Key.
Working early: If one woman is working early in the morning, and the
other is not, the early worker is Key.
So some of these should ring familiar, right...? They're just
examples. Here's the social science behind it:
When a girl sees another girl sacrificing to spend time with you,
she rationalizes that it's no big deal for her to spend time with
you. In absence of sacrifice, higher status is looked to for the
answer.
So -
If the friend is much less pretty, and decides to spend time with
you, she's sacrificing knowing it's likely that she'll be alone
while you woo her friend. The commitment from the prettier girl
seems small in comparison.
If one girl's got work early in the morning and decides to come
along, then it's not really a big deal at all for the other girl.
It's not like she's got to get up early, so it's no sacrifice or
anything...
In absence of considerations of sacrifice, status comes into play.
So with two pretty girls, the slightly prettier one often makes the
call. Locals always make the call over tourists. And so on.
If you understand this concept, you can get right into building VAC
with the Key Friend, and the group falls into line. Enjoy.
[size=9:a67e99b3b6][i]by Sebastian from theApproach[/i][/size]