FR: n00b's 90 break in journal

[joshuaamosley]

Ok, so I am like a 30 year old n00b to gaming pua what have you. I have a huge rejection complex that Im trying to get over and trying to sow some wild oats before getting serious again so I figured learning some PUA would help me get over all the isssues I have so I can be more social. I get to travel the entire country 3 months at a time and currently am in the middle of this contract here in the dfw area. I love this area people are friendly and women don't just blow ya off for no damn good reason. I am going to post each time I go out from here on. The reason I am doing a 90 day break in challenge is because I don't go out often because I take a lot of call.
So what I have read so far has been good ideas and ways to break out of your comfort zone and make a new one as a social alpha guy. I have found that after a few drinks in my system I loosen up enough that it isn't an issue for me. I know the goal here is to get with as many HB10+ as possible but being new I am actually ok with HB 5-7 until I get a better feel for what the hell I'm doing! (any thoughts on this?)
Right now I've only went out a couple times in attempts to actually learn how to do this the first day I had a good time but only stayed out a couple hours because I was by myself, bought a few drinks opened a 5 set and enjoyed it (no numbers) Was invited to meet up at another bar, went there later not wanting to look like a tag along, couldnt find em, didnt even get names :-/ (again the social anxiety prevented me from even giving them my name!) Last night I went out and it went a little better. Opened a couple sets of 2 or 3 some extended conversation and exchanged names and kept things light. The conversations were short because I got anxious about moving from the approach to more (not sure how to make myself proceed right now and need pointers here). I'd say the sets I talked too were, for me, HB 6-8. I felt after the end of the conversations I left them wanting more, they seemed to be shocked I was walking away. That was kinda a good ego boost but I was like "shit, i should've tried to get their number and catch up with them later" The thought was the more I did that the more I would loosen up drink a little more and build more confidence then I could get back in touch and try to close.

So that is where I am right now a AFC that hasn't penetrated in bout 7 months now

[voyager]

It's good that you are getting out there. That's the only way to get better. Honestly. There are no shortcuts (that I know of). Try to reframe rejection as a good thing. In all other areas of life, failures are merely setbacks and more importantly, opportunities to learn. It's nothing personal; your self-worth as a person isn't determined by what some folks at a bar think of you.

What society determines to be "value" is really funny when you sit down and think about it. Let's take two people - a shy humanitarian doctor who just came back from Uganda and some cute blonde 23 year old woman with fake breasts who coasted her way through school on daddy's money. Who is going to get into the club first? Who will get their drinks paid for by someone else? Who will get more attention? Who is more likely to get laid here?

So that is where I am right now a AFC that hasn't penetrated in bout 7 months now

Do NOT think about going out in terms of what results you are getting. That will only frustrate you to no end. I've been there; hell, I still do it. Go out to enjoy yourself and meet people, whatever results that come from that is a bonus.

[Bull Run]

The only people in this world that can truly reject you are the people that actually know you.

When a complete stranger in a random bar doesn't want to talk with you it's not rejection, it's just them being anti-social, fickle, etc. Fact is that there are a million reasons a woman may not want to talk with you at that moment. None of them have to do with who you are as a person.

Obviously, there are caveats. I've made the assumption that you're an average looking guy, with good hygiene habits, of average weight, and decent style.

Assuming the above is true, then if a girl doesn't decide to talk with you she's not really rejecting you. In fact, it's more of a commentary on her. If a girl won't give you 2 minutes of her time, then she's not worth the effort any how. Consider it her doing you a favor.

[joshuaamosley]

Day 3
First thanks for the encouraging words it's awesome the community that exists here to help guys be what they were ment to be and to play to their strengths.
I went on my first serg and Wing last night w triumvirate and a friend of his. Awesome guys totally. I told them what I felt I needed to work on and my goals for the night and they totally pushed me the exact way I needed to be pushed. In the 2-3 hours I hung out with them I opened 7 sets or do we're as before on my own I would've only opened 2-3 all night. I was even able to number close one which was the goal for the nite. When I reflected back I couldve probably pulled this chic which was prob hb 6 would've been fine for me to start with but I faltered and let her walk outta there alone :-/. Turns out the number I got wasn't legit but I'm not sure if it's because she was too drunk or the more probable that this was a way to block. Either way it was a complete success I my book. Lots of fun. I got to see how they operated and closed and I got pointers for what I was doing wrong. I will continue to serg and Wing with anyone wanting to go with me and help me with all of this new stuff. So far Thursday looks like my next day if any one is interested. Thanks for checking the journal out and please post any ideas or opinions that you feel could help

[Triumvirate]

Thanks for coming out on short notice. Thanks for opening sets whenever asked. You will progress very quickly if you approach at that rate. I didn't know you were trying to get pointers when I pulled those two girls. They ended up being too much work, so I took it to the crib. Isi had also pulled two chicks, however they got pulled over for speeding and had to do a sobriety test. Killed the momentum of the pull. They just wanted to go home after that. Anyway, that's how it is sometimes.

[joshuaamosley]

Aw that is all good, Im just happy to be getting comfortable with the entire thing so far even if no pulls yet

Day 4

Got bored went to the mall. Tried to game this hb 7-8 at the buckle store. Thought it was going well, she approached me (cuz she was trying to make a sell) and eventually got to talking about personal things got her name before giving mine made her ask for it, gave a god dhv story about a new years party were i left a watch. Got some of her back ground she was giving me info bout how she has a kid (not a biggy for me) and how she doesnt go out or do anything fun. But when I tried to number close saying "well we should change that get you out and have some fun." She kinda just shut down went silent and we finished the sell and ended the interaction. Should I have pushed a little harder, made her actually say she wasn't interested like that, or did I do right by acting like it wasn't a big deal and just ejecting there?
Is day game like this for anyone else? Any advice here? The point of this approach was just getting the DHV down.
Addenum to Day 3: since it ran into wensday after hours at wish, when I went to work I ended up pulling a number of this hb6 sorority chic from TCU. Thought she might have blown me off after a text but she text back so I'm trying to set up a day 2 with her and hopefully close this well.

[Morpheo]

Most approaches will NOT work out, so you just gonna play the numbers. A single shop girl is a drop in the bucket. I don't like hitting shop girls because there's not enough of them so you end up investing too much in the outcome. Still, I'll hit them up when I get the chance.

Lately I've approached too many cute girls in the day who all ended up saying they have boyfriends. I'm tired of wasting my time chatting up girls only be get the bf denial. So now I go in very direct and immediately follow up with, "So tell me, how many boyfriends do you have?" And then I grill her on that shit by asking for his name, how they met, etc. I'll make fun of him by asking if he's taller than me and stronger than me. Then I'll challenge him to an arm-wrestling contest. If she doesn't have a boyfriend, then I'll start teasing her for it, "That's unacceptable!" and try to get my foot in the door by building rapport and finding commonalities. That's my approach right now during the day... but I'm still fine-tuning it.