Schools in. My first Movie Moment appoach.
Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2007 9:14 pmThis just happened.
The library at BPCC is divided into the downstairs portion where all the books are and the upstairs area where the technology center is with all the computers. I have to use a computer for the Algebra class I’m in so I’m here three nights a week and in class the fourth night. The only way up to the technology center is through a single elevator at the back.
I walk to this elevator three nights a week. There are tables on either side of the elevator where students can study. Usually there is no one there. I walk in tonight, pass the librarian desk and I see two people off to the side looking stuff up. I look ahead and sitting at on of the tables is a really cute (and really skinny) Asian girl. I have this thing for both Asians and Mexicans. I’m not sure why but… why fight it?
I passed her. I get in the elevator and go up. The whole time I’m thinking “I should have stopped and approached her.” I haven’t done many approaches yet. The two days I spent in Dallas I approached probably fifteen to twenty girls. That’s been at least six months ago maybe longer. And at most I’ve approached maybe five in that time. All were in clubs with load music and only while I had friends around. (None of these friends know about the Game. But most of them are women. And I have told most of them that I’m trying to get better at talking to women.) This has all been heavy on my mind recently. I keep thinking one approach a day would be a hell of a lot better than twenty in one night.
Anyway, I get up here and sign on for one of the computers. And I’m just sitting here starring at the screen. I can’t do anything. I keep thinking I should have approached. That it would have been better if it was spontaneous but that I still could do it. While I’m sitting here my heart starts beating fast. It takes about three minutes but I convince myself that I need to do it. I get up, walk to the elevator and go back down. On the way down I was thinking about Mason’s “Movie Moment” approach.
The door opens and I stepped out turning toward her. She looked up and smiled. It was a reflexive action. The kind of smile you give when you expect to just smile and look away. I walked to her table and stand next to her. She looks up.
“Hi,” I say, “I just walked by like a moment ago. And I saw you sitting here and I thought you looked really cute and I just wanted to come talk to you.”
“Thanks,” she laughs. I didn’t think about it right then but that meant the tension was broken which is not what you want with the Movie Moment. But at this point it doesn’t matter.
“Do you mind if I sit?” I ask. I FORGOT MY TIME CONSTRAINT. That should have come first.
“Well, I’m studying.” She points to her books.
“Yeah, I really only have a minute,” time constraint inserted a little too late.
She says okay so I grab the chair from the end of the table and slide it over to where I’m standing. I sit down with the corner of the table between us.
“So,” she says before I can say anything. “What’s your name?”
“Wesley, whats yours?”
She tells me her name and we fluff talk a little. I asked where she’s from and she asked what I’m studying. I hadn’t thought to look at her books or I would have recognized them. I asked her what she was studying and she said she wanted to be a nurse. I looked down and she has a Medical Terminology book open in front of her. The same one that I still have from two semesters ago. I grinned.
At this point I started talking about the hospital, Oncology and the Radiation department. Her interest peaks. She really wanted to be a Rad Tech. I dig a little and find out though that she really doesn’t know what she wants. This is a feeling I understand well.
As I talk I hear my voice flutter and fluctuate from my being nervous. I remember from speech class that most people don’t notice when you do this but still I hate it. We keep talking and eventually it goes away and I don’t really feel nervous any more.
We talk about oncology for a few minutes. I purposely don’t mention anything to do with patients. Even if she is studying to be a nurse I don’t want to gross her out. I talk instead of the technical end and try to be as brief as possible. We also talked about jobs that were available at the Hospital. She wanted experience working in a doctor’s office so I told her about the hospitals website.
At some point I say, “We’ll I have to go but I really like talking to you. Is there a way we can talk again?” I wanted it to be her idea to give me her phone number. She gives me a strange look kind of balling up her face and then says, “Well you should see me around. We’ll see each other around school.”
I nodded at this, thinking that it wasn’t likely. This was the first time I’d seen her. But I wasn’t going to say anything. She asked me something but I don’t remember what. Then I told her “If you ever do go to work at the hospital I would tell you to shoot me an email but I actually never check mine.”
At that point she asked me for my phone number. Okay… why not. She puts my number in her phone. She writes down my name and a few other things that I say. I’m looking at what she’s written and I’m thinking, I just gave her a lead to find a job which was definitely not my intent.
We talk a little more. Then I excuse myself, “I really have to go do some work now.”
Now… I didn’t get much out of this. No day-two close. No number close. Nothing. Except I did get something. I made myself get up and go talk to her. I should definitely get some routines together and polish them up. But first things first. And really nothing comes before approaching. The one thing I need to work on most is confidence. I feel like she could tell that I was nervous at the start and that maybe we both would have been more at ease if I acted a little more confident. But that’s something I think comes over time a little bit with each approach. And also I need to act when I first see the girl. Use the three second rule. But I know that even if I walk by and don’t act within that three seconds I can still make myself do it rather then talk myself out of it the way I used to.
I had something else that happened the other day that I wanted to post about but I’ll guess it will have to wait. The library will be closing in about thirty minutes I’ve used up all my time typing this and I still haven’t done any Algebra tonight. Oh well, all things considered right now I think my time was better spent.
Wesley.
The library at BPCC is divided into the downstairs portion where all the books are and the upstairs area where the technology center is with all the computers. I have to use a computer for the Algebra class I’m in so I’m here three nights a week and in class the fourth night. The only way up to the technology center is through a single elevator at the back.
I walk to this elevator three nights a week. There are tables on either side of the elevator where students can study. Usually there is no one there. I walk in tonight, pass the librarian desk and I see two people off to the side looking stuff up. I look ahead and sitting at on of the tables is a really cute (and really skinny) Asian girl. I have this thing for both Asians and Mexicans. I’m not sure why but… why fight it?
I passed her. I get in the elevator and go up. The whole time I’m thinking “I should have stopped and approached her.” I haven’t done many approaches yet. The two days I spent in Dallas I approached probably fifteen to twenty girls. That’s been at least six months ago maybe longer. And at most I’ve approached maybe five in that time. All were in clubs with load music and only while I had friends around. (None of these friends know about the Game. But most of them are women. And I have told most of them that I’m trying to get better at talking to women.) This has all been heavy on my mind recently. I keep thinking one approach a day would be a hell of a lot better than twenty in one night.
Anyway, I get up here and sign on for one of the computers. And I’m just sitting here starring at the screen. I can’t do anything. I keep thinking I should have approached. That it would have been better if it was spontaneous but that I still could do it. While I’m sitting here my heart starts beating fast. It takes about three minutes but I convince myself that I need to do it. I get up, walk to the elevator and go back down. On the way down I was thinking about Mason’s “Movie Moment” approach.
The door opens and I stepped out turning toward her. She looked up and smiled. It was a reflexive action. The kind of smile you give when you expect to just smile and look away. I walked to her table and stand next to her. She looks up.
“Hi,” I say, “I just walked by like a moment ago. And I saw you sitting here and I thought you looked really cute and I just wanted to come talk to you.”
“Thanks,” she laughs. I didn’t think about it right then but that meant the tension was broken which is not what you want with the Movie Moment. But at this point it doesn’t matter.
“Do you mind if I sit?” I ask. I FORGOT MY TIME CONSTRAINT. That should have come first.
“Well, I’m studying.” She points to her books.
“Yeah, I really only have a minute,” time constraint inserted a little too late.
She says okay so I grab the chair from the end of the table and slide it over to where I’m standing. I sit down with the corner of the table between us.
“So,” she says before I can say anything. “What’s your name?”
“Wesley, whats yours?”
She tells me her name and we fluff talk a little. I asked where she’s from and she asked what I’m studying. I hadn’t thought to look at her books or I would have recognized them. I asked her what she was studying and she said she wanted to be a nurse. I looked down and she has a Medical Terminology book open in front of her. The same one that I still have from two semesters ago. I grinned.
At this point I started talking about the hospital, Oncology and the Radiation department. Her interest peaks. She really wanted to be a Rad Tech. I dig a little and find out though that she really doesn’t know what she wants. This is a feeling I understand well.
As I talk I hear my voice flutter and fluctuate from my being nervous. I remember from speech class that most people don’t notice when you do this but still I hate it. We keep talking and eventually it goes away and I don’t really feel nervous any more.
We talk about oncology for a few minutes. I purposely don’t mention anything to do with patients. Even if she is studying to be a nurse I don’t want to gross her out. I talk instead of the technical end and try to be as brief as possible. We also talked about jobs that were available at the Hospital. She wanted experience working in a doctor’s office so I told her about the hospitals website.
At some point I say, “We’ll I have to go but I really like talking to you. Is there a way we can talk again?” I wanted it to be her idea to give me her phone number. She gives me a strange look kind of balling up her face and then says, “Well you should see me around. We’ll see each other around school.”
I nodded at this, thinking that it wasn’t likely. This was the first time I’d seen her. But I wasn’t going to say anything. She asked me something but I don’t remember what. Then I told her “If you ever do go to work at the hospital I would tell you to shoot me an email but I actually never check mine.”
At that point she asked me for my phone number. Okay… why not. She puts my number in her phone. She writes down my name and a few other things that I say. I’m looking at what she’s written and I’m thinking, I just gave her a lead to find a job which was definitely not my intent.
We talk a little more. Then I excuse myself, “I really have to go do some work now.”
Now… I didn’t get much out of this. No day-two close. No number close. Nothing. Except I did get something. I made myself get up and go talk to her. I should definitely get some routines together and polish them up. But first things first. And really nothing comes before approaching. The one thing I need to work on most is confidence. I feel like she could tell that I was nervous at the start and that maybe we both would have been more at ease if I acted a little more confident. But that’s something I think comes over time a little bit with each approach. And also I need to act when I first see the girl. Use the three second rule. But I know that even if I walk by and don’t act within that three seconds I can still make myself do it rather then talk myself out of it the way I used to.
I had something else that happened the other day that I wanted to post about but I’ll guess it will have to wait. The library will be closing in about thirty minutes I’ve used up all my time typing this and I still haven’t done any Algebra tonight. Oh well, all things considered right now I think my time was better spent.
Wesley.