The Power Smiles
Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 10:48 pmThis is the simplest idea. Its as old as time and yet it bears repeating. I think its good exercise to do on girls. 
If you are talking to an attractive girl and she smiles at you, then you just say "I like your smile." And then you amp it up.
"You have the prettiest smile I've seen." or make up something else. The best is an on the spot sincere compliment.
"Your smile could light up the world."
The point of this exercise is that it plays on two principles...I'm such a scientist.
The first is Cialdini's commitment and consistency principle.
If you tell her you like her smile. She will do more smiling. She's making an investment.
You told her you liked her so you're actually showing interest. So you have to be honest when you do this.
Liking is also a Cialdini principle.
Get a feel for your own ability to show interest. We know you can neg. Now try the other side of things.
Lastly, smiling makes you feel good.
Have you ever smiled in a venue? Between sets? I did and it makes a difference.
The brain chemistry changes. The person becomes happier by physiology.
They've done many studies to confirm this.
Try isolating after doing this. And see how much compliance you get.
When I first did this, I became a true believer. A girl was standing at the beer tub and I told her this. I also added some kino and hugged her.
She smiled and smiled. After having done some calibration and in-field training, I saw lots of IOI's.
Later she came to me and talked to me. I interviewed her (I recommend this too) and asked her if I "had her" at that point. She said I did. And we both knew it.
If you are talking to an attractive girl and she smiles at you, then you just say "I like your smile." And then you amp it up.
"You have the prettiest smile I've seen." or make up something else. The best is an on the spot sincere compliment.
"Your smile could light up the world."
The point of this exercise is that it plays on two principles...I'm such a scientist.
The first is Cialdini's commitment and consistency principle.
If you tell her you like her smile. She will do more smiling. She's making an investment.
You told her you liked her so you're actually showing interest. So you have to be honest when you do this.
Liking is also a Cialdini principle.
Get a feel for your own ability to show interest. We know you can neg. Now try the other side of things.
Lastly, smiling makes you feel good.
Have you ever smiled in a venue? Between sets? I did and it makes a difference.
The brain chemistry changes. The person becomes happier by physiology.
They've done many studies to confirm this.
Try isolating after doing this. And see how much compliance you get.
When I first did this, I became a true believer. A girl was standing at the beer tub and I told her this. I also added some kino and hugged her.
She smiled and smiled. After having done some calibration and in-field training, I saw lots of IOI's.
Later she came to me and talked to me. I interviewed her (I recommend this too) and asked her if I "had her" at that point. She said I did. And we both knew it.
