The Comfort of 80 - The Allure of 20

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Friday night I went out with a little sex pot, we'll call her HB Sex pot.

She came over to my place around 8:30, we have a few drinks at my casa, then we went to a dive bar in East Dallas to grab a bite of pizza.

Earlier in the day, she texted me and asked me if we could go to Double Wide. I was like sure, I was planning on taking her there anyways. At dinner she tells me that she wants to go to the Double Wide because an old friend of hers, brother's band is playing there. Again, no worries from me.

When we get to the venue, we find her friend and they embrace in a long hug catching up on this and that from their respective lives. Just from appearances, I can tell her friend is a super slut...something in the strong jaw line and powerful brow ridge just screamed whore!!!

So, the rest of the night we drink and chat and listen to tunes. Then, we decide to buy some coke...caine that is. The bar closes and we go out to HB Sex Pot's friend's SUV and do lines off of the center console. We chat even more and the details of HB Sex Pot's friend's depth of slutitude become apparent.

Mother of three, one of which was with another man while she was with her current husband. Poor bastard is sitting at home caring for his two children and the spawn of another man's loins. Now, he's fully aware of the fact that this child is probably not his but he doesn't care. He wants his children to grow up with their mom so he stays. You could argue that this is admirable, you could argue that he's a huge pussy. In truth, it doesn't matter what WE think of his decisions, what matters is what she thinks of him. And, she makes that clear as the night goes on.

So, being high and drunk and socially perceptive, I decide to probe her a little bit. Now, my date, HB Sex Pot KNOWS exactly what I'm up to and she shots me the "don't you fucking tear my friend's life a part look." But, I don't give two shits about that...I'm here to prove something to myself and reinforce a dynamic that I think runs rampant in relationships.

I call it the comfort of 80 and the allure of 20. This woman talked more about the man she cheated on more than the one she is with. She talked about how if he hadn't OD on herion that she's be with him right now. She talked about how her current husband provides her with a great life and safety and security BUT she doesn't really love him the way she did the other guy. She would have followed the other guy any where, done anything, but he gave her almost nothing of what she wanted and needed. She understood that when he did show her love and affection that it was real and geniune because she knew that he showered her with that affection because he WANTED to give it to her. But, she doesn't believe her current husband really loves her because he always loves her, he always forgives her transgressions, and he tolerates her cruelty and inconsiderate behavior towards him.

He gives her 80% of what she needs while the other guy gave her 20% of her needs. In response, she gave 100% of herself to the other guy and almost nothing of herself to her husband.

In the middle of this, HB Sex Pot keeps looking at me with a shocked look on her face. It was clear, that this is something she knows exists but doesn't really believe it to be real. Shit, she and I have talked about and disagreed about this very dynamic. But, in that car, drunk, tired, and high on coke...caine that is, she got it because she saw it first hand.

Eventually, I tell the two girls to follow me back to my place so we can finish up our coke and drink some more. By now, it's about 3:30am.

Back at my place, the disrespect and disdain this woman has towards her husband becomes crystal clear. She and HB Sex Pot get a little frisky, then get a little dirty, then get a little nasty. Two naked women, going to town on my couch while I'm drinking and high is beautiful. I, of course, get to play along...

Then, the hubby starts calling. Eventually the friend answers the phone while HB Sex Pot has her head buried in her pussy and I'm fucking HB Sex Pot from behind. "I'm getting ready to leave honey, I just feel asleep on the couch...I'm walking out the door right now."

Fast forward 20 minutes and he calls again, and she lies again. Then, she just stops answering. Eventually, it's 6:30 and the sun is kissing the sky for the first light of the day. She's walking out the door and picks up her hubby's call..."I love you sweetheart, I'll be home soon..."

No matter what you do for a woman, what you provide for her, what you sacrafice for her she's never going to love you and be happy with you if she does not respect you.

Part of creating that respect is not giving her all of yourself. She'll bitch and fight and try to drag you to the point where you give her the 80% thinking that since she has the other 20% right now that she'll still have it in the future. But, it doesn't work this way with women. They want to think you're unattainable, that all of your love can never be owned by her. She wants to spend the rest of her days trying to capture all of you...the day she does, she'll find the allure of the 20 elsewhere and she'll most likely not try to hide the fact that the only purpose you serve for her is to feed, clothe, and raise her children.

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Nice fucking Field Report!!!

[Guest]

Great field report--I need to learn a thing or two from you...

But, it's whores like that that make me apprehensive about long term relationships and marraige.

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[B]"They want to think you're unattainable, that all of your love can never be owned by her"[/B]

Its so twisted that this is reality but it is key to being successful with women.