Persistence vs. Stalking
Posted:
Sun Mar 16, 2008 5:17 pm
by Brick
There is a thin line between these two things. I think the line becomes thinner when gaming online (myspace, facebook, etc..)
Anybody have some good advice on being persistent in a manner that does not lower your value?
Thanks
Posted:
Sun Mar 16, 2008 5:37 pm
by JP2008
Try being playful, avoid a serious tone and keep it fun. You want to peak her interest based on your personality. The goal is to get her to pursue you too, if all you are doing is chasing her then all she will do is run away.
Every guy is being persistent and the last thing you want to do is be like everyone else. If you find you are sending multiple messages with no response from her then move on to the next girl but take the time to analyze the messages you sent. I would suggest that you try posting the messages you are using here to get feedback.
JP
Posted:
Sun Mar 16, 2008 7:13 pm
by playercool
I am the worst at chasing. If I get even one time of no response I typically delete the number.
Theres just too many women out there to worry about one.
Don't be afraid to lose the girl. If you have that attitidude you will do much better in this game.
In fact here is one of my favorite lines if a girl is giving me any sorta shit.
"I will go ahead and delete your number."
I have an insanely high success rate of using this line. In fact just used it today on a girl I number closed Friday. She was giving me BS about how she didn't remember who I was. Bam said that and she opened right up. Now using it with a girl you have some rapport with even works better.
Goodluck
Posted:
Sun Mar 16, 2008 11:00 pm
by dubya
playercool wrote:In fact here is one of my favorite lines if a girl is giving me any sorta shit.
"I will go ahead and delete your number."
I have an insanely high success rate of using this line. In fact just used it today on a girl I number closed Friday. She was giving me BS about how she didn't remember who I was. Bam said that and she opened right up. Now using it with a girl you have some rapport with even works better.
Goodluck
Thats funny, I told a girl at IHOP the other day that I was gonna delete her number since she couldn't remember my name.
Posted:
Tue Mar 18, 2008 7:33 pm
by The Lisenby Effect
myspace and face book game. i seem to have mastered it or do pretty damn good at it.
Keep it short and simple. I have the feeling or sense that when you give a girl a super long comment or message on w/e the fuck your talking about, it closes the convo.
if you keep it short, and always end it with something that you know she is going to keep coming back to and talking about.
never.... EVER... say sorry or " jk jk lol" girls see it as weakness...
i caught my friend doing that and showed him what was going to happen, it did, he played small talk, hard to get, and got some.
so don't type a college essay to her.
Don't say sorry or jk jk alot
dont start and end a sentence with "lol"... it's not a period...
never giving direct responses works alot (makes them pursue the answer then you call em out and say dang, look at you all up on my case... or neg them with well arent you just persistant... :] )
dont do the wild crazy face expressions to them...
( O_O ^_~ x_x ) just seems childish and they dont respond to it.
and this is just of course in my run ins with it...
if they send you messages, you reply, try not to reply 2.5 seconds after they sent it.... 1. you give yourself time to think of something good to say, 2.makes them impatient, talk more, want you more, and nervous.
if they send you reply they send you reply and it goes on, and one day she just doesnt reply, DO NOT! resend that message or send one asking why didn't you reply? makes you look like a stalker or all up on their business... IMO...
they like to talk alot shit in texts and myspace and facebook more than in person, i guess cuz they dont have to pay the piper over the interweb or a phone... so call them out.... they say their a sex god, prove it, or say no your not, or yea your a real sex god over phone/web heh that's cute... (that one works alot) saying heh, and cute, in the same sentence to belittle them gets under their skin subconsciously and will make them prove it or step up to the plate...
if anyone has more insight on this please share to advance my text/web game to your level, haha.
Posted:
Wed Mar 19, 2008 5:54 pm
by Brick
Dude that’s good stuff. A lot of which I’ve learned through mistake or experience.
The thing I’m looking for is advice on is how do you follow up online w/o looking like a stalker?
I agree you should not chase any girl. It’s always easier if she is pursuing but I feel that sometimes it takes more than one email to get a response. In cases like that I want to be persistent…….not creepy.
I like what JP2008 had to say as well. I think a big part of following up has to do with being light hearted and playful. I do this in the first email but also show a very intellectual side of me indirectly. This next email is just going to be straight up funny. We will see what happens. Either way it’s all good because whether it works or not……………..I still learn something.
I love this game
Thanks for the valuable insight fellas