LMR-Freezeout=Cowboy gets blown out!!

[Cowboy]

Hey guys! Just moved back to Dallas. Had Day2 with a 10! Met her at Cru in Plano. Immediately went caveman and into my Jack Sparrow way of being that I have adopted and come to love. She is eating it up. She is telling me how fascinating and wonderful I am blah, blah, blah.... We were having a great time. Kissed at the cafe. Ask her back to my hotel to show her some pictures of Iraq and run the google earth gambit. We make out some and things start to escalate. It is 2am now and she says she has to go. I freeze her out and start checking my email. She see's I have a ton of emails and comments how I must be Mr. Popular in a sarcastic way. She says she is leaving and I dont even get up to show her out or walk her to her car. Get a text ten minutes later saying she had a wonderful time but she was pissed I didnt walk her out and for me to "LOOSE HER NUMBER". She is pissed, deletes me from her myspace too. I never text her back or called her. Where did I go wrong? Thought I had built plenty of comfort?! Should I have re-engaged before she left? Walked her out?

Cowboy

[Silvermouth]

You could reverse the situation and just txt her saying i thought you were upset at me for some unknown reason and I was giving you your space...blah blah.

If she responds positively then you're still game. If not then oh well, she may just have a bad case of princess syndrome.

My guess is from the sound of things this may just be a shit test since earlier in your story she sounded pretty hooked.

Either way I'd say good luck but we know that's not necessary ; )

[El Fenix]

2 things:
1. girls are plentiful.
2. who cares what she thinks?

[Bull Run]

2 things:
1. girls are plentiful.
2. who cares what she thinks?

Well put.

[Twitchy]

Freezing out and being rude are two different things. Women are worried about their safety and expect a guy to be at least somewhat of a gentlemen.

So you didn't get laid that night? What about the next night you hung out? Or the night after that?

One thing I think WAY too many people in this community go for is instant gratification. Rarely doesn't someone think strategically for some reason.

Even if you didn't get what you wanted from her, you could have on the next date. Or I am sure she has attractive friends and a social circle you might want to be a part of.

Next time you are in this situation, do freeze outs if there is LMR just like "the book" says. However, if it still doesn't go the way you want, look at the bigger picture and realize she is a human being and walking her to her car would have been polite, would have made her feel more secure and would have given her pleasant memories of you for the next time you hung out with her.

[Vector]

Ah, the freeze out.

For me, to get up and do something else in response to LMR seemed needy, like if you're not going to have sex with me, I'm going to go over here and pout. And even if I say I'm cool with it and it's no big deal, I don't think my words are going to be very convincing. She's still going to think sex is really important to me and perhaps all I care about.

But they say you're supposed to do a freeze-out, so for me it was a dilemma.

I asked someone whose opinion I really respect about LMR and freeze-outs. And he said that it should be just a physical freeze-out. In other words, you keep talking to her and interacting with her, but have zero touching. She will miss the touching and re-engage.

[El Fenix]

Or you can just go to sleep, and hit it in the morning:)
Got that from a good friend on this board.

[El Fenix]

2 things:
1. girls are plentiful.
2. who cares what she thinks?

I said that to make a point. My mindset is one of a land of plenty when it comes to girls now.
Overall, the outcome matters, but any 1 girl doesnt really. That's unless shes something very special.

I've kinda taken the attitude of, unless I'm a complete d1ck to her, or do something really outta line,(which I wont be but we make mistakes) and it gets around, when she thinks isint important.
What 90% of people think of you doesnt really matter. We've all had friends and enemies. Unless it impacts things on a day to day basis, it doenst really matter in the long run.

[El Fenix]

Hey guys! Just moved back to Dallas. Had Day2 with a 10! Met her at Cru in Plano. Immediately went caveman and into my Jack Sparrow way of being that I have adopted and come to love. She is eating it up. She is telling me how fascinating and wonderful I am blah, blah, blah.... We were having a great time. Kissed at the cafe. Ask her back to my hotel to show her some pictures of Iraq and run the google earth gambit. We make out some and things start to escalate. It is 2am now and she says she has to go. I freeze her out and start checking my email. She see's I have a ton of emails and comments how I must be Mr. Popular in a sarcastic way. She says she is leaving and I dont even get up to show her out or walk her to her car. Get a text ten minutes later saying she had a wonderful time but she was pissed I didnt walk her out and for me to "LOOSE HER NUMBER". She is pissed, deletes me from her myspace too. I never text her back or called her. Where did I go wrong? Thought I had built plenty of comfort?! Should I have re-engaged before she left? Walked her out?

Cowboy

Walk her out maybe. Be a gentleman like Twitchy said. But you have to decide for YOU what your standards are, what you expect, and what you will tolerate.

Her reaction seems a bit overboard, IMO. Maybe it's better you found this out about her now, rather than later.

[Kit]

One time I had a long term gf who went out with another guy. He didn't walk her out at the end of the night and she called me up and told me there were things in me that she missed like she knew I'd never let her walk herself out.

However, she still left me and was still infatuated with him.

For whatever it's worth... it sounds like she is a bit insecure. You may have played it a little too hard, but I agree than let her cool off then send a text saying that your friends that are girls usually walk themselves out when they are ready to leave, but when you are in a relationship with someone you always walk them out. This shows you are a gentleman but that it has to be earned.