FR: Friday and Saturday 7-23-2010, 7-24-2010 (The beauty of asshole game…)

[Guest]

Most who know me personally on the boards will say that I am a nice guy and I wholeheartedly agree. I am generous, accommodating and even compromise my happiness for others. This has truly been detrimental to my game. Sometimes I come off as AFC or beta without even realizing it; because it’s just my nature.

This past weekend I discovered the true power of asshole game.

Last Friday, BR, Grimm and I all went out to cause some damage in Addison. As usual, sherlocks had a few hotties but not much to work with. We bounced to blackfinn. Blackfinn wasn’t much better; after walking around and a couple of failed sets, the night started to turn.

As I was standing there, a two set walks pass me. An HB 5 asian and HB6.5 brunette. The little brunette gives me an intense look, I knew she was attracted and wanted me to say hi, but I said nothing. They stopped several feet past me and we’re clearly waiting for me to open. Once again, I said nothing.

I walk off and meet up with BR and Grimm by the bar. I was facing the crowd and the two set walks pass me once more. This time, the brunette gives me a wink. I had to act. I reached out my hand, grabbed hers, and pulled her close.

Prodigy: Hey, whats up.
HB Brunette: hey..actually, we’re about to leave
Prodigy: [ignoring what she said I replied with] What’s your name?
HB Brunette: B***** [she takes a step away and I pulled her back]
Prodigy: Is that all you’re going to give me?
HB Brunette: Is that all you want?
Prodigy: [I look into her eyes for a couple of seconds, smirk and go in for the kiss. Bam. Kiss close. After the kiss, I asked her to introduce me to her friend. ] introduce me to your friend
HB Brunette: Hey, this is M*****. what’s your name? I don’t even know your name
Prodigy: I’m Prodigy. [after some chit chat I use my new favorite number close and get HB Brunette’s number]

I number and kissed closed her in less than 30 seconds using my new favorite closer. She wasn’t much of a looker but had a tight little body, just how I like it.

I texted her Saturday morning to re-initiate contact and after a brief text exchange, I end the thread. She text’s me later that night when I’m having dinner with BR and Grimm. The following is an excerpt of our conversation:

[at about 8pm]

HB Brunette: Hello
Prodigy: Oh hello.
Prodigy: What are you doing tonight?
HB Brunette: Not sure yet…what are you doing?
Prodigy: Having dinner, and then prob bar hop west village
Prodigy: You should come say hi
HB Brunette: Where is that? I just recently moved here and I’m not familiar with a lot yet
Prodigy: It’s in uptown. Lemmon and mckinney
HB Brunette: Gotcha I live off of lemmon…
Prodigy: Yea, I’ll be around there all night
HB Brunette: I am at my girls place tonight which is almost in plano. So I will let you know what we decide to do
Prodigy: Well, I’ll be in uptown

[at around 11pm]

HB Brunette: Are you going to aura?
Prodigy: Prob not, I’m at the loon right now and will prob go to social house or lemon bar next
HB Brunette: Hhmm…we have no problem getting there but we both want to drink and may need a drive home
Prodigy: Come on by
HB Brunette: Would you get us home?
Prodigy: Yea, it’ll be taken care of
HB Brunette: Where do you want us to meet you
Prodigy: Lemon bar
HB Brunette: Ok…we will be heading that way shortly
Prodigy: Blah blah blah
HB Brunette: Blah blah blah

Later that night, she meets up with me at Lemon Bar. She was pretty drunk and greets me with a kiss. For the next 20-30 mins, she grinds up on me, grabs my ass, my nuts, everything. Her BT was off the charts. We kiss, and then to my surprise, she starts making out with her friend. Then she turns her friend’s head towards mine and I start making out with her friend. Then we have a three way makeout session. Threesome is the only thing going through my mind.

Long story short, I tell them that I’m leaving. I grab HB Brunette’s hand and walk them out the door. I have a chick in each arm as we’re walking from Lemon Bar to the West Village parking garage.

HB Brunette realizes she’s not ready to go and wants to stay and dance. We get to the elevators and she does not want to leave. After a short discussion, I tell them that i’m going to go. The elevator door opens, I walk in, look at them and say:

Prodigy: I’m leaving…let’s go. [I looked at them for two seconds, they don’t walk in so I let the elevator doors close and leave without them]

That was straight up an asshole move. I told her I would take her home and left them. No ride, no cab fare; just them in the garage to find their own way home.

For the last week I don’t text her or hear from her. I’m not surprised. Fast forward to Friday and she text’s me.

HB Brunette: hey, I’m sorry about what happened last weekend…
Prodigy: haha, no worries
HB Brunette: are you out tonight?
Prodigy: blah blah blah

Well, I’ll save you the boring conversation but, the point is that I was a complete asshole, and yet, SHE apologizes and wants me to meet up with her…crazy.

Ah, c’est la vie.

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][FONT=Verdana][SIZE=2]I will start including asshole game into my arsenal. By that, I don’t mean that I’ll be an asshole just to get laid, it just means I will stick to my nuts and not compromise my happiness for those that have no value to me.[/SIZE][/FONT] [/SIZE][/FONT]

[Guest]

I love it!

But I don't think that was really an asshole move. You told them you were leaving, and that was their ride. If they want to get home, they have to leave with you, if they don't want to leave with you...then they are on their own. I think you were just more assertive, showed backbone and [B][I]indifference[/I][/B] more than being an asshole.

If you said you were going to give me a ride home, and you leave at 1 am, but I want to stay til 2 am. That doesn't really make you an asshole, you gave me the chance to leave with you, and I decided not to.

[Guest]

Great field report. I'm happy that somebody is doing field reports. I'll post some if I ever do anything interesting. Otherwise I'll have to stick to cameo roles in your fr's like "grim was standing by the bar..."

About you being an asshole, like I told you the other night, I don't think you were being an asshole. Just because you told them you'd give them a ride doesn't mean they get to decide when you're leaving. I think you just acted the way a man with balls would act, good for you. Man, it's interesting to see how people view themselves, I mean you're a nice person but I don't think you come across as a pushover.

[Guest]

You're not an asshole bro, just indifferent.

Those with little to no value to you should never dictate what you do...good for you.

Anyway, SHE SHOULD have apologized to you. She was drunk and annoying as fuck the night she showed up with her friend. As soon as they go there they had this give me attention sort of attitude. Not attractive. Obviously, I think it was a function of the booze but still. When they started demanding shit from you then they crossed the line. Like I said, she should have apologized.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Gunslinger;36979]I love it!

But I don't think that was really an asshole move. You told them you were leaving, and that was their ride. If they want to get home, they have to leave with you, if they don't want to leave with you...then they are on their own. I think you were just more assertive, showed backbone and [B][I]indifference[/I][/B] more than being an asshole.

If you said you were going to give me a ride home, and you leave at 1 am, but I want to stay til 2 am. That doesn't really make you an asshole, you gave me the chance to leave with you, and I decided not to.[/QUOTE]

agreed. with you being the ride they are functioning off your time, not theirs. always put your foot down with girls.....don't let them tell you what to do. if you say something like "im leaving" and they are not ready, to fucking bad for them.

[Guest]

Hey,
This could go either way as asshole or not... but what matters is it was effective. From my experience asshole game is more about control than it is being a dick. I have seen people just treat girls like shit and call it game... with no positive results. Your situation is a great example of standing you ground and demonstrating value with some asshole game.
You opened well... isolated, got them out the door and then they wanted to go dance. You had already said what you were going to do, and when they deviated most chumps will chase them. As soon as you do that you lose the power... you are chasing. Asshole game lets them walk away wondering why this guy just let two girls go. Some other guy would chase them around, pay for drinks, then drive them home and never get invited in... and definitely not get a call the next week. Asshole keeps control along with some intrigue and elevates value. It just has to be done judiciously.
PEACE,
C