Field Report #1

[recruiter]

well last night I was sitting around my place reading The Game for the second time when I just got the urge to go out and do the solo thing. I decided for a warm up I would go to Hooters and Vibe with the staff before I went to the spot, Plus I was hungry so it was a win win. So I go and sit at the bar and brought my new tool (my journal). So when I sit down I get approached at the bar by Hooter girl (HB7.5)

(HB7.5) Would you like to buy a calendar?

(Me) Why would I need a calendar?

(HB7.5) To keep you organized? besides it has beautiful women in it!!

(Me) Well, the better question is are the women beautiful on the inside? Everyone knows they are hot, but the thing that matters most is the inner beauty.

(HB7.5) I don't know if they are, then points to one in the calendar "she is from austin."

(Me) which one?

(HB7.5) Don't know

so she walks away, she comes back in 10 minutes

(HB7.5) Made your mind up on the calendar yet?

(Me) No, I'm just thinking what a horrible sales person you are (wink)

HB7.5) Me?

Me) yes, You

yada yada yada # close

I was on fire after that I'm still writing most of the night down in my journal and I will enter more later on today

[Guest]

Greetings and welcome to my first field report ever and basically my first sarge.

Even if I opened only one group tonight, it's still a field report none-the-less, right?
This post is written approx. 30 min. after the fact.

So here it goes …

I received an invite to a Thanksgiving party by a printing company for whom my company I work for uses.
I'm dressed pretty cool in my opinion, feeling good. Wearing slick Express jeans, Kenneth Cole boots, edgy t-shirt,
a bracelet, two necklaces, one with a crown on it, 2 rings on my fingers, a black jacket, and a Stars and Straps
bandana covering my head (black w/ a pattern of white little logos).

At first by walking in, I was already turning heads. I think it was because I was the only one sporting a bandana, lol.
I don't know if this was such a good thing. Other people were dressed more upper casual. Oh well.

Guys, it took a lot for me to even go to this alone. I mean, being my first time to attempt game, I was nervous like none other. I was just happy
to look the part …sort of. But my walk was a sense of confidence and success. I was in a happy state. I wanted to be sure of that.
So anyways, spotted my first and only set who were even remotely cute. You have to understand,
most of the people who actually went to this thing were older folks. Not a lot to choose from :P

Without hesitation, I opened the 3 set with the blind date opener. Over the shoulder, "Hey guys, where would you
take a blind date?" Girl on the left says, "Well, how about McDonald's?" And I said, "McDonalds?? Real quick, then
I need to get back with my friends. The reason why I'm asking is cause a friend of mine just moved here to Dallas
and his boss is wanting to fix him up with his daughter. Already a loss cause, I know."

Then the other girls pitched in and started to name more places. I begin to ask how everyone knows each other. I found out that my target
on the right is married, girl on the left and the center girl are cousins. About this time, the girl on the right starts talking to her husband who
just showed up. I didn't want to continue with the other 2 girls cause I felt it going dry.
So I said, "pleasure meeting you guys" and ejected.

I immediately started to walk around for another set. Wasn't much to choose from. I left cause I didn't want to be caught standing anywhere
lowering my value. But you know what, I'm happy. I left on a high note. I approached. I didn't peck, I spoke to the whole group. I didn't neg
the target which is ok I guess cause she ended up being married anyways. I didn't act nervous which is a shocker. The group didn't hook, so what.

Next time my goal is to open 2 groups maybe 3 and hold an interesting conversation and practice threading. Baby steps.
Can't wait to start using the fun stuff I've learned on a set. I'm ready to have a good time with these social situations.

Any and all pointers are welcomed.

Cheers!

[Guest]

Sounds like you really did your homework and put some thought into your first sarge. Congrats. You've got the right attitude, I'm sure you'll be successful.

[Guest]

What a refreshing post. I remember these times. You give me a rush of adreneline just reading that because its possibly the hardest thing to just go out and wing it on your own. Fair play.

Way to break down the set also for your first time. I gotta tell you that reading people, situations, who is with who and likes who and is fucking who etc. is what leads you into the fine micro calibration. This sort of validates their intuition about you and that you are an OK guy (not creepy, etc.. - basically fuckable). This is where the real game is played. Subtle and above most guy's understanding. Other guys may disagree but for me its not in magic tricks or stories - its in establishing the connection.

If you want a good exercise then think back in your mind how they reacted to you and to each other. Break it down so it makes sense. Which ones touched you? Your strategy is all a game time decision IMO and needs to be because the girl can pop up at any moment unexpectedly. Once a girl really likes you and connects with you in this way its basically over and you are calling the shots now. Flip da screen chase switch ..(Love YA Tyler!!)

[Guest]

Nice post. Great to see you getting out there SOLO no less. Many people won't solo sarge as veterans let alone their first sarge!

good job breaking down the interactions and being aware of what your doing.

Force yourself to NOT leave the minute you find yourself alone. Take a minute check your messages or something and regroup. It only lowers your value if you let it.

[Guest]

I remember the days of solo sarging fondly...

Oddly enough, I seemed to do better alone. Maybe it's because you guys are all so f-ing sexy that I get distracted and don't sarge when you're around ;)

Anyway, Zero, re-read Welsh's post. Good stuff in there.

[Guest]

Great advice, guys. Your feedback is well appreciated. Welsh, that is so true of what you're saying, man. I feel that if you find out the relationships between people early in the interaction, you're not wasting your time on unavailable women when instead you could already be in another set. Although the unavailable target can always have a friend she's looking to set up. I guess you never know. It's fun finding out though—I'm getting a kick out of this.

[Guest]

[quote1227630798=Zero]
Great advice, guys. Your feedback is well appreciated. Welsh, that is so true of what you're saying, man. I feel that if you find out the relationships between people early in the interaction, you're not wasting your time on unavailable women when instead you could already be in another set. Although the unavailable target can always have a friend she's looking to set up. I guess you never know. It's fun finding out though—I'm getting a kick out of this.
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I'm almost always versed with the group dynamic before I even talk to them just (if practical) by observing their body language beforehand. This is something I will show a guy in field before anything else because you don't even have to open to see whats going on, who is Alpha guy/girl, bf/gf, etc. Eventually you start to see patterns (e.g. 3 girl set - who is Alpha girl? Go in, bust her, then take away all energy from her). You can almost predict how things will go a lot of the time (at least the beginning part).

My favourite thing was to just literally take my wing and go stand right next to, almost in, the set I wanted to observe. Its so freakin funny they just go on about talking in their group and interacting like you arent there because your BL is congruent (hard to explain in text - its a skill you have to practice. Seeing, hearing what is up but looking from your BL / EC that you are totally into your wing or whatever you are doing). You get to see it all! Then, if you want - when they say something stupid or funny or whatever you can break from your buddy's "E/C zone" and bust the girl when she is least expecting it. Fully knowing everything you are doing.

Try it sometime. If you ever see me out I'll show you what I mean - its a trip. Girls do notice everything but you can garner an advantage my "flying under the radar" by having tight B/L, etc.. and then BAM! In particular the subtle touching and responses to touching gives away the key relationships of the group. This information can also be gained in the initial interaction if you are quick however thats hard for a newbie with everything else thats going on.

For me it is not so much to screen girls out (although I suppose that is useful early on and well done observing that this is VERY IMPORTANT - don't waste time with girls who are not there to play the game. Who knows and who cares why - on the rag, not in the mood, whatever - depends on the time of the month (LOL don't say that)). The value to me is more in displaying superior social dynamics right up front - for this group and the whole room/venue. For example you could (intentionally) ask "so this is your boyfriend?" to a girl who is hanging with an orbiter dude. Her reaction to this observation will be very telling. In a way you force her hand. Once a girl reacts to you it puts you in the driver seat for the rest of the interaction. It is so rare for someone to call them on their shit that they lap it up.

I mentioned did they touch you.. The reason being is that I have almost universally found that, on a cold approach kind of scenario, the girl who likes your game typically grabs you, touches you, engages you early on - even playful punch or whatever. Its a huge indicator and the "un-calibrated" guys dont see it as anything so the girl is safe to play this way.

Ultimately all that matters is how things "look". Your interaction with this group, in spite of the end result (and in particular if the girls display interest) - will be seen and noted by all the other girls within eye/earshot. Its like you know everyone! WTF. funny.

[Guest]

[quote1227632136=Zero]
Without hesitation, I opened the 3 set with the blind date opener. Over the shoulder, "Hey guys, were would you
take a blind date?" Girl on the left says, "Well, how about McDonald's?" And I said, "McDonalds?? Real quick, then
I need to get back with my friends. The reason why I'm asking is cause a friend of mine just moved here to Dallas
and his boss is wanting to fix him up with his daughter. Already a loss cause, I know."

Then the other girls pitched in and started to name more places. I begin to ask how everyone knows each other. I found out that my target
on the right is married, girl on the left and the center girl are cousins. About this time, the girl on the right starts talking to her husband who
just showed up. I didn't want to continue with the other 2 girls cause I felt it going dry. I wasn't feeling it anymore.
So I said, "pleasure meeting you guys" and ejected.
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This set is so money man! haha.

I'm not a fan at all of the "opinion opener" etc. but you hooked it good. Do you notice the girl was busting you by saying "McDonalds"

.. OK love thanks for that. At this point IMO you bust her back. "Is that where your last date took you?". Yes it can sound harsh if not delivered correctly with a smile but you need to get into that frame. Who is the comedian here? Surely not a chick .. ;0

Instead you qualified the question rather than transitioning and so they went into "normal guy" mode, letting you know all the places they'd like orbiter dude to take them on a "date". When the husband showed up that is PERFECT for you .. engage him totally with B/L, E/C and give him much respect (and his wife). See if you can find a quick common interest and hopefully he is not a douche (not so hard if you know how). Usually the married guy is cool enough to you if you identify yourself as not a threat to him..

At this point, as you shoot the shit with your "new buddy" and he buys you a drink or something, the girl who is interested in you will break into your convo and try to bring your attention back to her (touching, etc..). There U GO

[Guest]

[quote1227632700=Welsh_Dragon]I mentioned did they touch you.. The reason being is that I have almost universally found that, on a cold approach kind of scenario, the girl who likes your game typically grabs you, touches you, engages you early on - even playful punch or whatever. Its a huge indicator and the "un-calibrated" guys dont see it as anything so the girl is safe to play this way.[/quote1227632700]


Cash money. I've always been of the belief that if a girl isn't touching you she doesn't want you. This is why I don't like to initiate kino. I don't want to give her permission to start grabbing/touching me because it takes away one of her key IOIs (Same thing with giving names).

If you break down the barrier of physicality by touching first, anything she does in return has to be taken with a grain of salt.

The funny thing about women and their touch IOI is that they do it almost instantaneously. I can't tell you the number of times I was unable to finish saying 'Hi' before she was touching me, it can be that fast. This is why it is incredibly important to understand the logistics of an approach. Always make sure your approach has an element of proximity. She has to be able to touch you very easily, without you making it too obvious you're interested.