Dallas PUA

first off, if this is the wrong place for this im sorry.

Last night i went into downtown mckinney to a couple pubs. Lots of chicks to choose from so you would think I would talk to at least one hot chick. Wow, I didnt even think a person could do so bad. I was there alone so i was the creepy dude at the end of the bar by himself staring into never-never land sipping his beer. I just cant seem to think of anything to say, and being by myself doesnt help. I used the "my friends girlfriend tried to kiss me, should i tell him" a couple times. It did what it was supposed to, i guess, but after that im a total blank. I will be reading alot of the forums and i am currently doing the stylelife challange, but I guess the part after the approach comes later. If there were a "crash and burn" section I wouldnt belong there, cause i didnt even leave the runway. Two fat girls started hitting on me and that wasnt cool. One of the fat girls even had a bad lisp. *sigh* Im a good looking guy, I just aint got what they call 'the social skills'. Ill read up on what happens after the approach but if yall have advice or suggestions on what i should read please lemme know.

peace, love, and tacos.

Its very easy to be hard on yourself. We all are our own worst critics.

You did good man. You know why? Because you got up off your ass and went out. Next time you go out and if you aren't opening make sure you watch the social dynamics of the room. You can learn a ton just by watching everyone. Watch people's body language. Watch a girl and guy talking and see who is leaning into who. How does everyone know everyone there. Is there a group of 3 girls sitting at a table by themselves? If so they are not there to talk amongst themselves. They want someone like you to come say hello.

Sure you don't know where to take the convo after the opener. Hey man I feel you on that. I a lot of times I eject when the set is going great because I feel the pressure of the convo. It is something I am lacking greatly. I don't have the gift of gab. It is just something you study, build some routines stacks. Find some good conversation topics on the internet before you head out.

It is all practice. Think of this as a sport. If you took up golf tomorrow do you know how hard it would be for you to break 100? You would have to get out there and practice. So my advice is to read everything you can wrap your eyes around. Pick up a little here and a little there. Now next time go out apply something you just read in the field. After you have done this a few times that goes into your arsenal. Now the next time combine that with something new. You see where I'm going here?

Its a journey. Think of this as your 4 year college career. At the end of it you will have a degree in PU. Sure you don't know much right now you are a freshman. That is alright. Before you know it you will be moving up in the ranks and suprise yourself. If you get this down you will start to see things you never even knew existed. Read my first paragraph again. That probably sounds like jibberish to you right now. Well in about a month you will realize what I was saying and it will mean a ton to you.

Goodluck

playercool, good advice.

Tonight Im going out again, and by god I will approach something. When it gets wierd, ill just bail to another pub. There were lots of sets to try with lots of possibillities. Girls playing darts, pool, 2,3 and 4 sets sitting drinking at tables. Mostly hb's. Tonight after I open I would like to have something to say. Being by myself will make it hard to add a time constraint. Maybey ill think of somthing. Im gonna search this site till i find somthing to say after the open.

I will make an effort to at least crash and burn 3 times tonight.

dallas pua

sterling wrote:first off, if this is the wrong place for this im sorry.

Last night i went into downtown mckinney to a couple pubs. Lots of chicks to choose from so you would think I would talk to at least one hot chick. Wow, I didnt even think a person could do so bad. I was there alone so i was the creepy dude at the end of the bar by himself staring into never-never land sipping his beer.

Great job on going out solo, that right there is more than large percentage of population would ever do. But lose the thought that it's creepy. It's only creepy if you ARE creepy. Plenty of experienced guys on here do solo sarging w/ great success. Just go out mingle around, be social, talk with girls and guys and just relax and be social to start out...

keep trying anyway, and you will get skills... you may not be the best, but will be good enough so that you wont have to worry about women anymore

I do McKinney square sometimes but I only go when I have a date. Oh it's easy to get dates doing the online thing but that is no challenge and doesn't develop social skills.

I am new to PUA and I want to learn it. You and I are probably very similar in where we feel we stand.

I'm curious, did you ever try to open a 2 set of a girl and guy at Cadillac Pizza? Haha, I am sure some guy did that to me. It was funny because I picked up on it immediately and it annoyed the hell out of me. Either that or he was gay. I was cool that he opened the set on me, but he kept trying to pull my attention from my date which was rude so I eventually started ignorning him. He even tried to neg me early by saying he noticed me "nursing" a drink and offered to buy me a drink (which isn't something a PUA should do so that part confused me).

Anyway... this is freaking me out knowing that I may have actually run into some PUA in Dallas bars and never knew it.

At one bar in Allen, some dude bought my date a drink while I was in the restroom. I blew it off, but the second time I went to the restroom he tried it again. I was pissed now and was going to start some shit with him and his buddy, but my date wouldn't let me. Advice to anyone that wants to buy another guy's date a drink, be a man and do it in front of him, don't be a pussy and wait until he goes to the restroom. I would have loved to kicked that guy's ass.

I have gone out solo a lot and to be honest it SUCKS compared to going out with friends. Guys that haven't been out solo don't realize how much time at bars are spent in transitional periods with your friends or the group you came with. You can solo pretty successfully though if you play it right here are some tips.

Right when you get there, establish a home base. (those two fat girls that hit on you would be perfect) You should talk to them and be loud and have them laughing like you are the best thing ever which will be easy because they are not used to the attention. Everyone else will see you just as a fun guy not really as the guy with two fat girls as long as you aren't like all over them. Once you get that set up not only have you done a warm up set and warmed up your social skills but now you have a home base to come back to whenever you need a place to chill a second.

Next keep moving. You do not want to be that guy at the end of the bar staring into space. Once that creepy label gets slapped on you its tough to do anything. Just give off the impression that you are waiting on some friends and always be facing the room and with a grin on your face like you are the man! If beer is like 3 bucks get a beer and hand the bartender a 5. Ask their name and then tell him your name and ask him to repeat it and tell him to keep the change. 2 dollars on a 3 dollar beer is pretty decent and now you know the bartender.

Even if he doesn't remember you if you talk to anyone you can drop the name or you can even tell people he is a friend and its not like they will know. = DHV Sometimes I will also meet the DJ depending on the bar / club. Most DJ's are actually a lot cooler people and nicer but usually harder logistically to meet.

Remember to have fun if you are near the bar waiting for a drink have a big smile on your face and booty bump a girl thats alone nearby. Then make some comment like oops sorry I have too much junk in the trunk or something funny to start things off.

If there is a big group like bachelorette or birthday go get in with one of the girls you can be like their guy friend for the rest of the night.

Look for girls with rings on their right hand. Go up to them and be like I am totally hanging out with you. I saw a ring on your finger and I am afraid all these other girls are going to hit on me so I would rather hang out with a girl thats taken! You can play this a lot of ways but usually just pretend that you saw a ring and didn't realize it wasn't on her left hand.

Look for girls holding their phones - it is a great boredom sign. If a girl pulls out a phone and is looking at it texting or whatever walk up to her with your phone and be like "Can I be cool like you and text here too!" in a joking voice. Then go who are you texting? when she answers make a joke about it and pretend like you are texting that person.

ex: Me: Can I be cool like you and text here too!?
her: Lol! yea!
Me: (cut her off) Who are you texting?!
her: boyfriend/ my friend mary telling her to meet me here/ blah blah blah
Me: (boyfriend) Awesome! Can I text him too! HEY BABY OMG I LOVE YOU BOO!! act like you are texting her boyfriend in an obviously fake manner.
(friend mary) Awesome I am going to text Mary too! MARY YOU WHORE GET YOUR ASS HERE! (said jokingly while pretending to text)
Her: LOL!
Me: (Mary) you are so rude texting your friend while I am trying to talk with you! Were you raised by a wolfs?! How was that? (act like shes crazy)
(boyfriend) (Do boyfriend destroyer stuff here) That's awesome you have a boyfriend I was worried you were going to be all over me what a relief. I bet your boyfriend is awesome!! having a girl like you.
If I had a girl like you well... you don't even want to know. but I bet he is like the best kisser ever, and always takes you out on really awesome and adventurous dates you know living life to the fullest stuff. On a scale from 1-10 how good looking is he? How good of a kisser is he? (blah blah make fun of her answer if she says 8 say only an 8?? if she says 10 say only a 10?? I am a 12!) (Step 1 is to put doubt in her mind that he is not perfect ------> if he is not perfect there is room for improvement ---------> if there is room for improvement another guy could possibly be better ------------> You could be the other guy --------> she should stop letting life pass by and start living in the moment =P --------> game over)


Well you should all love that golden nugget. Another one I use ALL the time is if you see a hot red head casually start a talk with her by saying you know what (kino here as you look into her eyes) I have realized that red heads are usually Vixens and naughty or Prudes and goodie goodie. Which one are you? (normally naughty) =P

another great thing about that text/ call opener is if it is a girl friend of hers and shes telling her to meet her, when the girl walks up you can say hey! (her name) xxxxxx ! I have been waiting for you girl! or something silly like that to start things off.

I travel a lot for work...I lived out of a suitcase for 16 months until october 07, and I'm going back out for more travel next week. What a better bs opener, "I'm from out of town, where can I get xyz?" What is "abc like?"

Bam, just like that, you're not a weirdo.