FR: first time daygaming (dayggame at DCCCD)

[earl sweatshirt]

I'm completely new to this shit. I've been reading a lot of shit, for about three weeks now, and i decided it was about time i started practicing these theories.
approaches:3
number closes:0

I had many opportunities to approach a lot of sets, but my nerves got the best of me. I really need to keep practicing daily, if i wanna get rid of this stupid AA.

first girl was a HB5. I used a functional opener asking for the nearest fast-food restaurant. After that, I self ejected. my nerves got the best of me.

second girl was a lady in her 50s. I asked her the directions to a certain building, spoke to her for a while, but because she was kinda old, I wasn't nervous or anything. I need to learn to stop putting hot girls on such a high platform.

third girl was eating outside. I opened by asking her where she got her food, then moved on to some banter and teasing. I teased her about her hair and her attitude for a bit, and this left her laughing. Although I knew I was on the right path with this one, my nerves still got the best of me, so I self ejected.
Lessons learned:
I need to stop shooting myself in the foot this often.
I need to put the three second rule more into practice.
I need to find a way to control my nerves.
I need to gather the courage to open up mixed sets.

I'm not really happy with my results today, but at least, I tried. Hopefully i'll get better results tomorrow.
but seriously, I really need to stop self ejecting so much. that's what's really hindering me from making progress.

[ninjamatt]

the main thing is you are trying. what you have to do is push your self to take each approach a little further each time, generally speaking. And learn from mistakes. approaches and the conversations get easier with the practice. Some times I still eject earlier than I want and I've been picking up women for 11 years.

it sounds like you are just approaching random women by themselves so one thing you should consider is, don't come from the mindset you want more than just basic directions or something simple. for instance; if they are wearing a texas rangers hat, ask if they won previous night night. If they are wearing an interesting piece of clothing, ask if they got it online. Don't think about or transition the discussion in to any thing sexual.

[earl sweatshirt]

the main thing is you are trying. what you have to do is push your self to take each approach a little further each time, generally speaking. And learn from mistakes. approaches and the conversations get easier with the practice. Some times I still eject earlier than I want and I've been picking up women for 11 years.

it sounds like you are just approaching random women by themselves so one thing you should consider is, don't come from the mindset you want more than just basic directions or something simple. for instance; if they are wearing a texas rangers hat, ask if they won previous night night. If they are wearing an interesting piece of clothing, ask if they got it online. Don't think about or transition the discussion in to any thing sexual.

thanks for the advice man. I kinda figured sexual escalation would be highly impossible in daygame it is out of the social norm. But yeah, I'll keep practising. I intend on going in tomorow. I completely agree with u about changing it up with the openers. I'll try to be more aware of that in the future. One more problem with me is that I actually know what I'm supposed to do, but when time comes for me to do it, I suddenly go blank. I guess i just have to give myself time to internalize it.