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Got email from Ghost bar VIP girl..

PostPosted: Sun Sep 30, 2007 5:48 pm
by Spinz2112
So im kinda in a bind and would like to get some feedback, I got this Ghostbar VIP service girl's email address, and I am wondering what I should write for the first email.
Heres what happened, was out for friends bday, didnt really talk to GB girl, but later on asked about another GB girl that I kinda knew...she asked how i knew her blah blah...I dropped the "so what else do you have going on besides your looks" ...she said she doesnt like meeting guys at Ghostbar cause she works there etc. She ended up giving me her Biz card with the email and said that that was the first card she has ever given out and asked me to send her an email.
Now I want to date her, but I have never done email game. So trying to get some feedback on what I should write to her.
Thanks

PostPosted: Mon Oct 01, 2007 1:53 am
by JohnnyBravo
"I'm going to go do some shopping on Thursday. You should come along".

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 7:27 am
by waijai
I think it's way too soon to have her tag along on a shopping trip. She might not even remember you or have the desire to go with you. Online game is very finicky. You should begin with some witty banter, poking fun at her, etc.. This girl may not even remember you, so it's your job to start building the attraction to where she will be more inclined to tag along on a day of shopping.

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 3:44 pm
by Spinz2112
I concur...this is what I wrote to her on Monday, havent had a reply yet, so might send another email tomorrow.

Hey XXXXX…it was nice meeting you Saturday night. You sound like you might be more than just a pretty face (which is refreshing). Let’s get together this week for a cup of something delicious and some stimulating conversation.
Talk to me.

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 8:00 pm
by waijai
Yeah send her another email if she doesn't respond. Something along the lines of "Just wanted to follow up to see if you wanted to grab some coffee on XXX day. My schedule is busy, so let me know. If anything we can just be friends"

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 10:18 pm
by Twitchy
Get your hands on some online routines.....all suggestions here are very AFC, especially for a Ghost Bar hired gun.

You need to intrigue her, not offer up a standard date.

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 11:22 pm
by waijai
Didn't think my suggestion was very AFC, since its something David DeAngelo does all the time.

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 11:25 pm
by Twitchy
Overall your suggestion was good. However, "If anything we can just be friends"" seems AFC to me.

Hit her with something that stands out. Tease her, rip on her, bring up some C/F conversation you had when you first met her....

anything but sound like a spineless guy inviting her out to dinner or coffee or to just be friends. Trust me, she has heard this 15 times this week.

PostPosted: Wed Oct 03, 2007 11:46 pm
by Twitchy
Some more thoughts....don't be afraid of flirting or showing that you are a guy who is not afraid of his sexuality.

I don't know how well this was set up prior to the email so it may be a lost cause but if some nicknames, flirting, time bridging and/or cocky funny was dropped into conversation, you should include it in the follow up email.

If these were not dropped into convo when you first met her and she doesn't respond to your email, then you didn't fail with the email and it makes no sense to focus on it. You failed with the introductary meeting.

One of the more recent sarges I did I teased the girl about spilling a drink, called her naughty and had a stupid story about why I thought she was naughty - the story then led into me calling her Miss Naughty for the next few minutes. I then pushed her away from me several times and accused her of hitting on me and did plenty of other things from the PUA handbook.

THEN, when I next communicated with her, I picked up where I left off..."Hey Miss Naughty, my clothes just got back from the dry cleaner from when you spilt the drink on me. You now owe me $12.79. You can either pay with greenbacks or you can owe me drinks - I will let you choose. Hurry and decide as my schedule is busy. You don't want me to have to erase your appointment after I pencil you in. Remind me to schedule an extra half hour onto our meeting as I know how much you want me. Don't want to dissapoint! =)"

See the difference between "want to do coffee? maybe we can be friends?"

One is confident and flirty, the other is begging for her time.....I am sure if you gave it thought, you could come up with something much better than my example. But the structure and content is there - flirty, teasing, confident, sexually themed (but don't over do it).

This is why we are all here - to learn this stuff.

PostPosted: Thu Oct 04, 2007 7:08 pm
by Kraven
PUAs,

Didn't want to reply harshly to this myself but Twitchy is right - for a chick who gets hit on by the biggest players and wannabes on a nightly basis, timidly asking her out for coffee via e-mail is probably not gonna get her attention

I avoid e-mail game - if I'm working off an e-mail address then something went wrong on the initial sarge if I could not arrange a later meet and/or get a phone #. Lately, if a target offers me e-mail after I spent 20 minutes sarging her, I decline... NEXT...

If I have to do e-mail (I made a few exceptions this summer), I tend to just send DHV stories - send her an e-mail about how much fun you had at another bar or club and all the crazy shit that happened with the models who got into a fight or something similar. Make exciting shit up or embellish something that really happened to you recently. If she responds to it, reply that you're going out again soon and she should meet up with you and press for a phone number. If she doesn't respond, NEXT...