New Girl / New Lesson

[realdice]

So I opened three girls at a lunch table two days ago and took Kristin's(HB9) phone number. We had our day two at Starbucks where we connected too easily. A good date is a date that requires no routines and you just hit it off. Anyway, she comes to hang out in my dorm with her and her friend after our 2 hour conversation at the coffee shop. Things were turning out pretty well and we planned on meeting up at the Daiquiri Lounge on the next day. She and her three friends met my friends and I at the club and we danced pretty much all night. I led her some place quieter where I did the strawberry field routine (She said she put as many in her mouth as she could!). I lock eyes with her and ask if she wants to kiss me. She then tells me, "No, I feel like I'm on my death bed." I didn't get the kiss close and she and her friends left 20 minutes after.

[zine]

you guys need to stop asking for shit.. that's needy. Just do. You want to kiss her and the moment feels right don't think about it... just do!

Be a man of action not reaction.

[Sinatra]

I remember from one of the Episodes of Mysterys' where he had the men go out and get kiss close. The first one who did would be exempt.

What he said to KC was to said something like this (guys help me out here):

Me: "You know I feel like reaching over and giving you a kiss. But"
Leave the sentence hanging. Do not say another word, just look at her, and lean back with a cat who ate the canary smile.
When she ask you why not, then make up a lame excuse.
Again Guys, help me out here.

The idea here is to create sexual tension.

[Twitchy]

There are at least a dozen kiss closes in the community - find them and commit them to memory.

Eventually you will find you don't need them. Instead, you just do it with body language. In the meantime, learn the tools and crutches.

One lesson though is Never Ask for Kiss Out of Neediness!!!

Realdice, I don't think you blew it. She really probably didn't feel well. However, you now have a stumbling block you have to get past with her.

Don't bring up the denied kiss. Don't cop an attitude with her. Don't let it change one single thing with your reaction towards her. She now knows you are interested - no doubt behind that. That is a positive.

Bring her out again, amp the sexual attraction and then just go for it. Lock eyes with her, stare into her eyes, slowly move your mouth close to hers. She how she reacts when you are a man and TAKE the kiss vs. BEG for it.

If she still resists you again, then you are in the friends zone and move on. Lots of other ladies out there.....

[realdice]

There are at least a dozen kiss closes in the community - find them and commit them to memory.

Eventually you will find you don't need them. Instead, you just do it with body language. In the meantime, learn the tools and crutches.

One lesson though is Never Ask for Kiss Out of Neediness!!!

Realdice, I don't think you blew it. She really probably didn't feel well. However, you now have a stumbling block you have to get past with her.

Don't bring up the denied kiss. Don't cop an attitude with her. Don't let it change one single thing with your reaction towards her. She now knows you are interested - no doubt behind that. That is a positive.

Bring her out again, amp the sexual attraction and then just go for it. Lock eyes with her, stare into her eyes, slowly move your mouth close to hers. She how she reacts when you are a man and TAKE the kiss vs. BEG for it.

If she still resists you again, then you are in the friends zone and move on. Lots of other ladies out there.....

I don't think I've blown it quite yet. I just don't know where to go from there. I got this text message:

"I had so much fun with you. We need to hang out again sometime!"

My biggest fear is being in the friend zone. I think I'm going to lay off texting her today and ask her out for Sunday tomorrow. I just joined a Putt Putt club here on campus so I think I might have her come practice with me.

[zine]

haha your campus has a putt putt club, that's awesome.

[Strange]

HMMMM?

[Twitchy]

Glad you are still in. She probably really wasn't feeling well and wasn't in the mood to get frisky.

One thing I forgot to mention....if you reach a stumbling point (failed kiss, no return phone call, flaky date, etc.), it is not the event where you failed, it is from what you did (or didn't do) before.

If a girl is really attracted to you, she is not going to care how you kiss her as long as you try.

If she is into you, she is going to be excited that you are calling her or want to set up a date.

There are always exceptions and always will be flaky girls but in general, if you fail, look to what you did before for your sticking point.