AFC

[MagicBalls]

Despite my label here at Dallas PUA, I have no trouble admitting that I'm an AFC. Well, that's just a label, really, and labels suck. On a scale from 1 to 10 I'd say I'm a -10. Ratings suck too.

I just had some wine so please forgive my bluntness.

But you know, I was thinking, for an AFC, I haven't done so bad. I've had dates with five different girls in the past three months. That's more than in the past three years before that.

So.... what was I saying?..... oh yeah, not too bad. I was really down on myself this past weekend but today I counted and realized it's not too bad. Most important is that I'm working on my social skills and becoming more comfortable with myself and around people. And I'm still meeting new people. Last night I met an awesome waitress, an HB10, at Fox & Hound, and I felt like I've known her all my life. I think she was just a good player. You know how it is with compliance professionals. But that's ok. I can learn from that. There was an HB9 in front of the class today that sat right in front of me and kept turning around to look at me. So there's an IOI I could follow up on. Then after class I walked two girls (HB9 and HB10) to their cars and ended up talking in a circle for a little while.

My biggest problems have always been inner game. I used to shut people out in a social situation, but now I'm totally aware and in the moment. And that is cool. I think people pick up on that. Although I still fail sometimes. Saturday I must have passed up on at least four REALLY good opportunities. In one, the convo was flowing but I left abruptly. She was a young HB8 who was telling me in so many words that she like older guys. I should have number closed her.

I always think of better ways to handle a situation, or witty remarks to say after the fact. Sometimes I wish I had a "reset" button to try a situation several times until it works. Kinda like that movie Groundhog Day. I think most of the time it has to do with either lack of planning, not strategizing while things are happening, or just that feeling that I'm intruding or taking up someone's time. But I really shouldn't give a shit. And sometimes I don't. I guess it just depends on the mood I'm in and how warmed up I am. I remind myself from time to time that the game is always on. Often the best opportunities sneak up on you.

But you know, five girls... not so bad. And what they say is true. The more girls you date, the more you realize that each one has unique qualities that others don't. The more you learn about different folks, the more you learn about the different lifestyles people live. And that makes you see that you have options as far as how you want to live and experience your life.

[Dark]

Dont worry, at least your trying out there, itll get better

[Vicious]

correct me if i'm wrong here, but you do have a reset button it's called "the next set". I mean, isn't that what the game is all about, using every interaction as a learning point to figure out what to do the next time? more than just recognizing patterns in social interactions, isn't the game about learning how NOT TO FUCK UP?

[MagicBalls]

correct me if i'm wrong here, but you do have a reset button it's called "the next set". I mean, isn't that what the game is all about, using every interaction as a learning point to figure out what to do the next time? more than just recognizing patterns in social interactions, isn't the game about learning how NOT TO FUCK UP?

I've really fucked up now, man. REALLY fucked up. I got married to this 20 year old HB9 who is certifiably insane.


On facebook, that is. Hahahahaha

Sorry, I'm in a Friday kinda mood now.

Where's the Vectorama?