You cant meet women and set up dates any where else in the world laying in your bed sick, or lounging around your house in your boxers. The problem is... Most guys, even guys that are good with picking up women in person, do not use the right technique to try and meet women from online social networking sites. I am going to give you a brief background as to why we support online dating so adamantly as well as some quick start pointers at the end of this post for you to jump start your success with meeting women online.
A friend recently asked me:
"so you met one or two girls a week?"
My reply: "Dont meet women online instead of in person, ALSO meet women online."
When Race(hatch) moved out to vegas last year he knew nobody in the state except me. So we decided to do a little social experiment. I had already been meeting women off myspace for 2 years or so and had a pretty effective system, so we decided to create an entirely new social circle from only the means of people we meet online. Within the first week we had so many girls lined up for 'first dates' that we had to work in a new and more effective way to meet them all (if this is the problems the guys in the community are talking about then i understand). We decided to have a weekly get-together at our house and have them all meet us there. So Race and I, the only two guys there, had to entertain 15-25 girls in our home of whom we had all just met for the first time. This was so effective we ended up doing it 2-3 times a week and averaged about 20 girls (new girls), each time. The best part about it was this; Using the browse feature on myspace, we could filter out the exact type of girl we wanted for each party. If we wanted all brunettes, we would search brunette, If we wanted all girls named Nicole, we would filter/search that way. Within the first two months, we literally had met so many women from myspace and facebook, we started to notice we had numbers in our inbox we hadn't even gotten around to. The best part was... Each little 'get together' we had was at our home, where these girls were meeting us for the first time, and each person brought over something to contribute to the party.. we never paid out of pocket. We even had a house warming party and a few of the girls (we had never met) brought us house warming gifts...
Another great advantage of using social networking sites is that it is a great tool to help a new person learn how to correctly build attraction, tell stories, use roleplaying & games properly. Meeting women from sites like Facebook, and Myspace is a great slowed down version of infield pickup. The guy using this dating technique will have more time to respond and formulate the RIGHT response to each message. There is literally no "fear of rejection" since you usually message a girl and forget about it. And my favorite point is that when the girl shows up to meet you, she already has acknowledged that she is attracted to you, and is HOPING that you are attracted to her...
Infield pickup will never be replaced by any new means of dating systems...but why not use the technology to your advantage. Dont be stuck riding horses just cause you dont see any point in riding in a car.
3 Steps to instantly improve your online game
first you have to set up your profile correctly
Profile (most are mainly for myspace)
* use contrasting colors so all the text is visible
* Pick 15 good pictures of you doing something different in each one (having fun with friends, with two girls on your arm, dressed in a ridiculous costume/outfit, being in control-doing anything where all the attention is obviously on you, with your family...And Try to look happy and fun by smiling or laughing in some of the pictures you get the point)
* Embed a music player(projectplaylist.com) and put a diversity of songs you like, fun songs, a girly song or two
* Use very few words in your info/about me section. Rather than 2 paragraphs that are boring about what your life journey is.. or how cool you are.. Use a qualifying statement, and embed your pictures directly into your profile so all the girl has to do is scroll down your page. Your pictures will display more about you than your text ever will.
* Get plenty of comments from hot girls to give you more social proof. -Message about 30 or so hot women in a DIFFERENT AREA... and just tell them this. "Hey, my ex and I just broke up and she is stalking my profile... could ya send me a fun/sexy comment to make her a little jealous? -{your name}" you will get plenty of comments from that.
* Embed tv show Flyers and movie posters (only 2 or 3 each) to show what you like... it is good to include a movie like dirty dancing or juno, or the notebook as well as some other movies that are actually your favorite. The point is just to show diversity and humor.
Opening Message
The anatomy of a good opener is
* Use a subject that stands out and creates curiosity so she is more likely to read it
* Show no interest in your message
* Keep it short
* Use statements or questions that require her to seek more info from you
Here are 2 examples of good openers:
Subject: I'm not sure but...
Body:
I think you know my friend
-{your name or screen name}
Note: You are not putting her off by hitting on her and she has to respond to ask who the friend it is.
Subject: Caught you!
Body:
Hey you are that girl who molested me the other night at [local club/bar/festival] the other night...naughty naughty... haha Smile
-{your name or screen name}
Note: Now she has to respond to dispute her being at the club, but lets her also know that you were out at a club and women were seeking you.
The ultimate goal is only to get her initial response. Once she responds to you, then you can build a conversation in a way that commands building her attraction to you.
Role playing, Games, Transitioning
Once you are in a conversation with a women it is up to you to guide it. Remember to keep everything playful and fun, not challenging and to direct. Use these techniques to make her want to engage you further.
Techniques to integrate as necessary.
- Use fun nicknames such as Cocker spaniel, snuffulufugus, pumpkin butt- this really builds a sense of 'history' with a person quick.
- Jokingly misinterpret what she says.
Example:
Her: I'm going shopping in a little
you: oh thanks I'm a 32 regular..either levis or lucky brand jeans will work.. you are so thoughtful...Smile lol
-If she agrees with you about something reply with something like “ you don't have to try and impress me girly...jeeze! Haha Wink “
Note: if she replies negatively like “i wasnt trying to impress you.” you can respond to this effect: “ Woah woah mis fiesty pants... I'm going shopping later.. want me to pick you up a sense of humor... lol Smile”
-heres a fun way to transition into role playing.
Example:
“So apparently most girls have a similar personality as their favorite disney princess... so which is your fav? ”
Now assume she says Tinker bell.
Now you have an opportunity to tease her a little bit, something like:
“I would have picked something more like Belle from beauty and the beast for you...i mean you do seem kinda like a nerd...although a yellow dress would be pretty cute on ya....
I guess with your wings and the pixie dust we could save a lot on air travel.. we can go to Venice and enjoy a gondola ride ... best part is I can put you in my pocket.
To bad that i'd have to break up with you since apparently fairies are alcoholics...I had no idea..”
Note: now she is imagining her self spending time with you, you are showing again that you have standards, and you are really displaying a good sense of humor.
-Use statements like “wait until you hear my answer” after you ask her a question or post a fun quiz for her to take.
-Post a fun comment on her pictures.
For example, if she has a bunch of pictures all dressed up and one of her puppy or cat, only post on the picture of the pet and say something like “i'm not sure, but there is something different about you here..lol Wink”
- Prepare her to be invited to meet you if she hasnt already asked too. Do this by "seeding the invite". Decide on something to invite her to and ask her about related things about it she is guaranteed to say yes too... Such as: for a comedy club ask her "Do you like drinks, good company, having fun, and laughing so hard you pee your pants? but please... dont actually pee your pants... thats just gross.. lol Smile " She will most likely say yes to all of those things, and will be less likely to say NO when you invite her to somewhere that includes all of those things... Like a Comedy club.
note: When you do actually send the invite you want to be sure you are inviting her to something that you will be doing with or with out her, and with several of your buddies.
- End your messages with “gotta go” and a short fun reason why such as: " gotta run, my friends and I are going to the turtle races... so fun...! Smile "
Song_bird
aka Kelly Kellam
