Number close in Wal-Mart.

[dubya]

I walked into Wal-Mart at about 2am. I was dressed well because I had been out with friends earlier that night. I looked good and despite being tired as hell was feeling pretty good too.

I was there to pick up some coke zeros and a few other essentials. This was just a normal routine thing that people do. Only nothing in my life is a normal routine thing anymore. Most field reports that I read look pretty much the same to me. Guys go out to a bar/club and open set after set until they are either blown out by the whole club or they hook someone. That is all well and good. But thats not my life. I do go out to bars and clubs from time to time when I have a wing available to sarge with. But I don't really sarge that often. A part of me is beginning to believe that I don't have to and the reason for that is pretty simple...

I'm integrating it into my life.

This is something I learned from Lance Mason. Make pick up a part of your life. If you have a lunch break at work you can spend the hour sitting in break room making small talk with your coworkers while pretending to enjoy your double cheese burger from Micky Ds... or you could go to a near by food court in a mall or some other location where there are lots of people to talk to. The choice is yours...

So I'm just living my daily life. I'm just being me. I need a few things from the store. I'm walking through Wally World and I see this fat kid running towards me. I mean the kid was just chunky... and he was running...

A stupid little thought popped in my head.
If he ran a little more often he wouldn't be that fat.

I couldn't help it. I just started laughing. I looked down thinking that I shouldn't laugh at people like that but fuck it, it was funny.

When I looked up my eyes met with those of a cute little black girl who was working the jewelry and watches counter. We were both smiling. I didn't look away. I didn't even think about it, I just walked toward her.

Me: Hey, did you just see that fat kid running?
Her: No. (She shook her head and she was still smiling).
Me: Let me ask you if you think this is mean, I saw this fat kid running over there and I started laughing because I thought to myself, wow if he did more of that he wouldn't be so fat.
Her: Yeah that is pretty mean. (she was still smiling.)

We talked about the meanest thing that we'd ever done. Then we talked about the most fun thing that we'd ever done. She said she likes to ice skate. I told her she would have to take me with her but since I'm a mean guy I'd probably make her fall...

Her: No, don't do that. I'll probably fall on my own anyway.
Me: You know I'll laugh at you right?
Her: You probably would.
Me: Yeah, but I'll help you up... and then I'll probably fall too.
Her: Then I get to laugh.
Me: Yeah, you do.
Her: But I'd help you up too.
Me: Yeah but you know what I'll do when you come to help me up?

We actually this next at the same time.
Her: You'll pull me down to you
Me: I'll pull you down on top of me.

We both laughed.
Me: Ice skating is too far away though. (There is a rink in Shreveport only during winter. I've never been to it.)
Her: We can go bowling.
Me: Thats cool, how can we make that happen?

I walked away with her phone number got my coke zeros and went home.
Integrate it into your life.

[younginj]

yeah that is my style too.

yeah id say call her next week.

[dubya]

I think a week is too long.

I mean why would you wait a full week before you call a girl?
The only reason I can think of is fear.

You know... there is a lot of talk about AA in the community. But I think all that AA really comes down to is fear. Guys fear the approach until they've done enough approaches to know there is no reason to fear it. Then they fear the very next thing that comes after that... the first phone call.

Hell, I fear it too. That isn't stopping me from doing it. It should become second nature to call the girl the day after you meet her. If not sooner... Why wait more then a day? If you are thinking about it, then you should.

[younginj]

"if you are thinking about it then you should" nice quote .

a fluid conversation is really important.

nervousness leads to akward conversation, lol, which is bad.

anyways, nice pull. she seems like a nice girl too, go find out!