The 15 Minute Rule

[Guest]

Over the past several months, I’ve taken note of a recurring phenomenon in my game. I’ve found that in general, the first 15 minutes sets the tone for the rest of my night. More specifically, if I approach and open a set within the first 15 minutes or so, it’s easy for me to approach for the rest of the night. The longer I wait, the more approach anxiety I have and the more timid I am. If I wait too long, I won’t even approach at all. If I approach early, it starts a momentum that builds on itself. I have less approach anxiety in every subsequent set, and I’m bolder in the content and delivery of my material. I am dubbing this phenomenon the “15 Minute Rule,” the lesser known cousin of the “3 Second Rule.” Thoughts?

[Guest]

If you think about it, 15 minutes in a venue is a long time. That's plenty of time to scope out the whole joint, make a trip to the pisser, the bar, and a lap or two around the joint. Being the habitual creatures we are, that's more than enough time to get set in our ways of whatever we do during that time. Makes total sense to me!

[Guest]

15 minutes is ridiculously long. In busy venues go right up to the bar, order a drink and talk to someone. While you are waiting for the drink look around and say some shit to somebody FFS ! :)

[Guest]

what i meant was 15 minute max before approaching. but sure, the sooner the better.