Good Time Friday
Posted: Sun Jun 22, 2008 4:36 amHey all,
I enjoyed meeting everyone this past friday, and I'm really glad I was able to make it out.
To be honest, I was a little nervous walking into taco c because I didn't quite know what to expect. The night turned out to be really fun, and I feel like I learned ALOT just having talked to and observing the other guys there.
Given that I was a little out of my element I really tried to sit back and listen more than talk, but I hope to get to know you guys a little better the next few times I can make it out.
Anyway, here's a run-down of my first night 'sarging':
(of course, I don't remember all of the dialogue word-for-word so I'll occasionally paraphrase)
On the way over to Sherlocks, I decided to set my goal of opening atleast 4 sets for the night.
So I walk in and first thing I see is Vector leaning against a table messing with his phone. I knew that if I went up and tried talking to him I'd either a) possibly screw up his game or b) get too comfortable and not go out and open sets. So I just walked past him and tried to lay low. I made my way over to one of the ledges by the bar and decided to check things out...find some potential sets.
I can see two all-girl 2-sets from where I'm standing (I noticed them first because both girls in both of the sets were atleast a 7 or higher). I thought to myself "Fuck it, if I'm going to do this, I'm going to start big...no going into the comfort zone by trying to open up some ugly set". So I completely ignore the ole 3-second rule and on my way over to the first set of girls, chicken out and turn to the bar where I order a beer.
At that point, Sleek rolled in and he came over and we chatted for a bit. After a minute or two of talking with him, the 2-set I was going to approach actually moved closer. I thought to myself...now or never, so I told Sleek I was going to give these two a shot and moved in.
There were 2 chicks in this set, one was an 8 and the other looked much older (mid-30s maybe), but a 7 at best
I opened my phone as if I had just gotten a text and, as I 'walked by' them, laughed and lightly tapped HB8 with my elbow and asked her 'Heh, would you go on a date with a guy who showed up for a first date wearing a fake mustache?'
She looked at me funny, kinda smirks and goes 'Hmmm, no. Why? Thats a weird question.'
The jist of the rest of the opener goes like this:
'A friend just shaved his mustache and now he has a pale spot over his top lip. He wants to know if he can borrow the fake mustache I have from last halloween....so what do you guys think, so I lend it to him?'
(I got this opener from the pdf field guide compilation someone posted around here somewhere about a month ago)
Here's how I started (mind you, I'm pretty nervous and my hearts racing cause I'm ready for both of them to turn away thinking im some kind of crazy freak):
'So I have this friend whos about to go on a date with this guy'
...yes, I said 'guy' without realizing it.
HBolder interrupts me and goes 'Wait, hes going on a date with a guy?'
I freak a little inside...but I think I did fairly well not to show it.
I say 'Yea, shes going on a date with this guy I know that went to Hawaii with me a few weeks ago. Anyway, he had lost a bet where he had to wear a mustache during the entire trip'
.....at this point I'm thinking to myself 'DAMMN you're smooth...keep going'
I go on about how he gets back from hawaii, shaves his stache, and now he has the pale spot. I ask again if they would go on a date like that, and they both say no.
I look at them both and say (just like the example suggests from the pdf) 'Wow, you guys are horrible friends...youre so shallow'.
Anyway, I don't really remember exactly what was said after that with all that adrenaline going, but the jist of it was that, after I opened with the mustache opener, I had no idea where to go next.....hadn't planned it, and I was too nervous to come up with something on the fly like I probably could have done if i were in a more comfortable situation.
So what did I do? I went all over the place throwing things out left and right with no order.....kinda funny in retrospect. At one point I threw out a 'I dont date blondes' disqualifier to blonde-haired HBolder (who was actually giving me a harder time than HB8....funny cause if I could have picked between the two, HB8 would definitely have been the choice). I picked some fake lint off of HB8, but it was almost so displaced that I don't think it really even registered.
Finally, I realized I was done with everything I was going to do there, so I told them I had to go call my buddy back and ejected. As I walked away, I actually chuckled at how screwed up it had turned out....but I really still felt great about it.
I think the most important thing I learned out of the whole night came from that first set....opening really is easy.
The challenge and skill comes after opening...
So I'm pretty proud of myself, and I'm still pumping on the adrenaline from the set...so I head on over to where a few of the guys are talking for a bit.
I'm chillin there for a bit, but before long I get this hey-youre-not-done-yet guilt in my head that I've only opened up 1 set...3 to go for tonight. At this point I got a text from a few other friends that they were at Fox & Hound and I should head over and meet them...it was a little tough, but I told myself 'Nah, you've got 3 more sets to go before you can leave'.
So the other 2-set that was there earlier was still at the bar. I walk up next to them, lean against the bar again, and go for the phone like i'm texting somebody.
(By the way, the go-for-the-phone-like-youre-texting seems lame to me....but I couldn't come up with any other non-creepy way to lean in and say something)
This set also has 2 girls in it.....both very attractive. The one closest to me, HBfreckles, and the one on the other side of her, HBgorgeous.
I'm looking at my phone and trying to decide if I should try the mustache opener again, or something else.
The 'do girls think david bowie is hot' line popped into my head. Having read through several examples of openers while reading stuff online, this was one of the openers I had always thought to myself 'Theres no way.......'.
However, after that last set, I was intrigued so I figured I'd try it.
Tapped HBfreckles on the arm (was careful not to be creepy, and I made sure I was still looking at my phone when she turned around)
'Hey, maybe you can clear this up....my friend, she thinks David Bowie is hot. What do you think?'
Before the previous set I would have predicted a What-The-Fuck? look from her and then she'd turn back around....but now I'm not so sure what's going to happen.
HBfreckles: "Hmm...yea, I'd say hes pretty hot"
Me: (thinking) Well fuck, what do I say to that?....
......
.."Really? Thats so weird, do you mean like David Bowie 80s or David Bowie now?"
HBfreckles: "Well I guess he was pretty weird in the 80s" (or something to that effect).
At this point, I thought I'd try a little body language test to get a feel for it, so I turn around and lean in a bit so that the back of my shoulder is facing HBfreckles, but I'm still open to HBgorgeous.
I look at HBgorgeous and go "What about you?". I guess I wasn't loud enough and she couldn't hear me.
HBfreckles leans in and says something to HBgorgeous in her ear.
At this point I thought 'Well damn, this ones over....theyre talking about how creepy/weird I am'. Granted I'm still pretty nervous, so I turn back around and go back to my phone like I lost interest in them (almost instinct...I usually tend to pretend 'it' didnt happen and try to forget about 'it' when I get embarrassed about something).
HBfreckles finishes whispering whatever to HBgorgeous and leans back into me and says 'Haha, she doesnt even know who david bowie is'.
Holy shit!? What just happened?? I thought for sure I was outta there...
I then make an attempt at a cold read:
I look up at HBgorgeous, then back at HBfreckles and smile and I say 'Yea, I could tell she was young....Shes what, 19?".
I look back at HBgorgeous and say "Tsk tsk, somebody's got a fake id. Think Ill have to confiscate that'.
She looks back at me and says "Haha, Im 23...come on."
Here's where I started to go sour:
Me: "What? no way..." (look at HBfreckles) "How old are you?"
HBfreckles: "I'm 32"
At that point I was actually shocked....she looked like 25 at most.
Me: "No way really? You look alot younger"....oops.
So at this point I can feel myself going sour, so I told them I'd see them around and ejected.
I went back over to where some of the guys were talking and briefly met a few guys who had just showed up (PicturePerfect and Lion, I think). I started talking to PicturePerfect, and he said something to another guy that I thought was kind of ironic given the situation:
"...Yea but you see, it really doesn't matter what you open with....."
It definitely made sense after the set I had just done.
Anyway, long story short I did wind up opening one more set at Sherlocks (3-set, all girls). I don't really feel like typing that one all out right now, but I got to play around a little more with opening and engaging the whole group in that set. There was one girl who started with her back to me (and wouldnt turn around even as I was talking to her friends).
At one point she snapped at something I said, so I looked at her friend (who I also noticed was throwing me a few IOIs...pretty cool thing to notice for a newb) and said 'Man, shes a feisty one huh? I dont know what I did, but can you tell her Im not into brunettes?'. This was the first time she actually turned a bit toward me and gave me a look...but I ignored her and continued talking to the 3rd girl.
I actually was able to get her to open her shoulders to me a bit more and even a few laughs by the time the set was over....sweet
I didn't make the 4th set in before I left Sherlocks. But, while I was headed over to Fox & Hound to meet up with my friends, I started to feel guilty that I didn't reach my goal, so I decided that I would just have to open a set at F&H...which I did with a lot more confidence given the previous 3 from that night.
The set at F&H was a 2-set (hb8 and her bf...ballsy, but I'm feeling pretty confident at this point).
I wound up talking to her for a good 20 minutes right in front of her boyfriend. He didn't try to interject much, so I just sort of ignored him. I think he was a little thrown that I would even try to talk to her right in front of him.
All in all, it was a pretty damn good night and I went home on a pretty good little high about it. I suppose I didn't accomplish much with regard to closing any girls, but I definitely learned alot about where I need to go next and what to work on.
All I can say is I'm pumped about heading out again next time.
-AlphaMo
I enjoyed meeting everyone this past friday, and I'm really glad I was able to make it out.
To be honest, I was a little nervous walking into taco c because I didn't quite know what to expect. The night turned out to be really fun, and I feel like I learned ALOT just having talked to and observing the other guys there.
Given that I was a little out of my element I really tried to sit back and listen more than talk, but I hope to get to know you guys a little better the next few times I can make it out.
Anyway, here's a run-down of my first night 'sarging':
(of course, I don't remember all of the dialogue word-for-word so I'll occasionally paraphrase)
On the way over to Sherlocks, I decided to set my goal of opening atleast 4 sets for the night.
So I walk in and first thing I see is Vector leaning against a table messing with his phone. I knew that if I went up and tried talking to him I'd either a) possibly screw up his game or b) get too comfortable and not go out and open sets. So I just walked past him and tried to lay low. I made my way over to one of the ledges by the bar and decided to check things out...find some potential sets.
I can see two all-girl 2-sets from where I'm standing (I noticed them first because both girls in both of the sets were atleast a 7 or higher). I thought to myself "Fuck it, if I'm going to do this, I'm going to start big...no going into the comfort zone by trying to open up some ugly set". So I completely ignore the ole 3-second rule and on my way over to the first set of girls, chicken out and turn to the bar where I order a beer.
At that point, Sleek rolled in and he came over and we chatted for a bit. After a minute or two of talking with him, the 2-set I was going to approach actually moved closer. I thought to myself...now or never, so I told Sleek I was going to give these two a shot and moved in.
There were 2 chicks in this set, one was an 8 and the other looked much older (mid-30s maybe), but a 7 at best
I opened my phone as if I had just gotten a text and, as I 'walked by' them, laughed and lightly tapped HB8 with my elbow and asked her 'Heh, would you go on a date with a guy who showed up for a first date wearing a fake mustache?'
She looked at me funny, kinda smirks and goes 'Hmmm, no. Why? Thats a weird question.'
The jist of the rest of the opener goes like this:
'A friend just shaved his mustache and now he has a pale spot over his top lip. He wants to know if he can borrow the fake mustache I have from last halloween....so what do you guys think, so I lend it to him?'
(I got this opener from the pdf field guide compilation someone posted around here somewhere about a month ago)
Here's how I started (mind you, I'm pretty nervous and my hearts racing cause I'm ready for both of them to turn away thinking im some kind of crazy freak):
'So I have this friend whos about to go on a date with this guy'
...yes, I said 'guy' without realizing it.
HBolder interrupts me and goes 'Wait, hes going on a date with a guy?'
I freak a little inside...but I think I did fairly well not to show it.
I say 'Yea, shes going on a date with this guy I know that went to Hawaii with me a few weeks ago. Anyway, he had lost a bet where he had to wear a mustache during the entire trip'
.....at this point I'm thinking to myself 'DAMMN you're smooth...keep going'
I go on about how he gets back from hawaii, shaves his stache, and now he has the pale spot. I ask again if they would go on a date like that, and they both say no.
I look at them both and say (just like the example suggests from the pdf) 'Wow, you guys are horrible friends...youre so shallow'.
Anyway, I don't really remember exactly what was said after that with all that adrenaline going, but the jist of it was that, after I opened with the mustache opener, I had no idea where to go next.....hadn't planned it, and I was too nervous to come up with something on the fly like I probably could have done if i were in a more comfortable situation.
So what did I do? I went all over the place throwing things out left and right with no order.....kinda funny in retrospect. At one point I threw out a 'I dont date blondes' disqualifier to blonde-haired HBolder (who was actually giving me a harder time than HB8....funny cause if I could have picked between the two, HB8 would definitely have been the choice). I picked some fake lint off of HB8, but it was almost so displaced that I don't think it really even registered.
Finally, I realized I was done with everything I was going to do there, so I told them I had to go call my buddy back and ejected. As I walked away, I actually chuckled at how screwed up it had turned out....but I really still felt great about it.
I think the most important thing I learned out of the whole night came from that first set....opening really is easy.
The challenge and skill comes after opening...
So I'm pretty proud of myself, and I'm still pumping on the adrenaline from the set...so I head on over to where a few of the guys are talking for a bit.
I'm chillin there for a bit, but before long I get this hey-youre-not-done-yet guilt in my head that I've only opened up 1 set...3 to go for tonight. At this point I got a text from a few other friends that they were at Fox & Hound and I should head over and meet them...it was a little tough, but I told myself 'Nah, you've got 3 more sets to go before you can leave'.
So the other 2-set that was there earlier was still at the bar. I walk up next to them, lean against the bar again, and go for the phone like i'm texting somebody.
(By the way, the go-for-the-phone-like-youre-texting seems lame to me....but I couldn't come up with any other non-creepy way to lean in and say something)
This set also has 2 girls in it.....both very attractive. The one closest to me, HBfreckles, and the one on the other side of her, HBgorgeous.
I'm looking at my phone and trying to decide if I should try the mustache opener again, or something else.
The 'do girls think david bowie is hot' line popped into my head. Having read through several examples of openers while reading stuff online, this was one of the openers I had always thought to myself 'Theres no way.......'.
However, after that last set, I was intrigued so I figured I'd try it.
Tapped HBfreckles on the arm (was careful not to be creepy, and I made sure I was still looking at my phone when she turned around)
'Hey, maybe you can clear this up....my friend, she thinks David Bowie is hot. What do you think?'
Before the previous set I would have predicted a What-The-Fuck? look from her and then she'd turn back around....but now I'm not so sure what's going to happen.
HBfreckles: "Hmm...yea, I'd say hes pretty hot"
Me: (thinking) Well fuck, what do I say to that?....
......
.."Really? Thats so weird, do you mean like David Bowie 80s or David Bowie now?"
HBfreckles: "Well I guess he was pretty weird in the 80s" (or something to that effect).
At this point, I thought I'd try a little body language test to get a feel for it, so I turn around and lean in a bit so that the back of my shoulder is facing HBfreckles, but I'm still open to HBgorgeous.
I look at HBgorgeous and go "What about you?". I guess I wasn't loud enough and she couldn't hear me.
HBfreckles leans in and says something to HBgorgeous in her ear.
At this point I thought 'Well damn, this ones over....theyre talking about how creepy/weird I am'. Granted I'm still pretty nervous, so I turn back around and go back to my phone like I lost interest in them (almost instinct...I usually tend to pretend 'it' didnt happen and try to forget about 'it' when I get embarrassed about something).
HBfreckles finishes whispering whatever to HBgorgeous and leans back into me and says 'Haha, she doesnt even know who david bowie is'.
Holy shit!? What just happened?? I thought for sure I was outta there...
I then make an attempt at a cold read:
I look up at HBgorgeous, then back at HBfreckles and smile and I say 'Yea, I could tell she was young....Shes what, 19?".
I look back at HBgorgeous and say "Tsk tsk, somebody's got a fake id. Think Ill have to confiscate that'.
She looks back at me and says "Haha, Im 23...come on."
Here's where I started to go sour:
Me: "What? no way..." (look at HBfreckles) "How old are you?"
HBfreckles: "I'm 32"
At that point I was actually shocked....she looked like 25 at most.
Me: "No way really? You look alot younger"....oops.
So at this point I can feel myself going sour, so I told them I'd see them around and ejected.
I went back over to where some of the guys were talking and briefly met a few guys who had just showed up (PicturePerfect and Lion, I think). I started talking to PicturePerfect, and he said something to another guy that I thought was kind of ironic given the situation:
"...Yea but you see, it really doesn't matter what you open with....."
It definitely made sense after the set I had just done.
Anyway, long story short I did wind up opening one more set at Sherlocks (3-set, all girls). I don't really feel like typing that one all out right now, but I got to play around a little more with opening and engaging the whole group in that set. There was one girl who started with her back to me (and wouldnt turn around even as I was talking to her friends).
At one point she snapped at something I said, so I looked at her friend (who I also noticed was throwing me a few IOIs...pretty cool thing to notice for a newb) and said 'Man, shes a feisty one huh? I dont know what I did, but can you tell her Im not into brunettes?'. This was the first time she actually turned a bit toward me and gave me a look...but I ignored her and continued talking to the 3rd girl.
I actually was able to get her to open her shoulders to me a bit more and even a few laughs by the time the set was over....sweet
I didn't make the 4th set in before I left Sherlocks. But, while I was headed over to Fox & Hound to meet up with my friends, I started to feel guilty that I didn't reach my goal, so I decided that I would just have to open a set at F&H...which I did with a lot more confidence given the previous 3 from that night.
The set at F&H was a 2-set (hb8 and her bf...ballsy, but I'm feeling pretty confident at this point).
I wound up talking to her for a good 20 minutes right in front of her boyfriend. He didn't try to interject much, so I just sort of ignored him. I think he was a little thrown that I would even try to talk to her right in front of him.
All in all, it was a pretty damn good night and I went home on a pretty good little high about it. I suppose I didn't accomplish much with regard to closing any girls, but I definitely learned alot about where I need to go next and what to work on.
All I can say is I'm pumped about heading out again next time.
-AlphaMo