ninjamatt wrote:up until the mcdonalds part you were being a little bit too nice. About 40% of women or maybe more can be reeled in on texts by breaking down their emotions and building them back up, then tearing them down again.
when you seen her first text pic you might respond something like " awe that is cute, not quite as hot as I remember. But thanks for the pic. lets at least be text friends" something of that nature depending on what was said in person. It's hard to suggest based on the face to face interaction u posted but just learn from it.
women do general take hours sometimes to respond. Don't take it hard just get something clever.
I don't think it has anything to do with being too nice. Texting is nothing more than a continuation of the conversation/interaction that the two of you had in person or online (if you pulled her from the World Wide Web). If you pulled her by being a cool, laid-back guy, then busting on her or negging her via text will only act to blow you out because that's not how she remembers you.
On the other hand, if you pulled her by being fun, aloof, and teased her a bit, then your text string has to contain the same formula / tone. If this is the case, then, yes, you were being 'too nice,' which just means that you're not acting like the man that got her gina tingling enough to get her to give you her number.
Just be careful, negging girls via text or online is notoriously difficult because you lack a lot of context to the interaction. Shit, most guys don't even neg in person the right way.
Yes, girls are busy and don't always respond to your texts right away. This is because women have a hard time focusing on any one thing at a time, especially the younger ones. Further, the younger girls are notoriously hard to interact with via text because they really have no idea how to have and hold a more formal conversation than the one they have with their friends or with random guys at the bar. They make you do 80-90% of the work and don't give a lot of hooks to latch onto...this is why it's so important to just try to get them out ASAP. Don't ruin the image they have of you from when you met by trying to build rapport via text. Sometimes, it just isn't going to work. Period.
If this is what you're running into, then all you need to do is go straight for the jugular. I usually say something like this: "I'm a real live person and I think you are too...let's skip the texting and grab an adult beverage so you can coyly flirt with me..."
One of three things happens: 1) they get wishy-washy and either back pedal or simply just ignore you 2) they respond with a challenge (i.e. "ME flirt with YOU!?!" to which you have to roll with the thread but don't let her change the subject from meeting up) or 3) "LOL...what do you have in mind?" to which you propose a place and a time (i.e. The Gin Mill Wednesday 8pm).
I've always viewed a text as a call to action. I don't want to casually chat with this girl. I can't fuck letters and words. No, I fuck a body (hopefully warm
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). The only way to do this is to get her out. You should have built enough rapport and comfort with her when you met that it is no longer needed to build any more. If she flakes, guess what? You didn't do what you needed to do in person.
The difference is indifference.