Help with anchoring

[Suave]

Can someone give me some good examples of anchoring?

I know the whole idea. Create good feelings in the person and anchor them with something, so everytime they see the anchor or something like that, they feel good.

Can you give me some examples?

[Neuromancer]

When I am talking metaphysics and explaining the nature of the universe, I hold up a glass and say "imagine this glass is your entire universe. Everything you know about yourself, and believe as real. Reality is the ocean we are standing in." That anchors the hear entire state of being, all she knows and believes, who she really is into that glass. When I drink the contents of the glass, I become her entire universe and a gateway to a larger world of understanding. Naughty, Ain't I.

Anchors can be as simple as saying "imagine your perfect lover" while pointing at yourself, or "picture your perfect mate" while drawing a box around your face. You gotta be subtle when you gesture. Make it look like you are just animated when you talk.

Try using styles eliciting values pattern. More than likely you will be sitting next to her talking with a drink in hand. Keep the drink in her peripheral vision, say on the back of the couch or chair or on the table. then while talking to her, tap the rim in time to the tempo of the conversation. When you lock in her core values, toast her with your drink casually and then drink. You just anchored her core values to the drink and in drinking internalized them, implying that you embody her core values and wants. That's classic RJ.

You can anchor anything to just about anything. Desire to the necklace you are wearing, fear of loss to a necklace you just gave her. Get creative with it. How about using a lighter in a discussion with a girl who smokes. While you are discussing what turns her on, when ever you get to the part where she is reminded of getting turned on you say "bam! you're turned on!" and light the lighter.

Example: Have your lighter in your hand "Have you ever noticed how getting turned on is like a switch? I guess that's why it's called getting turned on. Imagine, you are just walking down the street and you see this guy, (point at yourself) there's just something about him and BAM! (you light the lighter), you're turned on. You don't know why, It just happens. you feel that warm, tension in your stomach. (douse the flame and go on) Maybe it isn't always that way. Maybe, you are watching TV and an ad comes on. They have a couple smiling and looking at each other over dinner or one of those diamond ring ads and BAM! (you know the drill) there are those warm, almost quivery feelings deep down inside. It's not your fault, advertisers know how to press your buttons. They spend millions figuring out how to get just that response. How about this, Remember that really cute guy in high school, when ever he was around, you felt that tension and desire grow? He'd walk up and BAM! your legs turn to jelly. All he had to do was touch your face (gently caress her cheek here) and you would melt into his arms. With me, now, I think the way people work deep down inside is just really interesting."

You've now anchored her "on switch" to the flame of the lighter, gotten here to accept you as the master of her on switch and created a chain smoker. You can then pull one of Mysteries thief lock ins. You have made a time to meet up again, Ask if she is a thief and when she says no give her the lighter, let her know it's yours and you expect it back, when you see her. From that point on, whenever she lights a cigarette It will turn her on and remind her of you. That's called stacking anchors.

You can choose to create anchors for yourself. I call them foci. RJ calls them talismans. Say you have a sticking point like initiating or escalating kino. Take a ring and call it your kino ring. You don't have to do anything other than deciding it's your kino ring, but the more you ritualize making it your kino ring, the better it locks the anchor. Now whenever you go sarging, wear the kino ring. At the very least, you will feel it on your finger reminding you to touch. At most effective it will pull your hand into kino actions and guide it. It will actually feel like the ring is pulling your hand around, almost causing it to do things without your thought or maybe even contrary to your conscious will.

[Mojo]

Back at University, a girl did this too me. I don't think she knew what she was doing, but it worked.

Each time we greeted, she would touch my lower elbow while she gave me the most seductive, warm smile, appearing really glad to see me. This of course made me feel extra good Now as she did this each and every time we greeted, and made me feel the same happiness each time while touch my elbow, the only thing she would need to do to bring back those feelings of happiness would be to touch the lower end of my elbow.


Also, the following is from
http://dallaspua.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=277

Using Anchors to attach distinct mindsets somewhere on the body ready to be used when needed. The anchors have to be distinct. One technique I observed a NY PUA using was wrapping a rubber band around his wrist. Each time when he was at the peak of the mindset that he wanted to “save” he would snap the rubber band against his wrist. Then it was just a matter of snapping the rubber band against his wrist to evoke it.

Another NLP technique that I found very useful is using the natural anchors already existing between your mind and body. Get into the correct body position! The body and mind are connected. That is, when you feel down/sad, your body assumes the down/sad position. Even when you are happy, if you slouch your shoulders, look down, and form your body to what it would be if you were sad, your state couldn’t help but change from happy to sad. The reverse, of course, is true. If you remember a time when you were confident or on fire, remember your posture and then emulate it. I have found this immensely useful.

Hope this helps,

- M