*these tactics pretty much work the same infield also*
Misinterpretation
Role Playing
Playful teasing
being able to direct the conversation to a playful tone
SEEDING THE INVITE
Some women go from opening to number close/agreeing to meet within 3 responses- some are over the course of 20. When you are using your tools/tactics correctly it will usually take about 10 messages.
How to do it?
Throw in some miss interpretations, start a role playing thread in your conversation with her, and poke fun at one of her pictures... see how she responds to those three things... if she is being playful and continuing the threads... a lot of times... just from doing the above three things WITHOUT showing interest in her (other than having a fun conversation with her) then she might just send you her number on her own and ask to meet up... If not then you want to seed the invite. Yes thats right, Prepare her to be invited to something before you even get her number. Her number is only a by product that is over all insignificant to the online dating process. It is good to have to to build more comfort and lock in her attraction to your more before you meet. But the real goal is to make her feel like she has to meet you.
here are a few examples of how to use her conversation to make you more attractive
she suggested a thread for role playing, and I flipped it to where she offered to bring me stuff ( we hadn't met yet at this point)
HER: "What's going on hubby-butt? Miss me yet?! It's been a whole day without a message...I hope you survive! lol !"
YOU: "i always miss my darling wife... like when i went on the safari/quest to east india in search of the cure to your uncles illness.. which i found and cured him with
i feel so shitty!:( "
HER: " how did you get sick all of a sudden?!Did you catch what my uncle had?! If so, at least you know how to cure it!
what doesn't feel good? need anything?! You know I will take care of my loving husband.... "
You see in this example above she mearly was joking around with the hubby thing. I flipped the roleplaying in a way that she had now offered to come bring me stuff.
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Here she started a thread that had no weight in the conversation... Flip it on her in a way that directs the conversation back to fun.
HER: "I have a meeting I SO dont want to go to...aghhh"
YOU: "Jeeze how often do you have to visit your probation officer...I can pee in a cup for ya if you need.....lol "
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Heres a good way to start a role playing thread from scratch.
You: So apparently most girls have a similar personality as their favorite disney princess… so which is your fav?
Now assume she says Tinker bell. This gives you an opportunity to tease her a little bit. Here’s how:
I would have picked something more like Belle from beauty and the beast for you…i mean you do seem kinda like a nerd…although a yellow dress would be pretty cute on ya….
I guess with your wings and the pixie dust we could save a lot on air travel.. we can go to Venice and enjoy a gondola ride best part is I can put you in my pocket.
Too bad that i’d have to break up with you though since apparently fairies are alcoholics…I had no idea?!
Note: now she is imagining her self spending time with you, you are showing again that you have standards, and you are really displaying a good sense of humor.
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Immediately turning the conversation in to a playful is the best route to build attraction. Remember... Never take your self too seriously.
HER: "Your message was so cute I had to take a peek at your profile... You seem like you'd be a pretty fun person"
YOU: "Damn girly, you're already hiding in the bushes peeking through my windows...? lol I hope you didnt see me in my sponge bob onezee's... hahaha "
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Heres an example of how to circumvent her understandable resistance to meeting... All in all she is looking to you to see if you can direct her and make her feel safe.
HER: " Will it be awkward since we have never met you before?? "
YOU: " nah... wont be awkward... lets pretend we met on that synchronized swimming team we were on ..lol
Her: " were we any good? "
YOU: " you know it!! we were the stars in speedo's"
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note: When a girl is responding in a positive way and playing along with your games and role playing you want to acknowledge it with reinforcing statements attached to a slight neg such as:
"I think you just might be allright..
"So i guess you are fun... kind of a dork.. but fun
"You know, you seem like you just might have a good head on your shoulders
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And finally when she is responding to all you positively Seed the invite -
Prepare her to meet you if she hasn’t already asked too. Do this by “seeding the invite”. Decide on something to invite her to and ask her about related things about the event she is guaranteed to say yes too.
For example, if you were going to invite her to a Comedy Club ask her:
"Do you like drinks, good company, having fun, and laughing so hard you pee your pants? but please… don’t actually pee your pants… thats just gross.. lol
She will most likely say yes to all of those things, and will be less likely to say NO when you invite her to somewhere that includes all of those things… aka the Comedy club. Note: When you do actually send the invite you want to be sure you are inviting her to something that you will be doing with or with out her, and with several of your buddies
Follow that up her response with:
"Alright well a group of us are going to {comedy club} and as long as you don't embarrass us by showing up with a pirate eye patch and a wooden leg... you should join us... send me your number I'll send the info later...
Gotta run... talk to ya soon
Later cookie monster
{name}
Bottom line is all of these tactics are ways to test your targets interest in you. Ultimately it is a culmination of everything from your profile design, how you respond her to her shit tests, what direction YOU are leading the conversation in, and if you can make her feel like you are already apart of her life (role playing is magic for that... a memory you jokingly 'create' with her is just as powerful and 'real' as a real world memory... Role playing is the chick crack of online game...also awesome for infield game- instantly amp her comfort while still being playfull)
Kelly
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