Just thought this was interesting

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[QUOTE=Welsh_Dragon;36486]Bull Run: "You seem like a cool girl, we should grab a drink sometime...what's your number?"

HB Subway: "Oh, what? Well, you're totally not my type. But, you seem funny and interesting, so convince to keep chatting with you."

Bull Run: "We can chat on our date." *delivery somewhat sarcastic, emphasis on "date". EC and good BL.

Hand her your phone "Pop your number in maybe I'll give you a call". She either does or does not. Then get out of there.[/QUOTE]

Welsh, why did you suggest emphasizing the word "date?"

I always thought that this could put too much pressure on a gir, resulting in a flake, especially when insufficient comfort is built or not enough interest is generated...

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[QUOTE=Prodigy;36487]Welsh, why did you suggest emphasizing the word "date?"

I always thought that this could put too much pressure on a gir, resulting in a flake, especially when insufficient comfort is built or not enough interest is generated...[/QUOTE]

Its a kick back for her "you are not my type" comment. Not easy to read exactly what happened since I was not there, but using "date" in this context mirrors her shit in a "right back at ya" kind of way. Forces her hand. She already admitted she likes his schtick "you seem funny and interesting".

You are correct in that I probably wouldn't say it unprovoked, but it seems to fit here.

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[QUOTE=Smirks;36479]Sounds to me like she was just playing hard to get. I probably would have make a quick comment throwing the hoop back at her: "I'm funny and interesting. I've done my part. I believe it's your turn!" in a joking manner, then just cut the thread and moved on.

What you did showed that you were high value and wouldn't deal with childish shit, but it might have been a little premature. You asked her for her # at the soda fountain...that "convince me" line might have been a subtle invite to sit with them and continue the fun convo and flirting.

Just spit ballin' here.[/QUOTE]

I agree. Even if it wasn't an invitation to keep flirting, it would be good to misinterpret it as such. Like say, "yeah, I agree, I'd like to keep chatting with you too, but I don't have a lot of time right now. How do we resolve this?"

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[QUOTE=Rhody;36490]I agree. Even if it wasn't an invitation to keep flirting, it would be good to misinterpret it as such. Like say, "yeah, I agree, I'd like to keep chatting with you too, but I don't have a lot of time right now. How do we resolve this?"[/QUOTE]

Thats not forceful enough. He made his move and she said yes already (kinda) so here is my phone give me your # away we go. 50/50 she answers the text depending on how good you are and her mood etc.

Also want to point out that things you "should not say" sometimes are the best things to say. It's all situational. Obviously within reason and not being a twat.

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Pick up is intended to enrich your life, not engulf it.." Mystery.

Did Mystery really say that? What a moron he so doesn't live it.

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[QUOTE=Prodigy;36487]Welsh, why did you suggest emphasizing the word "date?"

I always thought that this could put too much pressure on a gir, resulting in a flake, especially when insufficient comfort is built or not enough interest is generated...[/QUOTE]

I agree about not using the term "date"! It comes across as just too much for a lot of these cute little kittens we yearn for. I've have 2nd and 3rd dates with girls and they referred to our 1st date as a "meet up". lol
Makes no difference to me, but it does to a lot of them. You know girls like it to be all......subtle!

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[QUOTE=UncleHOwie;36494]I agree about not using the term "date"! It comes across as just too much for a lot of these cute little kittens we yearn for. I've have 2nd and 3rd dates with girls and they referred to our 1st date as a "meet up". lol
Makes no difference to me, but it does to a lot of them. You know girls like it to be all......subtle![/QUOTE]

Its really not key to the interaction. Don't use it or do. I like the spice it adds and frankly she already peppered things up with her response anyway. I like something to show intent .. whatever you come up with off the cuff.

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Hmm. The more I think about this, I have to kind of agree with Smirks - I mean, she verbally invited you to keep pursuing her. The word I don't like from her mouth is "convince" and also the "you're not my type" bit. So I don't know if you want to call it a shit test, hoop, whatever - its all the same. We all know girls like to be chased, but if you aren't careful I really think you lose a bunch of value. I still think the best move is to steal back the chase and selection frame.

Make sure to establish that you are the selector, and she is the chaser. That is simply the most tried and true way to hanndle this.

Now if you're no longer interested and walk away, then by all means walk away. But I don't think you can say this set was done. And just remember, one way to spike your value and attraction value way up is to pass a shit test.

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[QUOTE=grimm1111;36496]We all know girls like to be chased, but if you aren't careful I really think you lose a bunch of value.[/QUOTE]

I don't understand this sentance. How do you lose value with a random girl you will never see again? Why would it matter anyway?

I mean I guess in a text book pickup sense you maybe could lose "value" but in the real world with this kind of day game I think you gain value by being forthright, esp. after her comment(s).

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[QUOTE=Welsh_Dragon;36492]Thats not forceful enough. He made his move and she said yes already (kinda) so here is my phone give me your # away we go. 50/50 she answers the text depending on how good you are and her mood etc.[/QUOTE]

You're right. I meant it as something to say with a big smirk on your face as you hand her your phone, although I did a terrible job of communicating that in text.