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my first weekened in San Antonio=approach anxiety and first fight

PostPosted: Wed May 28, 2008 1:26 am
by Guest
Well where do I start?
1)OK its Friday night and I am calling all my friends in SA to go out.Most of them decline due to the fact that they are chodes. So I go out by myself. First the parking is weird in downtown San Antonio. You have to get there early around (9 or so) to get a parking spot but for some reason clubs and bars are freaking empty till 11! So I am sitting there with my coke and I am, literally, the only guy in there. I did make a point to make friends with the staff of clubs and bars(which literally saved my life). So I am sitting there and in two hours my state is gone and anxiety gets in. I have not gone out by myself in a long while so it was nerve wrecking for some reason.Most people that sarged with me know I do about 10-12 sets on avergae,that night I did only 3. But those 3 sets were pretty good(a chick who was by herself-50 minutes and a friendly couple-20 minutes, then some chick at coyte ugly-10 minutes).
It sucked how high my anxiety was but considering I dont drink and I was by myself I did not too bad(i mean most of my friends stayed at home).

2)Saturday night after talking to my friends who decided to chode the crap out of the remaining weekend I went out by by myself again. Again anxiety is through the roof. I did exactly 4 sets. Now I am about to leave downtown(alone and sober) I get apporached by theese 3 Hispanic dudes(in front of the bar where my new friends work);
Hispanic dude: Why the fuck are you talking to women?
Me: Why not?
HD: You are a fucking idiot, you dont use good lines.
Me:ok
Then he punches me in the face. I staggered back and the other HD flipped me on the ground. As soon as I hit the bouncer runs up to the guy that punched me and klocks his ass in the face. Crack one nose is broken.I grab the HD's(the one who flippend me ) legs and slam him on the ground( I am on his back) grab him by the hair and start hitting his head against the concrete untill he stops moving. By the time I get up the bouncer knockes the other HD out and is all smillng at me.
Bouncer:You owe me a drink for this one.

Yeah well this is my first weekend in SA.OK my question is hwo do I get rid of AA when I go out by myself?I guess the only answer is to keep going out by yourself.Man the funny thing is that 20 minutes before I get in a fight, Grimm texts me saying : Party like a fucking Mad Dog!
Eh this weekend sucked. Hey guys would you mind writing something inspirational for me I kinda need it after this past weekend.See ya all in a couple of weeks,til then take it easy!

PostPosted: Wed May 28, 2008 2:50 am
by Guest
Hey man it takes huge balls to go out to clubs and bars by yourself and to approach sober. I respect that.

I can't believe that dude hit you! I'm glad that bouncer helped you out. I can't see anything that you did wrong...it just seems like some crazy random shit.


PostPosted: Wed May 28, 2008 3:05 am
by Guest
Well the guys were pretty drunk.Way to much agression. I might have approached one of their family members or girlfriends.I have no clue and I dont care. I am just thankful I am alive and healthy. Man I am starting to miss Dallas.

PostPosted: Wed May 28, 2008 5:26 pm
by Guest
Well I'm glad they didn't get away with it.

glad you're ok too

PostPosted: Wed May 28, 2008 8:36 pm
by Guest
That sucks you got punched. It is awesome you face planted a guy into the concrete. What homos.

I think everyone here will agree it takes mucho balls to solo sarge. Most people would have just stayed home.

As far as AA understand that most people medicate(booze) to get over AA. Even some of the best PUA's out there have AA. You usually open 10+ sets a night so understand you probably have very little of it. If you do indeed have AA then on the nights you open up that many sets what do you tell yourself to achieve that number? You might find what you are looking for if you just sit down and rehash some of your successful nights.

It is so easy to beat yourself up over stuff. It is so easy to get down about just about anything. IMO you had a good weekend. I know it doesn't feel like it but you did.


PostPosted: Wed May 28, 2008 9:24 pm
by Guest
i suspect there was something more there as you said, that is really random if not.

Anyways, props for going out solo, since like others said, most wouldn't ever even think of doing that. It's interesting you actually have more AA solo, i don't know if that's other's experience as well,but I actually find that i have more AA when i'm out with people. When you are solo, you have no one judging you, preconceived notions of you, a frame of reference of how you act....alone, you literally just get to be in the moment and do whatever the hell you want.

I've seen you out... without the AA, i think it's just going to be a small flip of the switch to realize you should have even less AA being solo!