Playful DLV

[Bull Run]

I've really been on this playfulness kick lately. It's just so congruent to my personality.

After I analized my interaction last night at Sherlock's with a 2 set that I eventually bounced to Blackfinn. I noticed a couple of things that I've been inadvertenly doing and their impact on the interaction.

First. Female DHVing. They do it all the time except they're much, much more upfront with it than men are allowed to be. I mean a girl can lean in and tell you that she gives the BEST blowjobs without any social punishment from men. But if a guy says that he drives a Porsche he's a douche. This is why we have to DHV in a subtle manner using stories and routines.

Well, I hate hypocracy. Hate it. I hate the double standard of women being allowed to DHV themselves while men can't. So, I ALWAYS punish the girl when she DHVs. ALWAYS.

BUT, I do it in playful manner.

From my interaction last night with the brunette with glasses at Sherlocks.

HB: "Have you ever seen that movie The Secretary?"
Me: "Yep, good movie."
HB: "Well, I'm a lot like that. I used to walk around my boyfriend's apartment naked with one of those poles cuffed to my hands." [If you've never seen the movie you wouldn't get it, but it's about a girl that's into S&M and dominance]
Me: "Ehh, it's not that freaky. I once dated a chick that loved fucking dogs..."
HB: Shocked a little, but laughs.

And,

HB: "Sometimes we make out." Grabs her friend and looks at her seductively.
Me: "Ah, that's no big deal. I make out with my best-friend too. He's a great kisser..."
HB: Again, shocked and off balance. She didn't expect me not to get all excited about this. Of course, she laughed...that's important.

And,

HB: Shows me a picture she took of herself naked.
Me: "Did you take that picture in front of your dog? Cause that would be weird."
HB: Shocked, off balance, laughing.

I have no problem tearing a girl down, in a playful manner, when she tried to blatantly DHV herself. BUT, there's more to it than this. After you tear her down, you have to build her back up again BUT ONLY ON YOUR TERMS.

Here's how I accomplish raising her value. It's obvious actually...compliments. Period. I compliment her. BUT, not on the traditional shit that men probably always compliment a girl on. I pick something very unique to give her props on. Some examples:

You have great eye lashes
You're graceful
You feel like home
You have nice teeth
I love your style
You have soft hands
Etc.

Understand that your going to be asked to support your compliment. You always respond with "you just are/do/etc." Don't ever defend your claim. EVER! You'll be raising her value too much if you talk in length about how great this quality is. If she keeps asking, that means she's seeking more value. You can raise it with something different if you feel its necessary, BUT ONLY ON YOUR TERMS!!!

So, here's the formula:

1. Don't react to her DHVs in an obvious way
2. Playfully indicate to her that what she told you isn't really that big of a deal
3. Don't react if she appears shocked
4. Raise her value with a unique compliment ON YOUR TERMS!!!
5. Don't defend your assertion and don't talk about the compliment any longer
6. Rinse and repeat
7. Get laid

Good luck!!!

[Kit]

Great post. I enjoyed the read. So I'm assuming you got laid and possibly a threesome out of it?

I intended to introduce myself to you last night. Someone pointed you out but before I got over there you split. Nice bubble pipes. I'm curious to know how those went over. One thing I agree is that in general, women want to have fun.

[Westfall]

BR,

How do you react when a girl tries to DHV to you, and mentions something that you guiniunely find more to be very interesing and raises her value in your eyes?

Sometimes I'm in a set with a girl and I discover something really unique that I like about her (that she shows me), and I typically do react to it as though I am imressed...how do you think this affects the interaction?

Thoughts?

Westfall

[Bull Run]

BR,

How do you react when a girl tries to DHV to you, and mentions something that you guiniunely find more to be very interesing and raises her value in your eyes?

Sometimes I'm in a set with a girl and I discover something really unique that I like about her (that she shows me), and I typically do react to it as though I am imressed...how do you think this affects the interaction?

Thoughts?

Westfall

I file it away for later use. Typically I use it as something to talk about on a day2. I NEVER, EVER show them that THEY raised their value. If I'm the prize, she's lucky to be with me, and I'm the one deciding whether or not I like her. Then, I'm the one that gets to decide when YOU can raise YOUR value.

Once you bite on a DHV, then you've just lost a lot of power over the interaction. Never show your hand until AFTER she's been closed.

[Bull Run]

Great post. I enjoyed the read. So I'm assuming you got laid and possibly a threesome out of it?

I intended to introduce myself to you last night. Someone pointed you out but before I got over there you split. Nice bubble pipes. I'm curious to know how those went over. One thing I agree is that in general, women want to have fun.

Nah. No SNL. Logistics weren't there. Logistics is really what determines an SNL. The friend was married and not hot. But, I kiss and number closed the hot one. She's been sending naked pics all day. I love my life!

I missed coffee. But if you want we can hook up some other time. PM me.