Dallas PUA

I have had a few people tell me the importance of calibration due to my posts here early on and the advice may have come in handy.

I was having drinks tonight with a woman that has a hot body by my standards and I was really wanting it. I ran the cube on her and her cube (ego) was like 4"x4" - it's amazing how accurate that game is. I should have laid off the negs as soon as I knew the size of her cube because it held so true. I ran some mind puzzles by her early on and she said to me I was very intelligent. I also made her laugh with some sexual jokes so she was playing along well. I leaned in at one point and told her to bite me and she did. I kissed her later. Everything was working.

At last call I told her she kissed great, smelled great but her bite could use a little improvement. I said let me show you how to do it and then I bit her. When I came up, she kept repeating "needs improvement" in a serious voice. I am thinking, what the fuck? It seemed like she had heard these words before and hated them. She suddenly changed moods but I was laughing and being playful. It was the damn neg and words needs improvement. If I had calibrated her better by the size of her cube I would have never negged her. Is this proper use of the word calibration? I'm not sure.

So anyway... she refused to bite me again and looked angry. Her body language completely changed so I thought my best way out was to do a takeway which I did and it kind of worked. She started saying so what is this my que to leave... At this point she was being so serious that I kind of wanted her to leave and I let her. Bad me... old habbits are hard to break. My pride gets the best of me sometimes.

Once she was gone I realized I wasn't getting what I had set out to get. I fucked up by letting her walk.

She called me later and left a rambling message about how smart I was and how much fun she had and it was just too bad that we were not a match.

I called her back and explained I had only been jokingly flirting with her but she didn't remember half the conversation. I realize now that part of her problem was that she was drunk.

Anyway, we made up and she is supposed to send me a pic of her tits when she gets home.

photo sharing right now

While I wait, point is I should have picked up how insecure she is and not negged her so obviously, if at all.

damn, not as revealing as I had hoped, update when day2 happens

I'd add the pic she sent if I knew how.

calibrating is all about reading the signals the person you are interacting with is sending and changing your strategy or actions to adapt to those signals. Like when you said she seemed upset thats a very basic form of calibration you read her "upset" signals and it caused you to act differently. Once you get really good at conversing with people you will be able to pick up on smaller signals and you will know how to react to certain signals more effectively. like playing with her hair, eye contact, and so on.