Speed Dating Event.
Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 7:33 amLast night I went to two speeding events that were held back to back. The only reason why I went is the guy who runs this is always needing men. The reason why I like going to these events is I get to get some serious practice. You have only six minutes to get to know some one and vice versa. After that time, the bell rings and you move on to the next woman. The great thing is, the women who come to this type event accepts this.
My sets would go something like this:
Her: Is this your first time?
Me: Can I lie to you? (then I would smile)
If the woman said yes, I would change my expression, lower my head, eyes pointed down and in a very soft - - - slow - - - exaggerated --- tone, I would say yes. Then raise my head and give a very embarrass smile (as if they caught you in a lie).
If the woman said no, I would say “I don’t know, you might think bad of me”. Then I would say yes in a little more serious tone. By this time, my horns would start sticking up
Her: So you are a pro at this?
Me: (My first response would be a sly grin) would you like to ask the first question? Now, don’t ask me a boring questions like:
What do I do?
What do I do for fun?
Ask me a more serious question, like:
(My first event, women age 45 and older, I asked “if you could go back to the age 21 with what you know now and change your career, would you do something that you totally love and not make much money or, do something that you hate and get rich”? Then I would listen for their answer).
(My second ever, women age 44 and younger, that question would not have worked, I asked “from the place that you live, name me one thing, alive or dead, that is either your favorite item or some thing you identify the most with? Understand that there is no right or wrong answer”. If they asked me why I am asking them this, my response was “This is the only way I can get to know you in six minutes”.)
In both events, I would lean back and wait for her answer. Then I would continue the conversation by keying off something she said.
I remember this one woman, in the second event, who was totally closed off when I sat down. By time six minutes was over, I did have her cracking a smile and laughing. I knew by her response I was on right track.
At this time, I do not know what the results are going to be. But, in an event like this, it is not about the results. It is about taking all the things that I have learn and working with them. Understand that the reason I went in was to practice my game. I paid extremely close attention to my body language. I made sure that I was leaning back more. I would at times place both arms on the table to answer a question. Then I would lean back and wait for the response.
By the way, I did do something that I normally do not do at these events. I number closed a woman from the first event with the expectation of getting together on Sunday.
My sets would go something like this:
Her: Is this your first time?
Me: Can I lie to you? (then I would smile)
If the woman said yes, I would change my expression, lower my head, eyes pointed down and in a very soft - - - slow - - - exaggerated --- tone, I would say yes. Then raise my head and give a very embarrass smile (as if they caught you in a lie).
If the woman said no, I would say “I don’t know, you might think bad of me”. Then I would say yes in a little more serious tone. By this time, my horns would start sticking up
Her: So you are a pro at this?
Me: (My first response would be a sly grin) would you like to ask the first question? Now, don’t ask me a boring questions like:
What do I do?
What do I do for fun?
Ask me a more serious question, like:
(My first event, women age 45 and older, I asked “if you could go back to the age 21 with what you know now and change your career, would you do something that you totally love and not make much money or, do something that you hate and get rich”? Then I would listen for their answer).
(My second ever, women age 44 and younger, that question would not have worked, I asked “from the place that you live, name me one thing, alive or dead, that is either your favorite item or some thing you identify the most with? Understand that there is no right or wrong answer”. If they asked me why I am asking them this, my response was “This is the only way I can get to know you in six minutes”.)
In both events, I would lean back and wait for her answer. Then I would continue the conversation by keying off something she said.
I remember this one woman, in the second event, who was totally closed off when I sat down. By time six minutes was over, I did have her cracking a smile and laughing. I knew by her response I was on right track.
At this time, I do not know what the results are going to be. But, in an event like this, it is not about the results. It is about taking all the things that I have learn and working with them. Understand that the reason I went in was to practice my game. I paid extremely close attention to my body language. I made sure that I was leaning back more. I would at times place both arms on the table to answer a question. Then I would lean back and wait for the response.
By the way, I did do something that I normally do not do at these events. I number closed a woman from the first event with the expectation of getting together on Sunday.