Comfort Builder - Top 5
I have field tested this in the field, on the phone, and online. It seems to be a good comfort-building routine.
Rhody: Ok, suppose we are boyfriend and girlfriend, who is in your top 5?
HB: What's a top 5?
Rhody: You know, the top 5 celebrities you can have sex with and I can't get mad.
HB: Oh, [hot guy].
Rhody: Why?
HB: Because he's hot. He has a great body.
Rhody: You're so superficial.
It goes on from there. I bust on her choices or do a cold read. Something like:
Rhody: Based on your choices, I would say that you like guys who stand out, not guys who fit in. You like to go along for an exciting ride. That is, you like to be on the arm of a guy who commands the spotlight, but you don't necessarily like to have the spotlight yourself.
She will then ask for my top 5. I can go a few different ways with this. I either pick girls who are the opposite of her, or I just pick girls who are hot with no substance because I'm a manwhore (this is great after busting on her for being superficial), or I pick women who are extremely talented or high status (think Ivanka Trump). If I'm feeling especially playful, I'll pick a cartoon character (Chandler on Friends picked Jessica Rabbit).
One great aspect of this is in order to play along, she has to accept the frame and roleplay that you and she are boyfriend and girlfriend.
Rhody: Ok, suppose we are boyfriend and girlfriend, who is in your top 5?
HB: What's a top 5?
Rhody: You know, the top 5 celebrities you can have sex with and I can't get mad.
HB: Oh, [hot guy].
Rhody: Why?
HB: Because he's hot. He has a great body.
Rhody: You're so superficial.
It goes on from there. I bust on her choices or do a cold read. Something like:
Rhody: Based on your choices, I would say that you like guys who stand out, not guys who fit in. You like to go along for an exciting ride. That is, you like to be on the arm of a guy who commands the spotlight, but you don't necessarily like to have the spotlight yourself.
She will then ask for my top 5. I can go a few different ways with this. I either pick girls who are the opposite of her, or I just pick girls who are hot with no substance because I'm a manwhore (this is great after busting on her for being superficial), or I pick women who are extremely talented or high status (think Ivanka Trump). If I'm feeling especially playful, I'll pick a cartoon character (Chandler on Friends picked Jessica Rabbit).
One great aspect of this is in order to play along, she has to accept the frame and roleplay that you and she are boyfriend and girlfriend.