As every man knows women are built around a complex system of feelings that is ever changing based on their current situation. Women, for the most part, act and respond to things according to how they feel at that moment. As a man you are expected to be able to read and interpret those signals properly. The sad truth though is that most men are completely out of sync with what to look for and how to react.
There is a definite art to interacting with women and you must be willing to LEARN and practice this art form. If you are not familiar with a particular sport, then how are you supposed to know what rules to follow and when to shoot for the score? The same holds true with women. You have to know when to push certain buttons, how to react when a women presses certain buttons in you, and how to shoot for the ’score’.
Aside from their unique differences most women are wired in a similar way. There are certain key factors that you can use to almost completely shape how you want any particular women to feel about you. Half is putting out the right signals, the other half is reading and responding correctly to her signals.This can as subtle as her flipping her hair and sometimes as obvious as her taking you by the hand.
KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE!
When you meet a new person there are many things about their physical appearance and choice of words that can clue you into to their moral and social boundaries. For instance, a 25 year old women dressed modestly and talking conservatively is going to have more boundaries than a 30 year old telling a dirty joke (depending on the situation of course). As obvious as that sounds, you have to keep in mind that most indicators are much more subtle than that example.
You are expected to know where the line of ‘acceptable’ is with a person from the get go. How the hell are you supposed to know that? You need to use social tactics to find that line and playfully ‘dance’ around it. By doing this she automatically will allow a slightly ‘crazier/wilder’ side of her personality out and because you brought it out of her, she will appreciate your company.
BE AN ACTIVE PART OF THE CONVERSATION.
People hate being a part of a conversation with a person who doesn’t know how to answer questions with useful info, or ask things to keep it moving forward. Help the conversation have that natural free flowing “we have chemistry” feeling by answering questions playfully, and asking fun questions-not the typical,”what do you do for a living”. Don’t be a social robot. Talk about what ever random things pop into your head, and do it with flair. Be in the moment and really listen. She will give you all the information you need to keep the conversation moving forward.
BREAK HER OUT OF AUTOPILOT
You know that guy at the bar, party or friendly gathering that everyone is having so much fun around? That can be you.
The question is how do you break out of being boring? Here is an example of boring:
In Person
You: Hello
Her: Hi, how are you
You: I’m fine, and you..
Her: ( she’s already bored and wondering if you actually have anything interesting to say)
Blah blah blah boring…
Online
You: Hi there, I really liked your profile, just wanted to say hi
Her: - no responce-
At least in person she is socially expected to at least go through a typical greeting. Online is no such story. There is no social pressure compelling her to respond to you.
Your goal in any social situation (online included) should be to break people out of their boring autopilot conversations. We all hate them, yet some how we forget we are half the reason the conversation is boring. Just as anything goes in life, don’t ever expect people to do it for you. You need to be the one that directs the conversation and interactions you are in with both MEN and WOMEN. Don’t sit back and wonder why you constantly are in conversations that you could care less about. Help make them interesting. Use big body language, make fun of your self if you fumble over a word, and equally poke fun at someone who does the same. For instance, if a person stutters or fumbles over a word (on accident, not because of a speech impediment) Tease them by saying, “you’d think with all these years of experience.. you’d be better at this talking thing…hahaha ” and of course smile and keep it light hearted.
If somebody reverts back to ’standard issue questions’ what do you do? Even though they asked the boring questions, it is up to YOU to direct it to your desired outcome…
Example:
Standard Question :
“So how have you been?”
Not so standard answer:
“Well ever since dragons ate my baby Jesus figurine I’m not sure where my life is headed…But don’t worry about me.. I’ll be fine…”
Note: pretty much act overly serious when saying it and be sure to smile and laugh afterwards.
Standard Question:
“How are you?”
Not so standard Answer:
“TERRIBLE”
Note: Again, say it with a with a serious look on your face but almost immediately follow it with, “no I’m just kidding.. How you doing?” By doing this you immediate force them to turn off their automated response system.
Now when they answer with “I’m fine”
Your reply:
“Jeeze you are just full of your self aren’t you”
Playfully imitate her and say” I’m fine”
As you jokingly pretend to flip your hair…and follow it with a laugh..
Or
“I asked how you are, not how you look…”
follow with a laugh, and push to the next conversational thread
Standard question:
“What have you been up to lately?”
Not so Standard Answer:
“Well after I rescued that flock of baby sheep last week, I’ve been collecting Chuck Norris jokes… do you know any? Check these out…”
She will almost undoubtedly ask for one, but if not… just roll into them and tell her a 2 or 3
Here are a few Chuck Norris jokes…
* Did you know Chuck Norris invented the giraffe….. Yeah he did it by [upper cutting a horse…
* You know superman wears Chuck Norris pajama’s when he goes to bed…
* Chuck Norris’ tears cure cancer, too bad he’s never cried.
* Chuck Norris doesn’t sleep he waits
After you tell her a joke or two you can playfully tease her by saying:
“You know, if chuck shaved off his beard, and put on a little make up… you two would look like sisters… hahaha”
Be sure to be in playful tone, be laughing after you say it and playfully punch them on the arm.
Follow it up with
“no.. no… he’d be like the ugly step sister…you do look like you’d have a fierce roundhouse kick though.. hahaha”
Make sure when you are joking around that you are slightly overly dramatic. When you are supposed to be serious, be overly serious then immediately flip to big smiles and laughter following the jokes or teasing insults you are giving. Keep in mind if she is not laughing or responding positively, you should probably try to cue into what her reasoning is for being distant. Are you being too pushy, leaning into close, is she having a terrible day, did both of her parents die earlier making love in a cable car over the baltic sea? lol Let her body language spell out for you what she needs. You never know what somebody is dealing with in their life currently... Just be aware, and through that situational awareness make shit happen!
Kelly
Song_bird
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