"Did you see her eyes? Her pupils were dilated bigtime.", my friend Barry asks me. He also said "And she kept licking her lips."
Barry is not involved in the Pickup Community and has no knowledge of this stuff but he was more perceptive than me and knew where to look to find the clues to the girl's attraction.
Well, as it turns out, I had not seen what he saw. For such a good clue to attraction, why had I not ever attempted to look there?
For the most part, the community literature didn't talk about it too much. And I also find it hard to know when someone has this pupil dilation thing happening.
Barry continued "Even as the lights went on, her pupils were big."
While I hadn't noticed that the pupils, I had noticed that she kept asking us questions and that she had backturned her "friends".
I had also noticed the way her and I had made strong eye contact right before she came over and asked a guy standing next to me about a cigarette.
She was wearing a "Pub Crawl" T-Shirt and had on a bandana. She was one of the "Alcohol Assassins" so I asked her what her Kung Fu moves were.
That little bit of humor and the earlier eye contact got her going. She liked me.
She also liked Barry, who looks alot like Juaqueen Phoneix (the actor).
But I digress....
I need to focus on:
- Pupil Dilation
- Licking Lips
- Playing with hair.
Quote from the book "How To Spot A Liar" by Greg Hartley and Maryann Karinch:
"When someone is sexually charged up, blood flow increases to the mucosa. Lips get thicker, the salivary glands gear up, and the entire face takes on a softer look. You're more sexually appealing and your arousal is obvious.
I've tried to explain this to my friends who complain that they can never tell if a person is attracted to them."
The parasympathetic nervous system is the opposite of the sympathetic fight or flight response. And pupil dilation is one of its affects, along with the ones listed above.
The reason this girl kept licking her lips is because the increased bloodflow to that part of her body.
Incidently, the low lighting in places like bars, lounges and restaurants is meant to coax the pupils to dilate and enlarge. When this happens, both men and women like eachother more.
Alcohol intensifies the pupil dilation as well.
Personally, I feel this is a good indicator of interest and I'm going to start focussing on "seeing" it.
-Tribulus