FR: Back in It...With a Few Kinks

[Guest]

Before I went out on Thursday, I hadn’t really gone out with the intention of picking up girls for about 2 weeks. I have been getting laid regularly and that has made me lazy, but I didn’t feel right without my usual regiment of cold approaches. Thursday I was ready to tear it up.

I went out with my natural friend/wing and a female and male friend. Right when we got to the bar, I saw my current FB (the girl I was thinking about dating). I gave her about 5 minutes of face time and then ejected to find my friends. I ran into my wing and he pointed out two cute girls sitting by themselves about 20 feet away. I said I would approach but I froze for a minute. I quickly realized that an indirect opener would have been a bad call because they were guaranteed to see me walk across the bar to them. I told my wing that I was actually more nervous than usual and I was trying to figure out what to say. He started to ask me what I thought and generally strategize but I realized that this would only hurt me and that I just needed to improvise so I wouldn’t be in my head. He walked away and I went in with, “You guys are cute, I’m gonna talk to you for a little bit,” and sat down on the chair next to my target.

They were fairly open and we all exchanged names. I told them I was bad with names but would try my best and then told my target she looked like Kelly Kopowski from Saved By the Bell (which was kind of true). Both girls loved this and started to loosen up and become attracted. We joked about this for awhile and then played the observation game. I made sure to portray the guy I was chosen to observe as needy and desperate for sex. This is good because it brings up a sexual frame and suggests that I am different and understand sex and girls. Soon after this my wing came over and I introduced him. He ran the set for a couple minutes and then we mini-isolated our targets (still sitting at the table) and I finished qualifying her.

Right after this, another friend of theirs came over and I immediately engaged her, joking with her and winning her over. She said she was going to mingle and asked my target to come with. I said, “No, you need to stay with me for a few minutes,” and then turning to her friend, “We need to talk about Kelly Kopowski’s drug habit.” She laughed and said, “Did you just meet?” I told her we did and she was surprised and sincerely told me I was doing a good job and then walked off. Fuck yes!

I then went into the question game and made some good progress. The second question I asked was “Where is the craziest place you have had sex?” and she said that I needed to ask something else because that was too personal. I held my frame and basically told her that she was going to tell me later and if she was lucky I would tell her too. I asked something else and moved on. I set up a day 2 for a wine bar later next week, got her number, and continued the question game. The entire time I was using heavy kino and dropped in some sexual SOIs. Soon after we ejected and walked around. Yesterday I texted her and got a response so I think this may turn into something.

The rest of the night was kind of annoying because my non-PUA friends complained that I always ditch them to hit on girls. I decided to hang with them for about 30 minutes and then when we walked around later, I ran into my FB again. She was fairly drunk and hung around me until we left. Then we went to another bar and I did a couple approaches that went decently but one I was cockblocked by a male friend of hers and another I tried to move the girl but she was gonna get a drink and she said she would find me later.

[b]About 2 mins later I ran into my FB again! Fucking annoying! I could have probably gotten both those other girls’ numbers if she hadn’t came but then she was kind of watching me the whole time. She is not really a needy girl, I just think she likes me more than I like her. I ended up just going home with her but I am concerned that I will continue to see her out which will fuck up my game. What do people recommend I do in this situation? [/b]

[Guest]

have her join in the fun, re-assure her that you are going home with her and that you just like seeing what you can get away with. Have her help you get their numbers and then take her home and fuck her.

The next day (or that night) text the new girls and start to work a day 2.

Thats what Ive done, call me and I can go into further detail.

[Guest]

This is exactly why I tell girls...

I have no interest in a relationship

I date other women

Then when I run into them out at a venue and they see me with other girls they know exactly what is going on. Of course this makes them like you even more.

I don't mind running into FB's while out. I will still game other girls and then come 2:00 I know I am going home and nailing her.

[Guest]

I was thinking about this for some strange reason.... she doesnt see herself as an FB she thinks, "possible girlfriend/boyfriend"

That is the underlying problem. Youll need to fix that first, but the sad part is, its hard as fuck to jump back to FB frame.

I think eventually youll have to cut this one loose as an FB

[Guest]

I may try your approach next time PC.

Finesse, you are definately right that she wants to date me. It is really obvious based on how she acts and my friends who have met her agree. I am trying to avoid the conversation but if it comes up I will be totally honest and say I like hanging out with her but don't want a relationship right now. I am just gonna keep her around for as long as I can for practice. I could use some relationship management practice ;)