Online Game Breakthrough

[Guest]

I had a recent conversation with a woman online, a petite cutie who was born in Jamaica. This HBJamaica was tough. She stated in her profile that she was a smart ass. She seemed angry, but she could have been joking. Anyway, I did not stray from what I know works, and it paid off. Here's the conversation:
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[B]Nice pics![/B]
Hey, I noticed your profile and wanted to say hi. I know what you’re thinking, and you’re right. I just looked at your pictures. I didn’t actually read your profile.

So I didn’t learn that you are an energetic smartass who is good at putting your thoughts and feelings into words and loves rainy Saturday afternoons and gladiator movies. If I did read your profile, I might be curious to find out whether you would dash into traffic to save a six year old kid if it mean you would suffer a horribly sexy deformity.

Now I know what you’re gonna do. You’ll look at my pictures and see how cute I am. And that’s the tiny acorn from which a mighty oak of romance and passion will grow. But that’s not the story we’ll tell our friends. We’ll say we met at Machu Picchu or something. I don’t know... we’ll work on it.

Maybe one day we’ll learn a little bit about each other. But until then... hey, sexy, nice pics!

xo Rhody xo
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[B]RE: Nice pics![/B]
Nicely done Rhody. It's more so the case than not that I get a boring wink or two line email. You, however, took the time to write a funny, warm intro. I like. What I no like is the Colony. It sounds like that's at the edge of the earth...but I'm currently too lazy to look it up via google.maps. Where the he!! is that?

HBJamaica
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[B]RE: Nice pics![/B]
Thank you for the reply, HBJamaica. To answer your question, The Colony is somewhere between Dallas and Canada. It's called "the city by the lake." Deron Williams of the Utah Jazz went to The Colony High School. It's on the map. So you shouldn't worry; I'm in no danger of falling off the edge of the earth.

Rhody
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[B]RE: Nice pics![/B]
OK Rhody - I looked up the Colony on a map and it's not as close to Canada as I had imagined. I'm not a big sports fan though. so your reference to this Deron person is lost on me. I know the names of the ballers that are or have been surrounded by various scandals, but that's about it!
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[B]RE: Nice pics![/B]
Well, HBJamaica, it's ok that you're not a sports fan. I'm sure you have other redeeming qualities. That was shameless name-dropping on my part anyway, but I can tell you're impressed.

It's fun talking to you, HBJamaica. For some reason, I like energetic smartasses who like gladiator movies. But I will follow the online dating rules and wait until the third email to exchange numbers. I don't want to seem forward, even though I am. In the meantime, this may seem like a silly question, but in the interest of having fun getting to know each other, when you were a little girl, what was your favorite toy and why?

Rhody
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[B]Toys are for rich people[/B]
My favorite TOY? We couldn't afford real toys from the toy store when I was growing up so I made do with cardboard boxes and stuff like that. My favorite "toy" was a sheet though. My sister and I would wrap it under our legs, then slide down the stairs like we were in a boat. Oh... those were the days....

Were you rich enough to have toys bought for you when you were young? What was your favorite?
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[B]RE: Toys are for rich people[/B]
When I was young, I used to play with my solid gold sceptre that had a giant emerald on top. I used it like a baseball bat to hit faberge eggs. But that got old really fast. My friend and I used to make musical instruments out of boxes and paper towel tubes. Then we'd set up a makeshift stage and pretend we were KISS. Guess which one I was.
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[B]RE: Toys are for rich people[/B]
Kiss? Hmmm was that Stephen Tyler? Kiss isn't before my time but I wasn't into heavy metal growing up so I only have a cursory knowledge of men who wear face make-up and tight leather pants.

I think we've passed the 3-email rule Rhody (and you've also passed the 'I don't think he seems like a stalker in a bad way' test) so feel free to call/ text me at XXX.XXX.XXXX. I'm not much of a phone talker but definitely enjoy getting to know people in person...

Hope you had a great weekend and are on the precipice of an amazing week,

HBJamaica
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This chick seems like a major pain in the ass. However, the high quality ones are often the ones who develop the toughest tests, and she pretty much admitted that it was a "does he seem like a stalker in a bad way?" test. This shows that when the tests get tough, the worst thing to do is to show weakness.

[Guest]

Wow, very nicely done Rhody.
I especially like how you cleverly would disqualify with the comment format of : If I was interested I would.... and then wait for her to commit to the fact there is interest on her part before you actually get her number. In her mind she always wanted to give it to you and you were completely different than all the overly aggressive online guys that have messaged her so far. Again very nicely done.
I have a question though, when you meet in person does your energy change and you become more forward/aggressive or do you maintain this push/pull for a while?

[Guest]

Very nicely done.

I loved your tone throughout. Cocky/funny, aloof, yet forward. Just like a man should be...

[Guest]

My question is if she hadn't just freely given her phone number, would you have asked for it?

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Ram;38432]I have a question though, when you meet in person does your energy change and you become more forward/aggressive or do you maintain this push/pull for a while?[/QUOTE]

My attitude doesn't change, but I suspect that my "energy" becomes more coy/playful than cocky/funny in person, because I'm not an intimidating guy. I do keep up with the push/pull though. I project my intentions into the future so she doesn't have to accept or reject them. For example, I love to use Juggler's line, "do you have some gum?... not to seem presumptuous, but just in case there's kissing later." That's just like the way I project the number exchange into the future so it seems more natural when it happens.

And, to answer your question, Traxxus, I don't outright ask for her number. You see my first email, which is a form email with some info from her profile filled in. Usually, in my second email, I will say, "I'm having fun talking to you. I will follow the online dating rules and wait until the third email to exchange numbers. I don't want to seem forward, even though I am. In the meantime..." It's funny, because I said this exact thing in this exchange even though it was already the third email. She was being challenging, so I was giving as much as I got.

Usually, if she doesn't give me her number right there, then in the third email, I'll say, "while email is a fun exercise, I prefer to talk like real people. My cell number is XXX-XXX-XXXX. If you're too shy to call, send me a text and I'll call you." This has been working very well for me.

[Guest]

I talked to this girl on the phone last night. She is a successful woman with a great career. But she is a major pain in the ass.

[Guest]

wow dude, pretty good messages.

really catchy reading material

[Guest]

Alright I finally met this one. Very disappointing. This girl looked nothing like her pictures. She was cool and a successful woman, but not the playful smartass she was when the interaction started out. We both made it clear that we would be ok with casual sex, so I probably could have pulled her, but I was just not attracted to her.