It is in how it is handled. I try to avoid paying but if they pressure me and I like them, I bring up the "I am wise and know where you are coming from" vibe. Let's face it, the girls are there to work. If you aren't going to pay them, they still gotta pay rent. And WILL find someone that will pay them if you don't.
So, if I like the girl and get the vibe that she is into me, I will let it be known that I am not into her for just her physical attributes and when she pressures me, will pay her for good conversation. I have even bought them a drink a time or two if my drink is empty.
It is always done with a chill vibe and not a vibe where I am trying to buy their affection. I am simply understanding they have a business to run and I am respecting their time.
It may not work for everyone and I have only field tested it a few times as I normally don't frequent strip clubs but guess that it has worked 70% of the time for me.

