how to you bust your fear of approaching hotties?

[vuurvalk]

most guys experience this fear of approaching women !!!!
the question is HOW DOES ONE BUST THAT FEAR
CAN ANYBODY GO THRU THE PROCESS OF FEAR DESTROYING STEP BY STEP ?
WHEN DOES A GUY GET IT ? HOW DOES IT HAPPEN?
CAN IT COMPARE TO LEARNING ANY OTHER SKILL OR EVEN AND ESPECIALLY TO BEING A SALESMAN FOR INSTANCE OR PUBLICSPEAKING,


i know when i first started to learn magic some of the tricks i thoght i woul never be able to do llike making a pen disappear( seemed so hard and so much out my reach )
i kept at itand today i m a master magician he says with modesty !!!!


finally
the biggest anxiety of all
HOW DO U GET THIS PHONE NUMBER
WHERE DO YOU FIND THE COURAGE?
DOESN T IT SEEM "UNNATURAL" TO ASK IN A SHOPPING PLACE OR ON A TRAIN WHATVER?

[Derek Blood]

I hear it disapeers after approaching 250 sets. Just keep hitting it with all you have got, push yourself to open more and more sets and the fear will be gone soon enough.

[Mojo]

My approach anxiety is almost zero, and it feels great. I see it as a game, where previously I saw it to a blow to my ego. Understanding it is simply a "bitch shield", and not you, helps tremendously.

I recall reading one of TD posts that you can simply sit down at a bar and watch. You will notice the same guys approach set after set. Observe what they do right and wrong. You can see what works and doesn't right in front of you!

So let them risk their ego being shot down instead of yours while youo observe and learn.

[Riley]

Its better to approach an HB 9-10 when they are in a mixed set or when you have a pivot. But because they are so ungodly attractive you will more often than not (a) have to ignore them and focus on the obstacles for anywhere from 5-10 minutes until you do the "how do y'all know eachother?" (b) you will have to stack neg-fluff-neg-fluff-neg. make them below you.

Hb's are used to being treated like gold. Fuck that. That's your position. Do whatever you have to to make them go after you. Going after them is too easy. Be the best option everytime. Remember what Mystery says "its not lying, its flirting"

[Loki]

I can tell you this....alcohol is a bad choice. Coincidently, to the guys I sarged with Saturday...sorry I got so shit hammered.

I have been reading _how to succeed with women_ by louis and copeland. not a great book but decent. most of the stuff is pretty obvious, especially if you have read any other books. but one of the things they suggest is to get in the habit of saying "hi" to HB you see. then start with a little convo. you may remember something similar in the game. newbie mission is defined as "an exercise designed to help shy men overcome their fear of approaching women. the newbie mission involves spending a day in a public area, such as a mall, and saying "hi" to every woman who passes by."

sounds about right to me. i tried some of that today....at work of all places. i was so psyched by the end of the day...i WANTED to go sarging and approach. suck on the bitches!

[Scoundrel]

You have to think of it like playing a video game. If you crash and burn, so what? Just start again. It's really the same thing. REALLY!

I once went out and did my best to get blown out of every set. I worked to piss them off! No pressure and it was kinda fun being a totle asshole. Doing that I found out what doesn't work. Then it was on to what does.

I must disagree about booze. You can't over do, but it can help you to calm down and care less. Just remember my rule, "martitis are like brests, one's not enough and three is too many."