Cockblocking

[MagicBalls]

Funny thing about cockblocking. Sometimes it's obvious. Sometimes it's not.

I was doing very well today. Good 1-on-1 time with an HB9.5; headed for a guaranteed date/bridge close. Then I was blindsided.

Thing is, no one is going to come up to you and say, "I'm going to cockblock you." They might just come up and be social. They might not even be aware that they are cockblocking you. Or they might be aware of it, and just be real smooth about it.

Fact is, if you're talking and laughing with an HB9.5, and a guy comes along and interferes, he's not there because he wants to be your buddy or because he wants to gossip with the girl. He wants to fuck her, and he wants to fuck her before you try fucking her. Period. And so while the topic might be about anything, even something light and stupid or even downright weak, the subtext is always about sex.

I reacted by being social, which I think is the correct response in most cases, but I forgot two things:

1. Control the conversation.
2. Control the body language/position of the girl in relation to you and him, so that you can eventually pull her away and reisolate.

But it happened so fast, that I failed to do both. I guess you always have to remember that no matter how good it looks as you head toward the goal line, you always have to be prepared for an interference.

I think part of it also has to do with the fact that I didn't know the nature of his relationship with her, and I just assumed that it was more important or stronger than the one I had with her. This should not matter. What he had was weak, but I placed too much value on it and let him use it to keep the attention on him, while I could have transitioned to a different topic that eventually led to isolation.

This is the inner game part, where I have to remember that I have a lot of value, along with skills and talent, and that this is a competition that I should play to win. I have to focus on closing; the nature of the relationships that the target has with other men and what they have to offer her is irrelevant.

[Kalop]

I've had this happen.. sucks!

Basically you walk away and think... "Fuck, I just got out alpha'd !!"

When any guy comes in like that... what sucks is he COMES IN with more Alpha than you, according to the HB, JUST because he had the balls to come up with you and her already in a conversation. Yea? So... you have to shut him down and devalue him real quick or she's gone ! Thats been my experience.

Last time this happen (few weeks back) I immediately recognized what was occuring... Dude came in all friendly to me and sorta ignored the girl at first (probably just what I would have done)... but BEFORE he could change topics OR even address the HB... I wispered into her ear... "Hey listen, this is important... (grabbed her hand)... come over here for a sec... I have to tell you something..." then I told him... "Nice meeting ya bro... we gotta go.." and I walked off with her.. she followed !

When I get her alone again... I said... "What the fuck! You dont know that guy do you? He's been following me around all night hitting on me... I dont have anything against gay guys.. but shit.. this isnt a guy bar is it?" We both laughed and I continued on ....

Later we saw him again and he was trying to be friendly .. this time SHE took my hand and lead us both away like the guy had Ebola or something... LOL

[MagicBalls]

When I get her alone again... I said... "What the fuck! You dont know that guy do you? He's been following me around all night hitting on me... I dont have anything against gay guys.. but shit.. this isnt a guy bar is it?" We both laughed and I continued on ....

Later we saw him again and he was trying to be friendly .. this time SHE took my hand and lead us both away like the guy had Ebola or something... LOL

Haha.. Nice! I'll have to remember that one. Thanks.

Yeah, it does suck. And that's why I write, so that next time it happens, I don't even think about it: I already know that I need to act right away. I tend to internalize things much better when I reflect on them. Then I don't even have to think about it when it happens. From here on out, it's all blitz, baby.

[Suave]

Next time some dude comes into your set, you just have to give him the AMOG handshake. If you don't know what that is, definitely do your homework.

Kalop, sounds like you handled that situation lovely. Isolated the girl and devalued the guy... Good job man. I will have to remember that one if it ever happens.

[MagicBalls]

Next time some dude comes into your set, you just have to give him the AMOG handshake. If you don't know what that is, definitely do your homework.

You've obviously never shaken my hand. You see, I'm Italian. We're not babies when it comes to saying hello! lol.

The context it was in though --the shuffle of walking out of class-- didn't lend itself well to handshaking. Besides, it would have acknowledged him more than was needed and it would have been a greater distraction. I've handled cockblocking before, I just got caught off guard.