first girl I gamed in 8 months

[jast]

I have been out of the game for about 8 months now. My buddy 2 girls he knows from work and I hit a karaoke bar Thursday night last week. Both of them were single but my buddy was all ready making head way with one of them. I figured this would be a good chance to knock off the rust and I started gaming the other.

I would rate her a solid 6, long blond hair, fit body, ok face.

We played team pool that night. Thing started off rocky but seemed to get better after every one had a few more drinks. I made sure and try to keep my energy up and positive. I made fun of some of her pool shoots that night and gave her high fives on the good ones. We talked about working out and some about work. Later we went to my buddies and watched "Hard Candy" (witch is a very missed up movie) once the movie is over I walk the girl to the car

ME: good pool game it was fun
Her: yeah
Me: you know you’re kind of a dork but cute
Her: ummm thanks
Me: Talk to you later

She works with me and I wanted to see if I could get a day2 with out my buddy so I emailed her and this is were things went wrong.

My first email to her
Hi,
I have some free time to burn and you seem kind of fun, give me you AIM name.
PS. This is Jast “The guy who won the pool game Thursday”

Email from Her
Ummm… thanks? I was the winner though… I’m super busy right now. Chat later/

Email from ME
That’s too bad; Mondays are always busy days most of the time.
Talk to you later then girly…. And you not to bad with a pool stick all most as good as me =)

Next day
Email from me
Top 10 reasons to eat meat
1. Because poor Mexicans do the killing for me.
2. Hamburgers taste like Heaven. That's why Indians worship cows.
3. Chuck Norris eats meat.
4. Help control the pet population. Have your pet filleted and eaten.
5. Jesus told me to, twice. (Genesis 9:3 and Acts 10:9-16)
6. I love kittens; they taste like chicken.
7. More than two thirds of vegetarians eventually die.
8. I hate fish.
9. Whenever I watch Bambi, I cannot decide who looks more delicious, Bambi or Thumper.
10. Because you are a man.
That is greatness is it not? I think all apply to you but maybe number 10…. At lest I hope 10 doesn’t apply to you.

How is it going with your spreadsheets? As you can see I am very busy but I figured I can take a few min out to email you and see what’s up.

Email from her
This could also be labeled as “One Major Way to turn off a Female Vegetarian”

Email form me
You’re would be the vegetarian I take it, Well then Bambi and Thumper are safe around you then. I well let the guys on the net know on to send this to any female vegetarians for fear offending. I thought about trying to be a vegetarian just for the health aspect but I am trying to cut and then bulk up some and I hear it is really hard with out eating meat. How long have you been a vegetarian?

You know I think (A guy at work that we mad fun of asking her out 10 times call him BD) is a vegetarian… Hmmm see you guys have stuff in common. I mean now that I know you don’t eat meat it will never work out with us I like meat way to much and we would always fight about were to eat better to just end it now.

After that email nothing, so either she got really busy or I crashed and burned. Any way I figure I came off way to cocky and not funny. This has always been a sticky point for me. Also I was trying to get a banter going about the pool game and that did not work out.

Like always any feed back is welcome.

[knight rose]

LOL...one thing I found out with texting and e-mail and sometime even over the phone...your tone and body language are not gonna translate. So use ha ha ha.., he he he... and smilies a lot. those will convey the playfull mood without supplicating...

[Twitchy]

Her telling you she was too busy to chat the first time could either be true or it was a polite way to blow you off. Work relationships are risky and unless she was REALLY attracted, she probably wasn't going to risk any potential drama.

In my opinion, the email was WAY too much WAY too soon. It was full of things that could hit someone's sensibilities - vegetarianism, borderline racist, religion, etc. You should NEVER send something like that to someone unless you KNOW they will think it is funny. You obviously didn't know enough about her to send it. In reality, her response could be true or she could be messing with you - she might not be a vegetarian.

I am guessing she thinks you are either weird for sending that email or way too cocky or both.

Since you work with her, I will just blow it off and let time do its thing and heal. If you try to do damage control, you are going to potentially cross a line called harrassment.

You have already reached out to her twice. If she is interested, she will get back to you and then you can joke about the email then.

p.s. Don't mention "guys on the net". It makes you sound untrustworthy like you blab about every detail of your life to others

[jast]

Thanks guys,
I think it was good practice and that’s all I wanted. I did find out a little more about her. She just got dumped a few weeks back by her BF and her dad died a year ago... I don't think she is a very happy or stable person right now.

Two things I think I should have done,
1 Should have not neged/ used the back handed complement, or at lest waited till we talked a bit more.
2 Should have spaced out the CF I think I did it a bet to much.