FR: First night of solo sarging

[Rawwwrr!]

So tonight I told myself that I would go out solo. I would navigate the world alone and that I would learn from it. And that is what I did.

So after a beer I decide that I need to go out alone. I feel this is the best way to up my game, and my game defiantly needs a jolt of electricity to it. So I decide to go to bar number 1 around 10:30. I walk in and walk around. I hit the bathroom and start talking to one of the girls in line about how the bathrooms are limited in this bar and some other stuff. I keep the conversation going until a bathroom frees up and then I go in. Afterwords I go to one of the bars upstairs and order my drink. Next to me is a girl and a guy. I don't really care about the best sets to open at this point, I just need to talk to people, to get into the habit of opening random people when I am by myself. I say hey, I am new to the area, what are some good places to go around here. They say some stuff for a couple min. I noticed the girl order the same beer that I did, so I say good choice! and then I move on. I walk down the stairs and say hi to some random girls going up the stairs. When I get to the first floor I ask a group of guys "where is X bar at?" and they give me directions. I then go over to the downstairs bar and hang out for a second there. The bartender says hey, what is up [my name]? I say hey man, and we have a short conversation about the bars in the area. This is a bar that I frequent a lot and this bartender remembers me from the multiple times that i have been here. I figure it can only help out to know the bar tender. Then I leave and move onto a bar down the street.

This bar doubles as a restaurant and a bar. I walk in and go to the bar and order a drink. I noticed a group of 5 girls next to me, and that is about all I see for sets at the moment. I grab my drink and act like I am texting on me phone. For some reason, this always makes me feel better in awkward social settings. I don't end up opening the girls and I finish up my drink, walk around the venue, then leave. When I get outside I see a few of the girls from the seated set that was next to me at the bar. I ask them directions to a bar. They tell me and I say a line or two. Then I walk to my car and drive to the next place.

I'm driving all around and can't find any parking. So I end up valeting. I walk into the bar and go straight to the bar and order a drink. Next to me are two attarctive girls getting their drink. One of their drinks are green, so I open with "hey, is that lime juice?" and she says something. Blah blah blah. And I ask her what she thinks of ordering egg nog at the bar. And I go on to say one time I was in San Antonio and I got egg nog and all this other stuff. She laughed and said something else and some guy walks up and starts talking to her and her friend. He is obviously a friend and they all know each other. She turns her back to me at this point, so I have no choice but to do the same while I wait on my drink. Her and her friends leave, but before they do she taps my glass and says good luck with your egg nog! and walks away with her group. Was she being courteous or did she want me to go re open her again later? I go walk around the bar for a bit. I don't open anything else here. So I decide to leave. I go next door.

I walk in and do a quick walk around. I spot a two set and open about the girls shirt. I realize that she is older, probably in her 30's. She is receptive, but I just talk for a min or two and move on. I walk around and don't end up opening anything else. On to the next bar.

I walk around a bit and walk up to the bar. I open a girl next to me, but it doesn't last long. I ordered a shot, so I down it quickly and walk around again. I don't end up opening anything else here. I look at my watch and see that it is 12:30. I have been at the bars by myself for the last 2 hours. Not bad for a first time. I go back to the bar across the street and grab my car from valet. While in the valet line there is a girl that is asking if this guy and this guy are working tonight, I guess she knows a lot of the valets? She is pretty drunk. I start talking to her, telling her that she got the valets name wrong, and I give her shit for driving a prius (a prius just pulled up and I asked if that was her car.) She says she wastes as much resources as possible and would never drive a prius. I tell her that I am anti-green and I use a ton of gas up in my car. This goes back and forth for a min. or two. and she sees some valet that she knows and hugs him then runs away down the street. Damn, she was drunk,.

I get my car back and head on home.

I gotta say, even though I didn't really use any bold openers and didn't number close anyone, I am proud of myself. Proud that I went to the bar by myself and opened people all night. That is something a lot of guys are afraid to do, and hopefully this will help my game out. I have to keep pushing my limits, and that means next time that I go out alone, I need to use my typical openers and try to get into some of these seated sets.

A month ago I would never have been able to do this. Now I feel that this is the next step I have to take in order to up my game. I need to be able to sarge on my own. Hopefully I will be able to master this.

When you think about it, sarging solo is really no different than sarging with your buddies. When you open a girl, you usually open her alone and she doesn't really know if you have any friends with you out. So for all she knows, you are there by yourself. But my mind messes with me and tells me that it is odd to be at the bar by myself and that everyone knows, when in reality no one cares about me at all. It is all in my mind. I am my own worst enemy and I am the only one that is holding me back.

I can't wait until tomorrow night, I have a burning desire to better myself in this skill set.

[CasperKid]

DUDE you are so MONEY!!

That is an epic night for your first solo sarge!

Good job keeping up your social momentum by talking to everyone! You didn't wait for the perfect set and that's a huge sticking point for most guys. Way to be bold and be adventurous!

Keep up the good work, and keep us posted brother

~CK