Pulling the trigger

[Guest]

I have been Day Gaming for the past 5 or 6 weeks straight.
My success is I have gotten over my AA(go me!).
Unfortunately I got over my AA like 3 weeks ago and have been currently working on number closing.
I have a problem.
When I go into the set and build comfort I freeze up and eject before I number close!
I know exactly what to say I just do not say it.
Its like when I feel the girl is comfortable in the set a black hole forms in my brain and sucks all the words into it sometimes resulting in me looking like a fool and standing there for 10 seconds not saying anything(while in set!).
My frustration for this grows every weekend.
Any thoughts/comments on this?

[Guest]

just/us says Brad P stuff is good for inner game.

[Guest]

[quote1234047706=Sweet Pure]
just/us says Brad P stuff is good for inner game.
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Well, I pretty much only use Brad P. I think david D has some good stuff on inner game, like 77 Laws of Attraction and I need to get his deep inner game dvd one of these days.


I'm not sure this is a inner game issue though, I just think he is running out of things to say. Try talking to everyone everywhere, and just say whatever comes to mind. Don't worry if it sounds dumb or whatever, its better than standing there for 10 seconds and doing nothing.

[Guest]

You are freezing for 10 seconds and can't think of anything to say?

Alright here is what you do.

First right now I want you to think of ONE fall back topic. You can use this when that time happens. For example you might just all the sudden notice her earrings and say wow I like those. Where did you get those I bet my niece would like those. Alright so that is your one fall back get me out of jail I just froze.

Here is the second thing you can do.

When you freeze just look down at your phone and say ohh a text message excuse me for a second this is work related. Since you are day gaming this should be very believable(She also might then ask what do you do for a living...bam new topic she created.). This should give you just a couple seconds to collect your thoughts and move forward with her. Since you are only taking a few seconds it will not come off as rude. You can also have some stuff saved in your phone if your phone allows it. Just quick topic points that you glance at real quick to remind you of a new topic.

If this doesn't help you my friend you are screwed.

Goodluck

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[quote1234051332=playercool]


If this doesn't help you my friend you are screwed.

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For some reason, I found that extremely funny.

Anyway dude, if nothing else say "Twilight" and the girl will more than likely say "oh my god! I love the book and the movie! and I read new moon and eclipse and breaking dawn! OH MY GOD! Like edward cullen is SOOO hot!! And Stephenie Meyer is going to be maybe writing another book soon too! Its soo awesome!" blah blah blah blah for another 20 min.

[Guest]

[quote1234052621=playercool]
You are freezing for 10 seconds and can't think of anything to say?

Alright here is what you do.

First right now I want you to think of ONE fall back topic. You can use this when that time happens. For example you might just all the sudden notice her earrings and say wow I like those. Where did you get those I bet my niece would like those. Alright so that is your one fall back get me out of jail I just froze.

Here is the second thing you can do.

When you freeze just look down at your phone and say ohh a text message excuse me for a second this is work related. Since you are day gaming this should be very believable(She also might then ask what do you do for a living...bam new topic she created.). This should give you just a couple seconds to collect your thoughts and move forward with her. Since you are only taking a few seconds it will not come off as rude. You can also have some stuff saved in your phone if your phone allows it. Just quick topic points that you glance at real quick to remind you of a new topic.

If this doesn't help you my friend you are screwed.

Goodluck
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great post man. i love the phone with topics saved in it...brilliant!

[Guest]

im not sure he was referring to not being ale to talk about stuff, i think he was alluding to the fact that when he feels like sheis comfortable in set, enough so to give him her number, he doest pull the trigger and ask.

if thats the case then i would just say, make it a point to ask every girl you meet, at some point in your interaction, for the number. no if ands or buts.

i dont care if the only thing you said before she tries to leave is hi, ask for it. it will help your calibration and get you over yur aa like symptoms of asking for the digits.

no other way besides growing a pair and doing it man, just like aa.

[Guest]

[quote1234070642=Finesse]
im not sure he was referring to not being ale to talk about stuff, i think he was alluding to the fact that when he feels like sheis comfortable in set, enough so to give him her number, he doest pull the trigger and ask.

if thats the case then i would just say, make it a point to ask every girl you meet, at some point in your interaction, for the number. no if ands or buts.

i dont care if the only thing you said before she tries to leave is hi, ask for it. it will help your calibration and get you over yur aa like symptoms of asking for the digits.

no other way besides growing a pair and doing it man, just like aa.
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That's my problem in a nutshell.
I think I discovered the reason for it too.
A couple of weeks ago I was thinking of stuff to say just fine and when I felt she was comfortable I would go in for the number.
I only experienced this twice.
Both times I was confronted with the same situation "I have a boyfriend".
Both times were with very attractive girls.
You are right.
I just need to grow a pair and do it.
Then if she says "I have a boy friend" I can retort with "oh me too. does your bf cook...."

[Guest]

It's all calibration man. If she says, "I have a Boyfriend, that just means, "build more value".

Read her signs.

[Guest]

UL ""Then if she says "I have a boy friend" I can retort with "oh me too. does your bf cook...."
Awesome reply-sounds like your'e further along than you think.
Way to read through it and decipher it Finesse...