Interesting take on AMOGing from sosuave

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Master Don Juan

Join Date: Apr 2007
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Age: 42
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The two main points when it comes to deal with AMOGs is:

Stronger Frame Control, through tougher emotional strength you will better handle social pressure. This is crucial. You can't 'crack', or get embarassed, flushed, or become reactive. You must be able to withstand the social pressure.In essence, you ignore it and keep the attention of your targets.

Second, while withstanding the 'tooling' there's two schools of thought:

Defuse it by agreeing to it, lamely. ie "Wow, like that's so like...awesome. You're definitely the most popular guy here. Like...really. No, Im serious. I mean it." And then just continue with your interaction.
The second is by covertly 'befriending' him. If the situation is about competing for women, you bring up his career or hobbies. And then start asking him questions about those things. ie "So you're into investing? Cool. So tell me what's going on with the housing market? What do you suggest we do now that the bailout may change? I can really use some advice here." And then just wait for his answer...
So you defuse it by distracting him with his own ego obsessions either women or career goals.
If it's about career competition, you bring up the topic of women. ie 'Dude, so where do you go to hang out? I mean, since Im new here,Im kinda looking for a cool place to meet women. Where would you suggest?" And then just wait...

And another way is to point out the violation of social norm.
In social interactions, there are unspoken yet observed 'rules' of behavior and heirarchy.
Violate those and you will be ousted from the tribe.

What the AMOG wants to do is to 'oust' YOU by creating a new social norm, bring light to your 'unworthiness' in the 'tribe' and kick YOU out of the group. But you can retool him by bringing attention to HIS violation of the social norm by more gesturing and body language.

or a wry smile, like you're amazed he can be such a dork. And then look at the people around you with this kinda of embarassed look about you affirming how embarassing the behavior the AMOG demonstraed. Kind of like acting :"Damn...did you see that guy? Holy sh*t...what a dork...." And then carry on ignoring the guy.
Thus you place a spotlight on HIM making HIM the one who violated the social norms of the tribe. If you're charismatic and have more trust and rapport form the group, they will usually go along and blow the AMOG for you by following your lead and ignoring the AMOG too.

There are also combinations of these that happen in seconds.
The key is HOW do YOU HANDLE the SOCIAL PRESSURE.
The people around you WILL be WATCHING you.
They do. And if you stutter, act awkward, embarassed, twitch, get flushed red with embarassment you will lose the group and pretty much been blown out.
You can kind of recover, but not strong enough.
Try to not eject. Try to stay cool. YOu can still be cool even if you have been 'blown out' because you still demonstrate your Inner emotional Strength that handles these types of Social Pressures.


Good , confident body language, relaxed, confident, aware of your surroundings, and making strong eye contact with everybody because of the REAL genuine inner strength usually deters most AMOGS anyway.
It's like a shark or some animals that prey on the weakest of their kind. Once they demonstrate ANY hint of weakness, the other pounce on them.

Dont be the WEAK one.


PS. There is no such thing as 'acting more Alpha' or 'being more Alpha' those are just outward behaviors done out of recognizing threat and one's insecurities. These are safety maneuvers done out of fear and insecurity NOT genuine masculine power. It would help most guys here to stop the notion of the myth of "Oh..I acted Alpha here." It's not. It doesnt work. Its not real.
Its your outward demonstration of your insecurity and level of fear and threat.

Be the genuine Masculine man who is not in competition with 'alphas'.
Let them fight each other for scraps. Transcend the 'competition'.

Learn how to be above that.

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