The roller coaster of life................

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The CR James said something like this... "I Love you, and I still Love you even after everything you have done... But I don't Need you. I can do it without you and I don't need anyone else."

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You don't know how familiar that statement is to me! I've heard the I love you part and there will always be a bond there. I just haven't heard the second part of it. Maybe shes too weak to say it.

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Just make sure if you take her back that she has really worked through her issues and you're not taking her back just because you want to... the thing I'd worry about is that you take her back and get invested... then she does the exact same thing 6 months after you get back together.

Keep going out with other women and make sure she is aware of it... that you have choices and don't NEED her... that if you take her back, it's because you want to not because you can't do without her.

And if you do get back together as an actual couple, be sure and get some counseling so you don't have the same communications breakdown in the future.

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We went to Crue Fest the other night "as friends" and had a good time. I basically ran a few tests on her to see where I stood.

1. I tried a little kino on her to see if she'd reciprocate. Figured this would give me a little insight into her head on how she felt towards me. She didn't reciprocate much at all.

2. I was going to take a picture of her and I together. She about freaked out. This was very abnormal. This girl loves to have her picture taken. She was worried about where that picture might end up. That was very abnormal as well. I suspect she was worried her boyfriend might see it.

3. I asked her what the status was with her boyfriend she broke up with the week before. She said they were dating sort of. She doesn't tell her boyfriend that she hangs out with me which I think is f'd up and I don't even like the guy. She's basically cheating on him like she did me.

After I heard she was dating her boyfriend again and a few other things I figured out what I needed to know. She still has some big personal issues. I guarantee you that she'll get in tite with this boyfriend of hers and f' that up just like she did her marriage. He has less personal skills than she does.

I'm done having deep personal conversations with her. I'm not going to be her "rock" like she desires. She wants emotional support, and I want respect. She can't respect her me or her boyfriend. Basically, she has nothing to offer me.

I feel a lot better that I've come to the realization that its time to cut some ties with her. I just wanted to make sure and now I am.

Thanks guys. I hope this shit is over with her. She's not worth it. As Motley Crue says.........."Girl don't go away mad, girl just go away.

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ps. chasin' tail on the weekends like I've been doing is more fun than being married ever was. Why have just one when you can have them all?

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I think you are right about cutting ties. She is looking for emotional validation from you and is still doing the things that caused your split. In psychology, study after study has shown that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Cut this girl loose!