One-itis

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A theory I have is that every PUA has, at the very least once every two weeks, a bad night. By "bad night," I don't mean that he got blown out of a set and then failed to close on a sure thing and accidentally got charged for 6 beers instead of 5. I mean a night where nothing's hitting, where the openers fall dead, the targets disappear, and even the obstacles don't respond. That's the kind of night I had tonight.

Another theory I have is that on every one of these bad nights, there's a real reason for why the PUA didn't perform well. Maybe all the material was new, and none of it was successful this time out, or maybe the PUA didn't do his homework on the sarging location. Maybe he spilled ketchup on his pants and didn't notice until the first set pointed it out and laughed at him, and it bothered him all night. I don't know, I just know that there's always a reason.

For me, tonight, on my worst night of the last few weeks, it was one-itis that crippled my game and sent me home alone and confused.


I went with a friend to a local bar whose Thursdays are always packed, and the night started off promisingly. Our first few sets happened before the bar got crowded, and they responded well and merged into one another and played pool with us.

Then the bar crowded up and got a little bit louder, but we were doing okay. Then showed up my one-itis. I ran into a girl (we'll call her Kate) who I knew would be there, and who I see several times a week (we are good friends), and who has been present at some of my better nights sarging. Tonight, however, the one-itis kicked in and it wrecked my head.

I hung out with her for a bit, and then realized what I was doing and forced myself to get away and go open a few sets. For whatever reason, though, my game was just terribly off. An obstacle in the next set I opened ended up being the ex-roommate of a girl I used to sleep with and she blew me right out of the set before I could even get started.

The next set ended up being friends of another girl I knew, and as soon as she showed up I knew it was over. She exposed me to the girls, asking if I was flirting with them and basically AMOGing me out of the set. I think she's pissed after realizing she was an obstacle last week and not a target, but that's for another report.

Anyway, everything else I did for the night just fell absolutely flat. I wasn't confident, I wasn't smiling, I just wasn't alpha. Seeing Kate just reduced me to a weak, beta male. And what's worse is that she was flirting with me all night, and I couldn't force myself to ignore her.


So the night ended with no closes and a violent dissatisfaction, and to make matters worse, I had to give Kate a ride home after her friends left her.

I've done everything from ignoring her completely to hooking up with one of her sorority sisters, and the one-itis just won't go away.



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[Tribulus1000]

Yes sir.
We all have bad nights. And we all have baaad nights.
I've had nights where I go home literally crying because things went wrong. Where its painful and you get the feeling that something inside you is all fowled up.
One of my mentors, a man I consider one of the best I personally know in the Dallas-Fort Worth area had written about nights like these.
I was floored when I found out he had bad nights. This was Captain Jack.
Another buddy of mine, Requeim Knight, wrote that his bad nights were nights where he knew that he was about to break through some sort of barrier.
You see, life is irritable. Stones don't roll up hill. But trees grow to the light. And people are the same - an upset is a trigger to grow.
I hope that helps.
Another thing I do is imagine Mystery, Style, Tyler, and all the other guys standing behind me as I do my approaches.

Another theory I had was that we all have or had oneitis at sometime. If you poll anyone who is in the seduction community or who considers himself a PUA, there was a stimulus to join our community.
I have not found one person who did not come to us by way of Oneitis.
I had it. I had it bad.
I still think about her, she's my impulse and my reminder of why I do what I do.

You ever hear of those old WWII posters containing phrases like "Why we Fight!"
I have my own slogan and its "Why we Fight!" but its got my oneitis attached to it.

There ya go!
Keep it up Dawg! Always remember why we fight!

[Loki]

first of all...i really liked what Tribulus1000 said. good stuff. i agree that moments like that are the precursor to breakthroughs. not just in pickup, but life.

anyway, i wanted to relate a personal story that sounded similar to what you wrote. i will try to keep this brief. i new this girl. a buddy from colleges fuck buddy. my girlfriend in college and her were tight. after college she and i lived in the same city. we kept in touch. from the neck down she was a 9. her face....bout a 6. so i madea couple clumsy attempts to pick her up (young, dumb and full of cum). side note, my buddy knows and doesnt give a shit bout her, so dont start thinking i dick out on my buds. fast forward four years. im starting to find it harder and harder to pick up girls. so she is starting to look hotter and hotter. but she always blows me off when i made a pass at her.

so this is why i bothered to post this. she showed NO INTEREST until one night. i was out with her, her then boyfriend and a couple other people. i see this girl i have met before. a waitress at my favorite italian restraunt. easily a HB10 in anyones book. so i tell this girl that i have met her before. and before she comments i approach. out of the corner of my eye i see a look of panic in her eyes. things go pretty good with this girl but i never hook up. not long after that she sees me with another HB8. i tell her i hooked up with that girl. month later...she rapes me. i mean, she literaly JUMPS me. remember...she has known me YEARS and never shown any interest OR responded to my passes. but as soon as she sees me with these hotties she blows off her boyfriend to fcuk a couple times.

i guess if this girl sees you all the sudden hitting on and maybe successful with some HB, then it may change the way she sees you. instead of just a nice guy...now you are, for reasons she does not understand, attractive. because it sounds like there is interest on her part. that seems more likely than her friends just up and ditch her. if you like this girl, maybe your best coarse of action is to, for now, think of her only as a friend and keep up the pick up work. it could pump your value in her eyes and she might make a play for you. it might all the sudden bother her that you have never made a pass at her. or something. who knows with those wacky bitches. HOLY SHIT!!! look at the fcuking book i wrote! sorry.