Hangups and Breaking Dates

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I just started doing this with two of the girls I'm seeing....I'll hang up on them and then not call back for an hour or so. I won't even metion the hangup and I'll just come in with some kind of positive new thread or something.
I also broke a date on purpose the other day. She seemed kinda miff'ed at me but she definitely is more attracted and the next time we have a date she'll be more primed.

What do you guys think?

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I've hung up on girls before and what I've noticed is that if the girl is genuinely interested and participating in the conversation, she will call back immediately. And if she doesn't, then you have to wonder, was she really that interested?

Girls have no problems calling back because they rationalize that dropped calls happen all the time; they're not really chasing...

As for dates, I'm a man of my word and it creates more attraction as it subcommincates value (I will cancel due to extenuating circumstances such as illness or death). Girls want a man that does what he says...

Instead of purposely canceling and ruining her evening, why not just make yourself less available? For example, she wants to hang out on Thursday; you tell her you can't because you have plans, even if you don't. I think it'll actually create more attraction than breaking dates.

When you break dates, you may appear as unreliable even if you have a "valid" reason. there are many who find that to be an unattractive quality...

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One more thing, if you hang up and she doesn't call you back, she may be trying to gauge your interest and playing games. If she doesn't call back, just forget it.

She may ask why you didn't call back and what I would do is say something that makes you appear less available (but makes sense).

For example: "well my friend called and she asked me to come by for a casual dinner party, so I had to rush to the store, buy some groceries and made my amazing pasta dish I said I would bring."

with that response, you're subcomminicating:
-preselection
-social awareness and acceptance
-value (being able to cook) <--most girls will comment on this when you mention it...

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Cancelling on a date works if you're dealing with a girl that has flaked on you. But, if she's done nothing to deserve the cancellation, i.e. hasn't flaked or cancelled on you, then there's no reason to do the same to her.

Like Prodigy said, just make yourself less available even if it isn't the truth.

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[QUOTE=Crash Helmet;36190]I just started doing this with two of the girls I'm seeing....I'll hang up on them and then not call back for an hour or so. I won't even metion the hangup and I'll just come in with some kind of positive new thread or something.
I also broke a date on purpose the other day. She seemed kinda miff'ed at me but she definitely is more attracted and the next time we have a date she'll be more primed.

What do you guys think?[/QUOTE]

You sound like more drama than some of the girls I've dated! :eek: Girls that do that get labeled as "flakes"! Not something I'd want to be known for. Girls are pretty smart art figuring out stuff like this. She could definitely look at it as a lack of confidence as well.

You don't exactly project value by breaking dates in an attempt to "prime" her as you stated. Look at it this way, when you break a date it will most likely be a week before you set up another one, and thats more time for her to be swept off her feet by some other guy! :cool:

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[QUOTE=Crash Helmet;36190]I just started doing this with two of the girls I'm seeing....I'll hang up on them and then not call back for an hour or so. I won't even metion the hangup and I'll just come in with some kind of positive new thread or something.
I also broke a date on purpose the other day. She seemed kinda miff'ed at me but she definitely is more attracted and the next time we have a date she'll be more primed.

What do you guys think?[/QUOTE]

I don't get the hangup thing. Just try being 100% busy and "no time to talk on the phone"... can't remember last time I spent time talking to a girl on the phone (in early dating), and that conveys enough. Being rude doesn't convey high value...

canceling dates i would lump into same category as some of these other crutches. Get out on the date and project your value through humor, charm, stories etc.. and go in for the kill. leave the games for the kids...after all, some guy may be in bed giving her the night of her life while you are at home telling yourself "I showed her"...