DT Fort Worth lastnight...

[lawdawg505]

I went downtown lastnight in Fort Worth with some guys that I work with. Of course they all want to go to the library. If any of you have been there, for a new PUA it can be a little intimidating due to all the douche bags that can be found there. (rant) Anyways, after waiting in line for five minutes or so, I go to the bar get some drinks and take a lap to see what kind of talent is there...

Nothing to special, I would say a range of HB5-HB9. The HB9s were few and far between, but fuck it. I have been working on some new stuff and so I thought I would try it out.

Open a few sets, just to get warmed up. Then that stupid song, The Cupid Shuffle (whatever its called) comes on. People start doing some sort of line dance thing. There is one HB7.5ish in there and so I join in. I had NO idea what I was doing and looked like an idiot (DLV?) I played the bad dancer card and had the HB teach me.

After looking like a dumbass I isolate her and a couple of her friends and start talking to them. When I say something, she leans closer and so I key on that and eventually she is hanging all over me.

This is where I go blank, no idea why, things were going well. She goes to the bathroom and never comes back. Im like whatever and start talking with my buddies again.

Some dudes that the HB7.5ish know come in and I get blown out. This takes all the wind out of my sails. Don't know why this froze me but it did. Probably should have befriended the guys, but I didn't feel up to it.

Let me know your thoughts...

[Smirks]

I think I was one of the guys that "blew you out." Was there a guy in a black top coat and a green shirt and messy/spikey hair? That was me!

You definitely should have befriended the guys. It just looked like you got scared off by the presence of bigger penises! lolololol jk

But seriously...that's what it'll seem like to her...and the guys.

[lawdawg505]

HAHA no I don't think you were in this group. I would have remembered the top hat.

Plus this girl was so hammered that she was bouncing all over the bar...I am not going to chase.

Perhaps it was a bad set.

[Smirks]

top coat, not hat! I'm not the freakin' cat in the hat here...

top coat == black dress-style coat.

[lawdawg505]

Oh shit my bad...haha, maybe you were in that group...

[playercool]

Getting blown out is not a bad thing.

Well it isn't bad if you remember this situation and the next time it arises you act differently.

Lesson Learned = Befriend the guys of the group

[Smirks]

The only reason I will intentionally blow guys out of a group is because it's a lession every guy needs to learn...whether they are in the community or not. It's been discussed/aruged/bitch slapped in another thread here...but you just can't ignore the guys in a grou and expect it to go over well.

I wasn't trying to be a dick, just acknowledge the guys from now on and you'll be a-okay!

[lawdawg505]

I couldn't agree more, it is in guy's best interest to at least introduce themselves.

[elitetran54]

i always try to befriend people that walk in on my set. Take charge of the situation. What i do is figure out how they all know each other.
A simple: hey how do you guys know each other.
Then i would clown on the guys for not being with any other gurls and make myself look way better.

example:
me:Dang, why aren't you guys with any other gurls. Thats messed up. If i had my gfs with me i always get them to get me more girls. You guys should go around and see who you can meet. Don't be scared!

then i would turn back to the girl and ask her if she really that much fun that her friends only want to hang out with her and not hit on any other chicks.

then follow by: i can hear what your saying and it annoying. Come with me(for isolation).

But you got to do this as soon as they try to enter the set. Waiting will only make you DLV.

[DateDemon]

The only reason I will intentionally blow guys out of a group is because it's a lession every guy needs to learn...whether they are in the community or not. It's been discussed/aruged/bitch slapped in another thread here...but you just can't ignore the guys in a grou and expect it to go over well.

I wasn't trying to be a dick, just acknowledge the guys from now on and you'll be a-okay!

Not true at all, The rule here is that you should befriend the guys if the girls are acknowledging them or if the girls look like they have some attachment to them. I have been in so many sets where I just ignored the other guys and the girls didnt care and the guys just kind of dissapeared lol because they werent in the convo at all.

Another way to combat this from happening is to start a roleplaying story with the girl. Then if other guys come up you two will be in your own world so much they will have no idea what you are even talking about to even join in the convo.

Also if the guys are AFC a lot of times you can completely blow them out while at the same time they will think you are being nice to them. lol those are the best you just killed their game and chances and they think you are there trying to help.

Also another way to combat this is to not buy drinks or become like the dancing monkey to girls. Then the girls might come back to you and get swept away by another guy when they don't want whatever your supplying anymore.