Grimm's Journal

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Or I can figure out how to point it in the right direction.

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[QUOTE=grimm1111;37415]Or I can figure out how to point it in the right direction.[/QUOTE]

Put the camera on a hat and have your target wear it. Then you can watch yourself.

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Can you wear hats at bars? I thought a lot of bars used to have a "no hat" rule. Otherwise, the hat is the way to go. Cause what I want to capture is HER reactions, like facial expressions etc.

As far as capturing my own body language - that's the blind spot, but I need to start asking my friends to critique me here.

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Here's my take. Comments, questions, concerns are welcome from all.


Things to absolutely work on:

1.) Open more sets
2.) Don't ask her questions
3.) Talk about less boring topics
4.) Do the bantering stuff much earlier
5.) Don't repeat shit
6.) Tell stories


Things done so-so:

1.) Situational Awareness (I read her body language well, until I got turned on, then I probably crowded her)

2.) Kino (as above)



Things done well:

1.) Confidence and Boldness
2.) Leading and Dominance
3.) Body Language
4.) Pushing the interaction forward
5.) Handling shit tests
6.) Handling the interrupt

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[QUOTE=grimm1111;37400]Here's the pickup in all its video-rific glory. The password is "grimm1111"

Cool. I'll leave you with that. Here's the link:

[URL]http://player.vimeo.com/video/14596488[/URL][/QUOTE]

Fucking fantastic idea. I have advocated as such to video an interaction for later break down.

I am watching this whole thing but initial thoughts .. Why isn't BR touching her and like NOW

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[QUOTE=Welsh_Dragon;37420]Why isn't BR touching her and like NOW[/QUOTE]


Yeah, after watching that video at least 4 times now, my entire philosophy regarding kino has totally changed. She needed to be touched by me in a very protective, cute, innocent way so that she knew I was not a threat. The fact that I did not comfort her with my gentleness, is that a word, made her feel even more uncomfortable with me. Shit guys, look at how she responded when I gave her a side huge...can you say glowing? But, after that, I reverted to my habitual strong body language. There is zero doubt in my mind that I need to tone it down a bit. I need for them to view me as a protector from the other men in the room, because they just met THEIR MAN...

Lesson learned.

Being big and strong is an advantage. But, it requires slightly different ways of doing things.

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[QUOTE=Bull Run;37421]Yeah, after watching that video at least 4 times now, my entire philosophy regarding kino has totally changed. She needed to be touched by me in a very protective, cute, innocent way so that she knew I was not a threat. The fact that I did not comfort her with my gentleness, is that a word, made her feel even more uncomfortable with me. Shit guys, look at how she responded when I gave her a side huge...can you say glowing? But, after that, I reverted to my habitual strong body language. There is zero doubt in my mind that I need to tone it down a bit. I need for them to view me as a protector from the other men in the room, because they just met THEIR MAN...

Lesson learned.

Being big and strong is an advantage. But, it requires slightly different ways of doing things.[/QUOTE]

Damn straight. You do that little tweak and you're going to get sick results, no doubt. I would suggest a little kino whenever you tease a girl too - just look away and touch her lightly and warmly right before you tease.

Kino in the right way, and it builds comfort.

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I'm at the airport, and I go up to the ticketing counter. There's a woman in line in front of me wearing a business suit. The teller frees up, but she doesn't move. So I touch her gently on the shoulder and am like "excuse me, are you in line?"

She looks at me, then her eyes cast downward and she doesn't speak. Suddenly, I feel attracted. I'm about to spit out a little game. Suddenly, the teller pipes up "sweetie, how old are you?"

"Fourteen"

Goo.

I laugh to myself and check in for my flight.

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[QUOTE=grimm1111;37426]I'm at the airport, and I go up to the ticketing counter. There's a woman in line in front of me wearing a business suit. The teller frees up, but she doesn't move. So I touch her gently on the shoulder and am like "excuse me, are you in line?"

She looks at me, then her eyes cast downward and she doesn't speak. Suddenly, I feel attracted. I'm about to spit out a little game. Suddenly, the teller pipes up "sweetie, how old are you?"

"Fourteen"

Goo.

I laugh to myself and check in for my flight.[/QUOTE]


The girl was 14?

Or she thought you were 14? Surely it wasn't the latter.

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She was 14.