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TheGift's last night before he heads to Norway.
We get a late start off into the night and head over to meet Fingers at Level5. The Power Trio's last night together.
The night started off alright, but I wasn't holding it down. I opened some sets up stairs just being friendly, girl I D2 and ditched found me and said hi. She introduced me to her friends and I quickly ejected afterwards. Wasn't really in the mood. I did see out of the corner of my eye that 10 minutes later, she was with a larger group of friends that included more hot girls. Still, didn't go back to reopen. Wasn't feeling it and I have this aversion to exerting energy. In hindsight, I did not warm up. Every time i have a shitty night i can trace it to not warming up.
Lesson:
WARM UP. Get in state.
Stretch Goal: "I should control my state; my state should not control me." [COLOR="red"][i realized this will never happen; sorry to burst anyones bubbles. i've met a lot of top guys and every one of them has off days][/COLOR]
We find three 18 year old girls that TheGift & Fingers met earlier on Monday night. I think, k, too easy, push yourself. Total tally of the night: Pussied out 3 times, opened two sets, hooked, but didn't feel it.
I did try something new. In the middle of dancing with this girl, I said "Girl, you gotta booty like a black girl." She laughs, says "Thank you!". Classic move now.[still usin it, 2 years later] She's hooked. Later on I try this new bit, "Hey, I can't go home with you tonight...But I'll make out with you if you want."
She stumbles for a bit, dumbfounded and recovers with "Uhh..well it's good that you're thinking about that but I have a boyfriend."
I had no idea what she was gonna say so i just replied with "Perfect then." and then immediately started heavy kino escalation and she went right along with it.
I know there's a golden nugget in this but I'll have to refine it more. There's a little role reversal (girls do this all the time), there's a little active sexual push pull, and there's a little genuiness b/c that's kinda how i feel a lot of the time. The trick is to not trigger her desperateness defense.
Anyways, its the end of the night we're outside. TheGift sees his solid Russian 9. I'm there entertaining the friend. The 9 gets a call from the ex, gets into drama, we're pulling HB18 yearolds to an afterparty and HBRussianFriend is like "I want to come! I want to come". Rigth then she gets approached by a guy who tries to game her. I fight the urge to "be alpha" and walk away immediately; I just look at her expectantly. She keeps brushing him off and as soon as he leaves, another comes in. I look at her, really could've cared less, shrug my shoulders and turn my back. She then immediately pushes him away, runs up to me and # closes me.
Lesson: Stay in set for longer than you think you should. And then after that leave. Shows that girl that you were interested but then she lost you [COLOR="red"][great lesson; good reminder][/COLOR]
Anyways, we bounce back to Fing's place. We start a game of I never with a bottle of wine, Fingers & I are playing the guitar, things are going good. The Gift is escalating with HBDesignatedDriver. Fingers is seranading HBBraces. And I'm just chillin, still in a funk about pussying out. Then I say fuck it, let it go.
Lesson: I need to get this tattooed into my brain; "OUTCOME INDEPENDENCE." [COLOR="red"][key fundamental to game][/COLOR]
I decide to start gaming HBAsian.
Finger's roomate comes in and is pissed b/c it's 3 am and we're loud. Understandable. Time to shift afterparty to my place. I have..a studio. There are no multiple rooms. Does that stop us. Nope.
We continue playing I never at my place with bottle of wine #2. We're all with our irrespective females. I decide to take mine upstairs to the roof. Roof's locked. Fuck it, we start making out by the door to the roof. LMR. Meh, verbalize what she's feeling. She agrees. I then say "It's okay, I won't think you're a slut." [COLOR="red"][bad way to verbalize; 'skoo is much better. or verbalize what she's feelin, never try to rationalize][/COLOR]
Lesson: I think with younger girls, you have to lead them more instead of just empathising with them. [COLOR="red"][always be leadin][/COLOR]
Whenever it gets hot and heavy and we start fooling around she stops it and says "We should go back down." I say, "Sure, we will." And go back to what I was doing. Trying the persistence thing but there's gotta be a better way to LMR. [COLOR="red"][it's persistence from a non-needy place; it's also more of a slowly escalating thing and stopping if she doesn't like it][/COLOR] I finally find out she's on her period. Ah. That's why....Just means she gets to do all the work
We make it back down and things are getting hot and heavy with two people on my bed, two people on the floor. Before we know it, everyone's in their underwear. Being the photographer that I am, I bust out the camera and a sexy party and pictures followed. Use your imagination.
All in all, I didn't get the BJ (pulled her to the bathroom and tried to re-escalate again when we were in our underwear). I tried freezing her out and it backfired b/c she got uncomfortable and cold (that technique never works for me) [i don't like freeze outs. i never use them anymore] . I think i pushed it too far. Didn't matter tho b/c i didn't want to see her again. Sticky's window of opportunity is only open from 11 pm to 3 am.
Lesson: Don't push it too far with the persistence [COLOR="red"][more like don't be outcome dependent with the SNL][/COLOR]
All in all, fun story, was balls tired the next day, and extremely hungover. Good reconciliation for the poor performance earlier in the night.
