I have been putting in some work lately, but I will only talk about two specific experiences that I have specific questions about.
Last saturday I went out to an event during the day that left me rather tired that night, but I decided to go out to some close by bars anyway. However, my state was probably best described as subdued. I sometimes like to start up the night just by talking to anyone, male or female, who is close by to sort of get into a social mood. So I do exactly this and start talking to this guy who comes up to order a drink, which paid off later that night because I was able to join the group he was part of at an adjacent bar without it being awkward. The group was HB8, 3HB7 and maybe 5 guys. However, I descreetly observed the girls (I hadn't tried to talk to them yet) and felt that the moment was not yet ripe. They just seemed really prepared to give the cold sholder. So I proceeded to pawn off the guys. I waited until one of the girls joined a conversation I was already having before making any attempt to talk to them, and I think this was a golden move on my part because it made interactions with them all much more natural later. Over the course of the night I just had normal conversation, there is nothing too flashy I can remember saying. At one point NHB4 friend showed up briefly and turned out to be the groping type. I just had to roll with it, but it is possible that it made something click with the other girls. Decarlo claims that the whole group is sort of on the same kino ladder. And I did engage in a lot of kino after that. If I talked to a girl, then kino was involved too. Progressively their attraction went up and up, until somehow HB8, and 2 HB7 were all around me. I told them about my job, which most people find impressive, then HB8 and aHB7 insisted on getting my number. HB8 called me right there. Then on the way out HB7a who got my number come up and gave me like a ten second lusty hug.
So thats fine. It is at this point we get to my sticking point. After making some attempts to get a day2, I find the my success rate has been pretty lousy. Including with these girls. One of the issues is that I think they were drunk when the above went down, and perhaps regretted it the next day. What is weird though, is it turned out the HB8 didn't actually use her own phone. She used the phone of the second HB7, so when I texted HB8 using HB8's name, I was unkowingly texting HB7b. This I felt ended up being awkward and I don't think anything is going to materialize with any of these girls.
I want to briefly also describe a party I went to on memorial day. There was an HB7 that I decided to open. It went great everything went right and I had her number in 5 minutes. However this was a big party with lots of girls and I spent time talking to a lot of them. I sent a few texts her way to schedule something, and nothing.
So anyway, my sticking point now is getting day2s in a consistant way. I think a big part of the issue is my texting. As such I have reading the advice of Chase Amante. Here is an example http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-text-girl
I have come to suspect that there are two common rules that are more nuanced and don't really fit the commonly stated rule. The first is waiting several days to text. To me it always seem like a girl that I have really interested in person always ends up cool by the time a few days go by. I think this guy above has the right idea with his icebreaker text. Basically a short rapport building text a few hours after getting the number. He also says not to dumbly wait three days, but to base your wait time on percieved interest. A really interested girl should be contacted the next day, for example. So anyway, I am at the point of digesting this stuff and will put it into practice to test out later.
The other suspect rule is that girls are supposed to get more interested when they see you flirting with other girls. After being in the field for a while I feel this is more nuanced. I think there are certain situations where it has been hurting me, including with the girl at the party described above. I have a vague suspician that it has to do with the level of interest she has in you. A girl who is very interested may put up defensive attitude toward you if she sees you talking to another girl after you have successfully wooed her. This is just a vague guess, I would appreciate some input on this, or some recommended reading.
Questions:
I did not specifically initiate the kino from NHB4 from the first group, but I think it may have helped open up the other girls. Is it a good idea to pretend like your interested in the ugly girl briefly?
I am confused about HB8 using her friends phone without indicating as much. What do you make of that?
What is your opinion of the texting advice at that link, and Chase Amanti?
Can anyone spell out when it is good and when it is bad to flirt with other girls in front of the target?